03.04.2023 - By Linda Martinez-Lewi, Ph.D., LMFT
The narcissist is a projection machine. Rather than internalizing, introspecting or encouraging insight, the narcissist is always in the process of externalization. He/she is either basking in his perfection or plotting the next move that will weaken, topple or destroy a real or imagined enemy. Projection is an unconscious defense mechanism an individual uses to protect himself/herself from intolerable feelings of worthlessness, self loathing and forbidden impulses. The narcisssist is continually projecting his/her venom on to others. This is particularly painful and harmful to his family---spouses, partners and children. Learn to deflect the narcissist's projections. You cannot control the narcissist's impulses but you can be in command of yourself. Practice self care: rest, sleep, hydration, movement/exercise, a form of mindfulness that works for you. Learn to access the parasympathetic nervous system, tht part of yourself that is calm, relaxed and grounded. Tap into your creativity --an invaluable resource. Honor your wisdom. "He who controls others may be powerful, but he who has mastered himself is mightier still."---Lao-tsu Click the link below for my books on Amazon: https://tinyurl.com/46befxue Click the link below for the Mental Health News Radio Network. This is a global network of Shows by Podcasters on every facet of Mental Health: www.mhnrnetwork.com