Welcome to Dr Sarah: Relationship Success Lab, where high achievers, executives, and entrepreneurs explore relationship fitness, healing from relationship trauma, and creating secure, trusting, and loving partnerships. Designed for those navigating high-stakes careers and relationships, we dive into trauma-informed coaching, relationship wellbeing, and practical strategies to recover from trauma bonding and build meaningful connections. Save your marriage, start building secure relationships and optimizing your relationship wellbeing.

Have you ever questioned whether it's you who is toxic or if it's your partner?

Here are 4 simple and powerful steps to take to assess where the toxic cycles are coming from and how to end these.

1.  Ask yourself, what tendencies do you have when it comes to people or when you're around people? Are you someone who people pleases, becomes anxious about how other's view you, be the first to criticise yourself, or do you distance yourself from others?

2. How does my tendency negatively impact my happiness? For example, does my people pleasing tendency mean that although I want to make others happy, it leaves me feeling deflated, unhappy and resentful because I'm always at the bottom of the pile?

3. How does this appear in my relationship? For example, if I'm people pleasing, I always prioritise my partner and I don't say what I'm really thinking, I go along with their plans or desires, I keep quiet when they've upset me, or I have loud outbursts and we get into arguments when it's too far gone?

4. What is the next simplest and most intelligent step for me to take that would be helpful for myself, my partner, and the relationship? Would it be to notice each time I have the urge to be quiet, and instead learn communication skills so I can say something? Would it be to stop criticising myself, and recognise that I do have value, so that it is easier to hold my boundary?




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Welcome to Trauma Bonding to Secure Relationships with Dr Sarah — the podcast that helps ambitious individuals and couples heal trauma bonding and toxic relationship cycles to build secure attachments and loving healthy relationships.

Hosted by Dr Sarah, psychologist, relationship strategist, and founder of Heal Trauma Bonding and Relationship Success Lab, this show guides you through practical tools and deep insights on:

✅ Healing from trauma bonding, anxious attachment style, and codependency
✅ Building emotional resilience and secure attachment styles a
✅ Improving communication, empathy, and emotional intimacy
✅ Reclaiming your identity, boundaries, and self-worth
✅ Creating lasting relationship happiness and passion

Whether you're recovering from betrayal, navigating codependency, or simply ready to break free from the past, this podcast gives you the clarity, strength, and strategy to move forward

We hope you got massive value from this episode for your own healing and relationship progress.