Dr. Wendy Walsh on Demand

Holidays aren’t always full of joy//Stress of holidays make people’s gut health suffer and deteriorate, probiotics//family traditions differ and when you spend Christmas at in-laws the difference can be stressful or uncomfortable

75K is the Magic Income Number to Happiness // after that feel a social climbing anxiety (silver medal) always reminded don’t have enough // Lottery winners or huge inheritance – happiness doesn’t go up //unexpected income shock not measurably happier 8months later //Spend money on time, services, experiences, others

Date Safer - PHONER: Guest – Julie Nashawaty, Founder, Aste; 978-254-5482 www.aste.io
Guest – Julie Nashawaty, Founder, Aste; 978-254-5482 www.aste.io

Tips to be likeable and Make Friends //Asking questions to find common ground, ask for advice; don’t open up too much or controversial too fast (weird) //Pay attention to body language, take deep breath, be relaxed > tell stories to connect, be funny, laughter bonds, self-deprecating humor evens social playing field

Eight Relationship Myths
· Love conquers all
· Long relationships are successful relationships
· Sexual Chemistry is vital to being happy
· Never go to bed mad
· If you don’t fight your relationship is good
· Finding love will make you happy
· Never stay together for kids
· People who find love are just lucky

Hurt thoughts create hurt feelings; people look to have their thoughts confirmed by the world; story of childhood that confirms Wendy’s thoughts she is an outsider// New Years resolution = to pay attention to hurt feelings and figure out where they came from.

Seasonal Affective Disorder – loss of family connection or sense of community during holidays, alcohol exacerbates depression, withdrawal next morning and feel depressed, walk outside

Secret Lives of Super Attachers - Why is it that some people struggle with maintaining intimate relationships and others seem to skip through the decades seemingly with no trouble at all? What have they got that others don't? What do they know? What's their SECRET? Some people literally were born with a genetic advantage. But once again, remember, biology is not destiny! Here's what you need to know to make the most of love in your life.

Singlism and Matrimania. married people love to hang out with married people>excluding single people. people thinking they’re worth nothing unless married. government encouraged people to get married to try to keep single mothers off dole. single people volunteer more, have more disposable income, become caretaker of parents. be joyfully single. open up idea of way people live
Mothers, MILFs and Wives Mating Matters' look at women's reproductive choices. Women often need to face challenges of survival with children in tow, and sometimes have to make heart-breaking decisions. This isn’t new. A famine a millennium ago has become a recession and job loss today.

The importance of family/relationships/social connections especially during the holidays. anthropological past of community. reach out to find table to be at for holidays
Love is a science. relationships gymnasium for mind. Ways of meeting people>Apps// don’t have to get dressed up or spend time and money on fruitless dates. someone for every desire. Marriages have tended to last 12 years either because of death or divorce. 2-parent household is still better for kids even if parents are unhappy. The dark side of dating apps. Apps that do NOT do background checks for legal liability reasons. do a Google search on people. don’t be upset if someone asks you for some info to be able to search. if there is NO info on person, something is WRONG
Parenting – kids raised by neighborhood, internet // beware of video games – they now have chat rooms > interaction with unknown people // keep kids safe by talking to them about how games work/chat rooms/etc // app called Safe Parent – 10 question quiz // be in it and educate kid
Keeping your marriage fresh// don’t give up touch//have sex even if don’t want it//take a look at self and make sure haven’t let self go // get in different environment to break routine//give praise to remind self of love and attraction
Price of Manhood:
**Please be aware this episode contains strong language and content regarding domestic violence and sexual assault.
What does it mean to be a man? Why did uber masculine behavior evolve in the first place? Is there a mating advantage? Spoiler alert. There used to be an advantage, but the environment is changing and men are adapting to a different kind of hunting ground.

Dr. Wendy’s Top Ten Rules for a Better Life: listen more/talk less; disagree sparingly; surround self with people a little better than you somehow; induce intrinsic motivation (reward good behavior/ignore bad); don’t be afraid to follow passion and starve; better to choose basic school with good people, than fancy school with lamos; force self to do THAT task first; be judgmental and discerning; eat more veggies; do regular digital detoxes.
Dr. Wendy’s Top Ten Rules for a Better Relationship: love self first/forgive self; you define for self what works in relationships (no rules); distance self from people who hurt you; learn to communicate feelings; intimacy at least 20 mins a day – how can I help, what do you want; communication sandwich (love/criticism/love); hug for at least 20 seconds 2x/day; sit on couch together/touch/public displays of affection; fight fair (ground rules, no stonewalling); compliment partner every day!
Dr. Wendy’s Top Ten Rules for Better Parenting: 1 never lie to a child/give simple info easy to understand; 2 physical affection every day; 3 no snowplowing and console; 4 don’t be afraid to be just “good enough;” 5 model good manners and values; 6 take advantage of teaching moments while in their world; 7 logical discipline; 8 let them get dirty; 9 sometimes need to change peer group/move; 10 if have done all this, trust kid to make good decisions
Mothers, MILFs & Wives:
Motherhood is tricky. That's because motherhood is all about sacrifices and worry. Despite this, about 80% of women become mothers one way or another, and most of the others are mothers to the village. If you’re a woman, there are plenty of ways to keep your genes in evolution’s chain or raise the species as a whole.

The changing face of erotica - What happened to men's magazines? We have tips on how to get along with family this Thanksgiving. Are you overweight because your ancestors were starving? New research in obesity explains why.

Breast cancer walk update. OK Boomer! (Do you know the phrase?) Its time for a drive by / make-shift dream analysis.

Men may have invented monogamy because of concealed fertility. Dr Kevin Volkan discusses genetic sexual attraction. Can relationship skills be learned? Friends with benefits becoming form of mate assessment instead of first dating and sex later. How to offer right support to someone who is suffering mentally.

Katie Hill scandal and ethical breach. The most depressed people often live alone. Mating Matters episode 7: Survival of the Gayest.

The psychology of humor and who are funnier - men or women? Dr Jacob Appel discusses ethics of medicine. Could your fear response be connected to the bacteria in your gut?