Durable Dad with Tommy Geary

Use this podcast episode when you’re part way through any course, season, or year of your life, and you want to regroup and make the second half a win. 

It’s a strategic pause. A time to huddle at half time so you can plan out the second half and finish strong.

Currently, we’re halfway through summer – We only get 18 of them with our kids. 

And often, we let it blow by and realize we didn’t make time for most of the stuff we’d hoped to do. 

Listen to today’s episode and leave with specific tactics to follow so you can end summer (or whatever journey you’re currently in) with no regrets. 

Stop Losing Your Temper Road Map

This roadmap will teach you how to have more patience.

To give your kids more time and attention.

Anger isn't your fault, but it is your responsibility.

Learn how to manage it so it doesn't get the best of you.

https://www.tommygcoaching.com/roadmap

It feels like a reasonable thought to not want your kid to fail – To not want them to be disappointed. 

BUT, that leaves us over-advising before and after their games, and trying to minimize their crushed spirits when they lose.

Since disappointment is an unavoidable emotion, it’s more helpful to teach our kids how to manage it rather than avoid it.

Listen to today’s episode to help you lower the stakes at your kids’ games and connect with them during failure.

Stop Losing Your Temper Road Map

This roadmap will teach you how to have more patience.

To give your kids more time and attention.

Anger isn't your fault, but it is your responsibility.

Learn how to manage it so it doesn't get the best of you.

https://www.tommygcoaching.com/roadmap

The opposite of ownership is the victim mindset. 

And even the best of us slip into it sometimes.

If our kids would friggen listen. If our employee would... If the city would... If our wife would...

It feels frustrating because we want to control something that's out of our control.

Listen to today's episode to learn how to spot when you've dropped into a victim mindset, and how to step out of it to take ownership in each area of your life. 

Stop Losing Your Temper Road Map

This roadmap will teach you how to have more patience.

To give your kids more time and attention.

Anger isn't your fault, but it is your responsibility.

Learn how to manage it so it doesn't get the best of you.

https://www.tommygcoaching.com/roadmap

When it comes to our dads, I see guys fall into one of three camps:

1. My dad wasn’t around.
2. My dad was around, but he wasn’t a great dad.
3. I strive to be more like my dad.

Or maybe you’re a blend of two of the above. 

No matter which camp you fall into, that father/son relationship is driving your actions today. 

That’s why you want to take a look, and make sure you’ve got a helpful perspective fueling your decisions.

Tune into today’s episode for some tools that’ll remove blocks and drive you to be exactly the man you want to be. 

Stop Losing Your Temper Road Map

This roadmap will teach you how to have more patience.

To give your kids more time and attention.

Anger isn't your fault, but it is your responsibility.

Learn how to manage it so it doesn't get the best of you.

https://www.tommygcoaching.com/roadmap

As men, here's where we tend to get visualization wrong:

1. We don’t do it. Visualization is a powerful tool, but like a brand new drill we let sit in the unopened box, the tool goes unused.

2. We picture the past that we don’t want to repeat. The future holds every possibility. We make the mistake of narrowing it down to what happened last time.

3. We fixate on a future we're afraid of – a future we DON’T want. But like Epictetus said, “You become what you give your attention to.”

Today's epidsode of the Durable Dad podcast will teach you to visualize the future you want so you walk toward it each day rather than in the opposite direction.

Stop Losing Your Temper Road Map

This roadmap will teach you how to have more patience.

To give your kids more time and attention.

Anger isn't your fault, but it is your responsibility.

Learn how to manage it so it doesn't get the best of you.

https://www.tommygcoaching.com/roadmap

If life is a game, how do you want to perform?

And like any game, we gotta practice. 

We can’t expect to play at a high level if we don’t put in the work outside of game time. 

And it doesn’t take much. 

Here are the top 3 drills you can run that’ll allow you to win in the game of life:
☝️ BREATH WORK. It’s a quick hack to lower the intensity of your emotions.

✌️ WATCH YOUR GAME FILM. Reflect on how you want to perform differently next time.

🤟 GET A COACH. Put in one hour each week to strategize, address issues, and implement tools, and you perform better in every area of life.

Tune in to start putting in the work so you can level up your performance as a dad, husband, leader, peewee baseball coach, financial provider, whatever role you play.

Box breathing:
https://www.webmd.com/balance/what-is-box-breathing

Stop Losing Your Temper Road Map

This roadmap will teach you how to have more patience.

To give your kids more time and attention.

Anger isn't your fault, but it is your responsibility.

Learn how to manage it so it doesn't get the best of you.

https://www.tommygcoaching.com/roadmap

We’re all playing a game. 
👉 Maybe it’s the finance game. 
👉 Maybe it’s the “I’m right, you’re wrong” game. 
👉 Maybe it’s the happiness game – If I’m happy and feeling good, I’m winning.

But none of those games are the competition that really matters.

What really matters is the relationship game. 

If your marriage isn’t great, if your kids don’t want to be around you, it doesn’t matter how much money you have in the bank.

The problem is, a lot of men don’t know how to win at the relationship game. 

We learned the rules of the finance game when we were kids. But relationships? How to build trust, see the best in our kids, lift up our wife? No one taught us. Plus, it’s tougher to quantify.

Well we get to decide what success means.

Listen to today’s episode and start quantifying, tracking, and winning at the game that really matters.

Stop Losing Your Temper Road Map

This roadmap will teach you how to have more patience.

To give your kids more time and attention.

Anger isn't your fault, but it is your responsibility.

Learn how to manage it so it doesn't get the best of you.

https://www.tommygcoaching.com/roadmap

Did you know there are no straight lines in nature?

Our brains are more visually stimulated in the forest than they are in our living room. 

That’s one of the thousands of reasons it feels so friggen good to be in nature.

And the longer we’ve been in our hustle-bustle-live-inside-the-box world, the more likely we are to flip out at our kids or stress out at work.

Nature is a hack to more patience and presence in our everyday world. 

Listen to today's episode of the Durable Dad podcast and let nature take you out of your sympathetic nervous system – go-mode… and into your parasympathetic – your naturally calm state.

Your brain and body will thank you for it. 

Stop Losing Your Temper Road Map

This roadmap will teach you how to have more patience.

To give your kids more time and attention.

Anger isn't your fault, but it is your responsibility.

Learn how to manage it so it doesn't get the best of you.

https://www.tommygcoaching.com/roadmap

Psychologists describe anger as a secondary emotion. 

There’s always a primary emotion that’s driving the anger.

Picture an iceberg – Anger is just at the tip. Another emotion is beneath the surface that’s causing your anger to bubble up. 

So if you notice yourself getting triggered easily, check in to see what’s really going on. 

Here’s what most men are experiencing beneath the surface:

1. Stress
2. Shame
3. Fear
4. Sadness

Four super uncomfortable emotions that we tend to push down, causing an explosion later on with our wife or kids. 

This episode will teach you to use anger as a message – Figure out what’s really going on so you can lighten the load and be a more calm, approachable man. 

Stop Losing Your Temper Road Map

This roadmap will teach you how to have more patience.

To give your kids more time and attention.

Anger isn't your fault, but it is your responsibility.

Learn how to manage it so it doesn't get the best of you.

https://www.tommygcoaching.com/roadmap

Are you the master of your phone or vice versa?

It’s an incredible tool, but it distracts us from our kids and interrupts our productivity.

And it takes some vigilance to rise above the masses, rise above the marketing and media, so that our phones serve us rather than the other way around. 

Today's episode of the Durable Dad podcast will help you to manage your urges around your phone. 

You’ll learn to sit with that tension of hearing a text message come in without allowing it to pull you from your family. 

And you’ll set a better example for your kids… because if they don’t already have a phone, they will… 

Stop Losing Your Temper Road Map

This roadmap will teach you how to have more patience.

To give your kids more time and attention.

Anger isn't your fault, but it is your responsibility.

Learn how to manage it so it doesn't get the best of you.

https://www.tommygcoaching.com/roadmap