Durable Dad with Tommy Geary

Why would a successful man shift careers?

Maybe you want more freedom, flexibility, autonomy. Maybe you want to feel like you're making a difference – that what you're doing matters. Or maybe it's all of the above. 

Whatever your motivation, you're not alone in wanting to make career changes despite having reached certain milestones in your life.

When men feel the nudge, 4 main excuses tend to stop guys in their tracks until retirement:

1. Time.
2. Financial success.
3. Their wife may not be on board.
4. Feels too late to make a change.

Today's episode will address all four of these obstacles so you can navigate through each of them and pursue career that lights you up.

Stop Losing Your Temper Road Map

This roadmap will teach you how to have more patience.

To give your kids more time and attention.

Anger isn't your fault, but it is your responsibility.

Learn how to manage it so it doesn't get the best of you.

https://www.tommygcoaching.com/roadmap

We’re ready to hit new goals in 2025. The journey we're embarking on is an inward journey. 

Not so much a pursuit as it is an uncovering. 

Shedding some of our programing, habits and lines of thinking, in order to uncover a truer version of you. 

Personal growth is a process of peeling back protective layers. In this episode we dive into

• Exploring how goal setting can help reveal our inner selves  

• Emphasizing the difference between discovery and pursuit in personal growth  

• Identifying common fears and defensive layers that hold us back  

• Sharing practical visualization techniques for personal development  

• Discussing the balance between productivity and relaxation in achieving goals  

• Highlighting the role of trust in navigating the unknowns of growth  

If you're interested in applying the Prime 2025 process, check out our website for workshop information!

www.tommygcoaching.com

Stop Losing Your Temper Road Map

This roadmap will teach you how to have more patience.

To give your kids more time and attention.

Anger isn't your fault, but it is your responsibility.

Learn how to manage it so it doesn't get the best of you.

https://www.tommygcoaching.com/roadmap

Small talk can be draining – surface-level conversations that leave you bored or tired. 

But this episode will give you a new and valuable take on small talk.

Because if we’re only living for the big events, we’re missing out on 98% of life. The same goes with interactions with people. 

Those small, seemingly meaningless conversations are actually the glue that holds us together.

This goes for our immediate family as well as strangers and aquaintances. 

The small stuff happens to be the building blocks for the big stuff. 

Stop Losing Your Temper Road Map

This roadmap will teach you how to have more patience.

To give your kids more time and attention.

Anger isn't your fault, but it is your responsibility.

Learn how to manage it so it doesn't get the best of you.

https://www.tommygcoaching.com/roadmap

This week, we cover three Stoic practices to navigate family tension and not let it get in the way of enjoying the holidays. 

You will:

- Plan for potential difficulties so you’re not blindsided.
- Reframe challenges as opportunities.
- Accept people for who they are and love them anyway.

Listen so you can relieve tension and soak in the holidays with your fam.

Stop Losing Your Temper Road Map

This roadmap will teach you how to have more patience.

To give your kids more time and attention.

Anger isn't your fault, but it is your responsibility.

Learn how to manage it so it doesn't get the best of you.

https://www.tommygcoaching.com/roadmap

I send a weekly reflection form to my guys the day before each session – just four quick questions so they can get some insight on what's working, what's not, and what to change.

And I've noticed a pattern.

Looking back at all the answers, a lot of guys celebrate one-on-one time. 

Individual time with their wife. With their kid. With their dad or anyone they care about. That one-on-one time tends to stand out as a highlight, and something they want more of. 

This podcast talks about why one-on-one time it's so meaningful, and how to get more of it.

Because at the end of the day, or the end of your life, it's those meaningful relationships that matter most. 

And spending individual time with someone is the most effective and enjoyable way to nurture that relationship. 

Stop Losing Your Temper Road Map

This roadmap will teach you how to have more patience.

To give your kids more time and attention.

Anger isn't your fault, but it is your responsibility.

Learn how to manage it so it doesn't get the best of you.

https://www.tommygcoaching.com/roadmap

How’s your phone usage?

One guy I was working with knew he was on it too much at bedtime and that it was interfering with his sleep. 

We pulled three principles from James Clear’s book, Atomic Habits and honed in on:
1. Habit stacking
2. Environment support
3. Identity shift

Whether you’re trying use your phone less, go for a run more consistently, or drink less alcohol, this episode will help you create a plan that you can stick to. 

You’ll also avoid the obstacles that are easiest to overlook so you don’t slip back into your old ways. 

Stop Losing Your Temper Road Map

This roadmap will teach you how to have more patience.

To give your kids more time and attention.

Anger isn't your fault, but it is your responsibility.

Learn how to manage it so it doesn't get the best of you.

https://www.tommygcoaching.com/roadmap

Why do we overreact? 

Even when we know better. 

We know it’s gonna piss someone off or upset the person in front of us, but our mouth takes a mind of it’s own and say the thing anyway. 

The truth is, our brains have evolved to overestimate danger, loss, or rejection. 

We’re a lot safer and more loved than our brain lets on.

Dr. Bessel van der Kolk breaks the brain down into three parts:
The cook - takes in all the ingredients and cooks up a narrative.
The smoke detector - decides very quickly if the stress signals need to go off.
The watch tower - takes a higher viewpoint of the situation and has better discernment if the alarm signals need to go off.

The problem is, our watch tower receives the information from the cook slower, and it takes longer to process the narrative. 

The watch tower might have better judgment, but our smoke detector beat it to the punch and we’ve already lashed out.

This awareness alone can help us tune into our watch tower more readily, along with taking a look into our past to understand why the smoke detector is so quick to signal danger.

Stop Losing Your Temper Road Map

This roadmap will teach you how to have more patience.

To give your kids more time and attention.

Anger isn't your fault, but it is your responsibility.

Learn how to manage it so it doesn't get the best of you.

https://www.tommygcoaching.com/roadmap

We don't want to make decisions from a rut. And by rut, I mean anxious, bummed out, down – When things feel stagnant or even in a downward spiral.

Here are three steps to get out a rut so you can make better decisions:

Step 1: What's the worst-case scenario? Let your brain run. Speak it out loud. Write it down. What's your brain worried might happen?

Step 2: What's the best-case scenario? Let your brain dream. It would be incredible if...

Step 3: What's the most likely scenario? This is where your brain can settle. From here, you can think more logically, and make decisions from a clear-headed place. 

The truth is, you're making decisions all day every day. So if you're in a rut, it's important to address it before implementing rash decisions out of fear. 

Stop Losing Your Temper Road Map

This roadmap will teach you how to have more patience.

To give your kids more time and attention.

Anger isn't your fault, but it is your responsibility.

Learn how to manage it so it doesn't get the best of you.

https://www.tommygcoaching.com/roadmap

Are you making things more difficult for yourself?

Whether life feels pretty normal, or if you’re going through a rough patch, here’s an equation that’ll make things easier for you:

Suffering = Pain x Resistance

In other words, the more you resist the hard, the more you suffer.

Conversely, the more you embrace the “suck,” the easier things will flow for you. 

Listen to today’s episode to learn exactly how to open up to the pain and stop making life harder than it needs to be. 

Stop Losing Your Temper Road Map

This roadmap will teach you how to have more patience.

To give your kids more time and attention.

Anger isn't your fault, but it is your responsibility.

Learn how to manage it so it doesn't get the best of you.

https://www.tommygcoaching.com/roadmap

We all have a default mode of operating – Our general disposition.

Maybe it’s intense go-go mode, or more of a slow, steady, calm mode. 

The important thing to remember is that we get to control our mode. 

It’s not hardwired. 

You’re in the driver seat and your hand is on the gear shifter.

Being self-led means shifting down or up for the appropriate situations. 

4th gear isn’t helpful while parenting or during an argument. 1st gear isn’t helpful when it’s time to work out or close a deal.

And sometimes, the most helpful gear we can put it in is park. To reset so we we can shift up from there. 

Listen to today’s episode to learn why it all starts with presence. That’s how we access the self and become aware of what gear we’re currently in and what gear will be most helpful for the existing situation. 

Stop Losing Your Temper Road Map

This roadmap will teach you how to have more patience.

To give your kids more time and attention.

Anger isn't your fault, but it is your responsibility.

Learn how to manage it so it doesn't get the best of you.

https://www.tommygcoaching.com/roadmap