Durable Dad with Tommy Geary

Feeling behind leads to reactive days, scattered focus, and that constant low-level stress that won’t let up. This episode breaks down a real-world strategy to reset that cycle and get back in control.

Inside, you’ll hear how one executive went from spiraling through stress to calmly attacking his day—by shifting his mindset and using a simple 4-step planning process.

This isn’t about hustle or hacks. It’s about getting grounded, clear, and intentional when life is full.

What you’ll learn:

• How your thoughts shape your productivity
• A proven planning method to calm your mind
• Why stress lingers without a clear path forward

Stop Losing Your Temper Road Map

This roadmap will teach you how to have more patience.

To give your kids more time and attention.

Anger isn't your fault, but it is your responsibility.

Learn how to manage it so it doesn't get the best of you.

https://www.tommygcoaching.com/roadmap

Most high-performing men pride themselves on staying calm, staying positive, and getting through hard stuff fast. But when your wife is upset, that instinct to cheer her up or look on the bright side is doing more harm than good.

In this episode, we talk about why emotional reflexes—though well-intended—can actually push your partner away.

We’ll cover:

• Why men shut down or push past emotions—and how that breaks connection
• How the habit of fixing or reframing keeps you from being present
• What emotional strength actually looks like in a relationship

Your version of “being strong” cannot involve skipping over sadness, worry, or fear. 

Stop Losing Your Temper Road Map

This roadmap will teach you how to have more patience.

To give your kids more time and attention.

Anger isn't your fault, but it is your responsibility.

Learn how to manage it so it doesn't get the best of you.

https://www.tommygcoaching.com/roadmap

Lots of guys are wired to push—at work, in training, and for your family. But the real challenge isn’t pushing harder… it’s knowing when to pause.

In this episode, we unpack what it actually means to do the hard thing as a high-performing man. It’s not just finishing a Spartan race. It’s staying calm with your kids. It’s being present at a family event you’d rather skip. It’s learning how to quiet the part of you that always wants to go.

Highlights:

• Why the “grind” mindset stops working at home
• The difference between achievement and presence
• A client’s insight on what’s really hard as a dad
• How to access the calm, grounded version of yourself
• A guided 5-minute practice you can use anytime

Take Action:

Try the meditation. It’s 5 minutes. It could change how you show up tonight at dinner.

Stop Losing Your Temper Road Map

This roadmap will teach you how to have more patience.

To give your kids more time and attention.

Anger isn't your fault, but it is your responsibility.

Learn how to manage it so it doesn't get the best of you.

https://www.tommygcoaching.com/roadmap

The real reason most high-achieving men feel behind: they’re busy, but not productive.

In this episode, we share how to use the Eisenhower Matrix to stop the overwhelm and start making real progress—in business, relationships, and training. This quick mindset and strategy shift will help you get clear on what actually matters.

Highlights:

• Why “busy” doesn’t mean productive
• Four types of tasks and how to categorize them
• The easiest way to clean up your to-do list
• Where real growth happens (hint: it’s not in your inbox)
• Adventure update: Rim-to-Rim hike training recap

Grab your to-do list. Take 10 minutes. Categorize everything. You’ll walk away with a sharper focus and more peace of mind.

Stop Losing Your Temper Road Map

This roadmap will teach you how to have more patience.

To give your kids more time and attention.

Anger isn't your fault, but it is your responsibility.

Learn how to manage it so it doesn't get the best of you.

https://www.tommygcoaching.com/roadmap

Our kids are watching. 

In this ep we cover five essential things our kids should witness their dad doing. 

1. Apologize and admit you're wrong.
2. Let them catch you reading instead of scrolling on your phone.
3. Speak kindly about people. Don't gossip or talk low of someone behind their back. (Or to their face.)
4. Respect your wife – Don't talk condescendingly to her or about her.
5. Ask for help.

To learn about upcoming outdoor adventure trips with Tommy, go to tommygcoaching.com and join the email list for announcements about new challenges beyond the sold-out Grand Canyon trip.

Stop Losing Your Temper Road Map

This roadmap will teach you how to have more patience.

To give your kids more time and attention.

Anger isn't your fault, but it is your responsibility.

Learn how to manage it so it doesn't get the best of you.

https://www.tommygcoaching.com/roadmap

Ever been ready to relax after a long day at work, but your wife is stressed and so there’s tension in the house for everyone?

It’s tempting to tell her to calm down. Chill out. Explain that mud on the carpet isn’t a big deal. But usually this ends up in a full-blown argument.

In today's episode, you'll dive into the 3G Model to help you respond in a way that actually strengthens your relationship. Here's what you'll learn:

1️⃣ Grrrr Mode – You snap back when she snaps at you. Not pretty.

2️⃣ Guarded Helper – You help around the house, but keep a safe distance, hoping the storm passes.

3️⃣ Grounded Husband – You get curious, check in with her, and show her you're on the same team.

Think of it like climbing a ladder. The higher you go, the stronger your connection with your wife—and the better your relationship. 

When you level up your marriage, you level up in EVERY area of life.

Stop Losing Your Temper Road Map

This roadmap will teach you how to have more patience.

To give your kids more time and attention.

Anger isn't your fault, but it is your responsibility.

Learn how to manage it so it doesn't get the best of you.

https://www.tommygcoaching.com/roadmap

Have you ever asked your wife, "What can I do to help?" during chaos in the home? 

There's a good chance the question increased her stress level rather than reduced it.

Our wife needs us to think, not just do. 

When men don't absorb some of the mental load that comes with leading a family, resentment builds up.

Today's episode will leave you with two main actions that'll help remove pressure from your wife's plate:

1. Step into the CEO role so you can be strategic and proactive.

2. Initiate the "Fair Play" conversation so you can run the household as a team.

Tune in to take on your share of responsibilities so your wife feels supported and the house feels more peaceful. 

Stop Losing Your Temper Road Map

This roadmap will teach you how to have more patience.

To give your kids more time and attention.

Anger isn't your fault, but it is your responsibility.

Learn how to manage it so it doesn't get the best of you.

https://www.tommygcoaching.com/roadmap

We all have past decisions that make us cringe. Things we'd do differently the second time around, given the chance. 

But if we don't make peace with those decisions, they'll cause us to procrastinate and overanalyze our decisions today.

They'll make a dent in our confidence and lead us to subconsciously question ourselves when we have a big decision on our plate.

You'll leave this ep with three steps that'll help you make peace with your past decisions so you can be a confident decision-maker today:

1. Awareness – ID the regrets that bubble up when you notice yourself overanalyzing.

2. Language – Stop trying to make the "right" decision and instead work towards the best decision, given your circumstance, information, situation.

3. Confidence – Recognize that you're not perfect, and you're still you can still hold yourself in high regard. You'll make mistakes, and you'll recover

Tune in to learn how to free yourself from past choices and confidently make decisions in the present.

Stop Losing Your Temper Road Map

This roadmap will teach you how to have more patience.

To give your kids more time and attention.

Anger isn't your fault, but it is your responsibility.

Learn how to manage it so it doesn't get the best of you.

https://www.tommygcoaching.com/roadmap

Short days, long nights, viruses, and temps in the teens. A lot of guys are feeling weighed down or trapped at this stage in winter.

It's an I-gotta-get-out-of-here feeling and it doesn't jive well with our spouse and kids. 

Today's episode will leave you with four actionable takeaways that'll zap the cabin fever feeling:

1. Put on the proper gear and get outdoors.

2. Declutter or tackle a project.

3. Change your language because your language defines your experience in the world.

4. Work with your wife to carve out some solo time.

And please excuse the cries in the background inserted by my two-year-old as an enhancement to the overall trapped indoors with kids ambiance. 🙃

Stop Losing Your Temper Road Map

This roadmap will teach you how to have more patience.

To give your kids more time and attention.

Anger isn't your fault, but it is your responsibility.

Learn how to manage it so it doesn't get the best of you.

https://www.tommygcoaching.com/roadmap

At some point, in the next 365 days, your wife will have a birthday. 

And for men, this day can weigh on us. What will you get her? What will you do together? How will you make it a great day for her?

Thoughtful decisions to be made that we don't have time for.

Today's episode will take the pressure off so the birthday planning doesn't wear you down and your wife knows you care.

You'll walk away with 3 new strategies that make birthdays seamless:

- Keep an ongoing gifts list.

- Use your calendar so you're not surprised.

- Set yourself up with action steps two months out.

Bonus - These steps can be used for any situation where you're feeling the pressure.  Plan ahead and set your future-self up for an easier ride. 

Finally, if you're ready to tackle a big challenge this year the Grand Canyon Rim-to-Rim Adventure happening in October 2025.

Stop Losing Your Temper Road Map

This roadmap will teach you how to have more patience.

To give your kids more time and attention.

Anger isn't your fault, but it is your responsibility.

Learn how to manage it so it doesn't get the best of you.

https://www.tommygcoaching.com/roadmap