Ever been ready to relax after a long day at work, but your wife is stressed and so there’s tension in the house for everyone?

It’s tempting to tell her to calm down. Chill out. Explain that mud on the carpet isn’t a big deal. But usually this ends up in a full-blown argument.

In today's episode, you'll dive into the 3G Model to help you respond in a way that actually strengthens your relationship. Here's what you'll learn:

1️⃣ Grrrr Mode – You snap back when she snaps at you. Not pretty.

2️⃣ Guarded Helper – You help around the house, but keep a safe distance, hoping the storm passes.

3️⃣ Grounded Husband – You get curious, check in with her, and show her you're on the same team.

Think of it like climbing a ladder. The higher you go, the stronger your connection with your wife—and the better your relationship. 

When you level up your marriage, you level up in EVERY area of life.

Have you ever asked your wife, "What can I do to help?" during chaos in the home? 

There's a good chance the question increased her stress level rather than reduced it.

Our wife needs us to think, not just do. 

When men don't absorb some of the mental load that comes with leading a family, resentment builds up.

Today's episode will leave you with two main actions that'll help remove pressure from your wife's plate:

1. Step into the CEO role so you can be strategic and proactive.

2. Initiate the "Fair Play" conversation so you can run the household as a team.

Tune in to take on your share of responsibilities so your wife feels supported and the house feels more peaceful. 

We all have past decisions that make us cringe. Things we'd do differently the second time around, given the chance. 

But if we don't make peace with those decisions, they'll cause us to procrastinate and overanalyze our decisions today.

They'll make a dent in our confidence and lead us to subconsciously question ourselves when we have a big decision on our plate.

You'll leave this ep with three steps that'll help you make peace with your past decisions so you can be a confident decision-maker today:

1. Awareness – ID the regrets that bubble up when you notice yourself overanalyzing.

2. Language – Stop trying to make the "right" decision and instead work towards the best decision, given your circumstance, information, situation.

3. Confidence – Recognize that you're not perfect, and you're still you can still hold yourself in high regard. You'll make mistakes, and you'll recover

Tune in to learn how to free yourself from past choices and confidently make decisions in the present.

Short days, long nights, viruses, and temps in the teens. A lot of guys are feeling weighed down or trapped at this stage in winter.

It's an I-gotta-get-out-of-here feeling and it doesn't jive well with our spouse and kids. 

Today's episode will leave you with four actionable takeaways that'll zap the cabin fever feeling:

1. Put on the proper gear and get outdoors.

2. Declutter or tackle a project.

3. Change your language because your language defines your experience in the world.

4. Work with your wife to carve out some solo time.

And please excuse the cries in the background inserted by my two-year-old as an enhancement to the overall trapped indoors with kids ambiance. 🙃

At some point, in the next 365 days, your wife will have a birthday. 

And for men, this day can weigh on us. What will you get her? What will you do together? How will you make it a great day for her?

Thoughtful decisions to be made that we don't have time for.

Today's episode will take the pressure off so the birthday planning doesn't wear you down and your wife knows you care.

You'll walk away with 3 new strategies that make birthdays seamless:

- Keep an ongoing gifts list.

- Use your calendar so you're not surprised.

- Set yourself up with action steps two months out.

Bonus - These steps can be used for any situation where you're feeling the pressure.  Plan ahead and set your future-self up for an easier ride. 

Finally, if you're ready to tackle a big challenge this year the Grand Canyon Rim-to-Rim Adventure happening in October 2025.

Why would a successful man shift careers?

Maybe you want more freedom, flexibility, autonomy. Maybe you want to feel like you're making a difference – that what you're doing matters. Or maybe it's all of the above. 

Whatever your motivation, you're not alone in wanting to make career changes despite having reached certain milestones in your life.

When men feel the nudge, 4 main excuses tend to stop guys in their tracks until retirement:

1. Time.
2. Financial success.
3. Their wife may not be on board.
4. Feels too late to make a change.

Today's episode will address all four of these obstacles so you can navigate through each of them and pursue career that lights you up.

We’re ready to hit new goals in 2025. The journey we're embarking on is an inward journey. 

Not so much a pursuit as it is an uncovering. 

Shedding some of our programing, habits and lines of thinking, in order to uncover a truer version of you. 

Personal growth is a process of peeling back protective layers. In this episode we dive into

• Exploring how goal setting can help reveal our inner selves  

• Emphasizing the difference between discovery and pursuit in personal growth  

• Identifying common fears and defensive layers that hold us back  

• Sharing practical visualization techniques for personal development  

• Discussing the balance between productivity and relaxation in achieving goals  

• Highlighting the role of trust in navigating the unknowns of growth  

If you're interested in applying the Prime 2025 process, check out our website for workshop information!

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Small talk can be draining – surface-level conversations that leave you bored or tired. 

But this episode will give you a new and valuable take on small talk.

Because if we’re only living for the big events, we’re missing out on 98% of life. The same goes with interactions with people. 

Those small, seemingly meaningless conversations are actually the glue that holds us together.

This goes for our immediate family as well as strangers and aquaintances. 

The small stuff happens to be the building blocks for the big stuff. 

This week, we cover three Stoic practices to navigate family tension and not let it get in the way of enjoying the holidays. 

You will:

- Plan for potential difficulties so you’re not blindsided.
- Reframe challenges as opportunities.
- Accept people for who they are and love them anyway.

Listen so you can relieve tension and soak in the holidays with your fam.

I send a weekly reflection form to my guys the day before each session – just four quick questions so they can get some insight on what's working, what's not, and what to change.

And I've noticed a pattern.

Looking back at all the answers, a lot of guys celebrate one-on-one time. 

Individual time with their wife. With their kid. With their dad or anyone they care about. That one-on-one time tends to stand out as a highlight, and something they want more of. 

This podcast talks about why one-on-one time it's so meaningful, and how to get more of it.

Because at the end of the day, or the end of your life, it's those meaningful relationships that matter most. 

And spending individual time with someone is the most effective and enjoyable way to nurture that relationship.