Durable Dad with Tommy Geary

The top three lies men tell themselves:
1. It’s no big deal
2. I’m confident
3. I’m grateful

All of these thoughts seem helpful. 

All of them ARE helpful if we believe it. 

But sometimes deep down, what actually feels true is:
1. I’m having a hard time.
2. I’m scared
3. I’m suffering

When we brush our struggles under the rug, they keep us stuck. 

Rather than breeze over them, we want to face the music. 

Acknowledge what’s actually true for us so we can address it and move past it.

This episode will teach you how to ID the lies you’re telling yourself so you can unearth the truth and move forward. 

References: 
Joe Dispenza: https://a.co/d/6YoV4gF
Andrew Huberman on Fear: https://youtu.be/31wjVhCcI5Y?si=-nCL5J1aakHsULgC

Stop Losing Your Temper Road Map

This roadmap will teach you how to have more patience.

To give your kids more time and attention.

Anger isn't your fault, but it is your responsibility.

Learn how to manage it so it doesn't get the best of you.

https://www.tommygcoaching.com/roadmap

How do we handle someone who’s pissed off?

We don’t want to shut down
And we don’t want to mirror their anger. 

That just escalates things.

The antidote to another person’s anger is curiosity. 🔦💡

Curiosity about yourself and what you’re feeling in that moment. Noticing your emotions will loosen the grip they have on you.

And then curiosity about the other person. You want to seek a genuine understanding of what they’re thinking. 

There's an art to keeping cool amidst another's anger, but it's also a super-power in keeping all situations productive and forward-moving.

Stop Losing Your Temper Road Map

This roadmap will teach you how to have more patience.

To give your kids more time and attention.

Anger isn't your fault, but it is your responsibility.

Learn how to manage it so it doesn't get the best of you.

https://www.tommygcoaching.com/roadmap

Does your job define you? Who are you without your job? It's easy for men to get convoluted on their worthiness outside of their job. But when we're able to separate ourselves and understand that our career is independent from our identity, we're able to approach problems at work with a stoic, clear head. We don't take feedback personally. We don't allow projects to interfere with our family life. And we don't lose sleep due to work stress. 

Stop Losing Your Temper Road Map

This roadmap will teach you how to have more patience.

To give your kids more time and attention.

Anger isn't your fault, but it is your responsibility.

Learn how to manage it so it doesn't get the best of you.

https://www.tommygcoaching.com/roadmap

Viktor Frankl's book, Man’s Search for Meaning, gives a different perspective on the question we ask all the time. 

I think I had this idea that I’d read the book and have all the big answers.

But it’s actually a lot easier than that. 

Frankl said that, “Man should not ask what is the meaning of his life, but rather he must recognize that it is he who is asked.”

Because we create our meaning. And according to logo therapy, we can do that:

• By creating a work or doing a deed. 
• By experiencing something or encountering someone. 
• By the attitude that we take toward unavoidable suffering.

Join me as we break it down in this episode so you can avoid what Frankl calls the “existential vacuum.” That what’s the point feeling dads get when overwhelm and stress pile up.

Stop Losing Your Temper Road Map

This roadmap will teach you how to have more patience.

To give your kids more time and attention.

Anger isn't your fault, but it is your responsibility.

Learn how to manage it so it doesn't get the best of you.

https://www.tommygcoaching.com/roadmap

What do you do with a comment that catches you off guard? One that really throws you for a loop? Some of us might lash out. Say something we later regret. Or we might freeze and wish we said something after the fact. But there's a third option that allows us to respond from a place of calm wisdom.

There are 2 things we can do to make sure we're caught off guard less often so we can act in a measured way more often:
1. Don't expect a perfect scenario
2. Learn to only care about the important things.

I cover both of these in detail in today's episode. You'll gain access to the part of you that doesn't get triggered easily. Who can roll with the punches without getting walked on. Tune in to respond better to your kids, your coworkers, and your wife when something unexpected gets thrown your way.

Stop Losing Your Temper Road Map

This roadmap will teach you how to have more patience.

To give your kids more time and attention.

Anger isn't your fault, but it is your responsibility.

Learn how to manage it so it doesn't get the best of you.

https://www.tommygcoaching.com/roadmap

Embracing hardship is a non-negotiable part of life. We can quit on our goals and tell ourselves we're choosing the "easy path," but there's a sneaky hard in quitting – staying exactly where you are. 

As the specter of National Quitters Day looms, I tackle the temptation to join the ranks of those who've let go of their aspirations. This episode is an unflinching look at why the reward of personal growth is always worth the sweat and tears. So, gear up for a discussion that promises to keep you motivated and committed to your path, no matter how rocky it gets.

Stop Losing Your Temper Road Map

This roadmap will teach you how to have more patience.

To give your kids more time and attention.

Anger isn't your fault, but it is your responsibility.

Learn how to manage it so it doesn't get the best of you.

https://www.tommygcoaching.com/roadmap

What better topic to discuss at the start of the new year than your death? :) Nothing, you'll come to learn, will ignite change and ruthless prioritization better than remembering your inevitable death. Join me in the exploration of the ancient practice of Momento Mori, and why it's so powerful to keep the end of your life top of mind. This episode promises to reshape your perspective and equip you with the philosophical toolkit needed for a more meaningful, intentional year ahead.

Stop Losing Your Temper Road Map

This roadmap will teach you how to have more patience.

To give your kids more time and attention.

Anger isn't your fault, but it is your responsibility.

Learn how to manage it so it doesn't get the best of you.

https://www.tommygcoaching.com/roadmap

Joy is like happiness on steroids. Most men would like more of it in their lives, but it's not a topic we talk about a lot.

Here's 4 ways to conjure up and spread some joy. Happy Holidays!

Stop Losing Your Temper Road Map

This roadmap will teach you how to have more patience.

To give your kids more time and attention.

Anger isn't your fault, but it is your responsibility.

Learn how to manage it so it doesn't get the best of you.

https://www.tommygcoaching.com/roadmap

Today we're going to talk about doing year-end reviews.

A lot has happened over the last 365 days and we don't want to just move forward without getting some of that knowledge and wisdom and bringing it with us into the new year.

We answer what is a year-end review and  the effect it has on our mindset.

It doesn't matter if you crushed 2023 or if is was a rough year, you'll learn why a year-end review will propel you into positive change for 2024.

Want a step by step process, check out The Year-End Review -  www.thedurabledad.com/year-end
 

Stop Losing Your Temper Road Map

This roadmap will teach you how to have more patience.

To give your kids more time and attention.

Anger isn't your fault, but it is your responsibility.

Learn how to manage it so it doesn't get the best of you.

https://www.tommygcoaching.com/roadmap

Have you ever asked yourself, "What makes a good dad?"  No being a hot head and... what else? 

On this episode of the Durable Dad we go on the journey of defining a path in fatherhood.

We also dive into the depths of growth, both physical and emotional, as an integral part of parenthood. From pushing our children to develop holistically, teaching them kindness, patience, and respectfulness. And yes, we talk about how leading by example sometimes trumps instruction. But it's not all serious, so sit back and listen to remind yourselves to cherish the humorous side of fatherhood. 

Whether you're brand new to the dad club, a seasoned parent, or somewhere in between, this episode promises to offer a fresh perspective on the art of being a good dad.

Stop Losing Your Temper Road Map

This roadmap will teach you how to have more patience.

To give your kids more time and attention.

Anger isn't your fault, but it is your responsibility.

Learn how to manage it so it doesn't get the best of you.

https://www.tommygcoaching.com/roadmap