The Art Of Coaching

E388 | How to Deal with Haters


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Have you ever gotten a negative review on something you've made or your business?

Received a one-star rating?

Dared to venture into the comment section—or worse—overheard someone trashing your work?

It’s a law of the universe: haters are inevitable the moment you take a stance, make yourself visible, or grow in ways that challenge others' comfort or self image.

In reality, most hate isn’t really about you. It’s what you represent.

You’re the one who took the risk.

You’re being seen. 

You’re being recognized.

And that shakes the stands they’re still sitting in—watching, critiquing, but never stepping foot in the arena themselves.

This episode will help you separate noise from feedback, ugliness from something worth reflecting on, and how to tell when criticism should be used as locker room motivation—or ignored entirely.

In today’s show, Brett will address this long overdue and fascinating case study in human nature, and cover:

  • The deeper reasons people lash out—and what it has to do with power and control
  • Why some criticism feels louder than it is—and how it spreads through social currency
  • How to filter what deserves reflection vs what’s just emotional noise
  • When to use negativity as fuel—and when to let it die in silence
  • Why consistency outlasts every critic—and what happens when you fade with them
  • If you’ve ever found yourself doubting what you’re doing because of someone’s throwaway comment...

    Or if you’ve ever wondered whether to clap back, make adjustments, or just put your head down and move forward—this one’s for you.

    Whether you love the episode or hate it (see what we did there), we love hearing from you. If you have any questions you’d like answered or want to hear more about a certain topic, shoot us an email at [email protected].   

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    Related Episodes:

    E387 | How to Deal With Defensive People Who Project

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