People who identify as empaths have commonly grown up in environments characterized by criticism, judgment, aggression, and threats. These experiences have led them to prioritize others and work tirelessly to ensure their happiness, often neglecting their own needs in the process. This subconscious programming takes root during childhood. When entering relationships, empaths continue to prioritize others while suppressing their own needs, perceiving others' needs as a reflection of their own. Consequently, narcissists, who crave being the center of attention, become an alluring match for empaths.

The attraction between empaths and narcissists operates at a deep, subconscious level, even if it may not appear logical. This dynamic emerges due to the ingrained belief that one's own safety and well-being depend on meeting the needs of others. Within these relationships, trauma bonding and a loss of self can occur as empaths tirelessly strive to please their partners, enduring criticism and doubt. They often find themselves trapped in a cycle of self-blame and self-criticism, as their self-worth becomes intertwined with external validation.

To break free from this pattern, therapy and introspection are valuable resources. By engaging in therapy, individuals can gain a deeper understanding of their subconscious needs and work towards prioritizing their own well-being. Engaging in self-reflection enables individuals to identify the pain they wish to overcome and the experiences they aspire to attain. By fostering self-awareness and setting boundaries, people can gradually shift the trajectory of their lives and cultivate healthier relationships.

Ultimately, through therapy and self-discovery, individuals can regain a sense of autonomy, reclaim their own needs, and establish healthier relationship dynamics. It is a transformative journey that empowers individuals to break free from toxic patterns and cultivate fulfilling connections with others.

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