Today we're diving into a topic that's close to the hearts of many families navigating ADHD: oppositional behaviours in children. Joining us is Jacquie Ward, a psychologist specialising in challenging behaviours.

In this episode, Jacquie shares her personal experiences as a mother to a child with ADHD. We explore the world of oppositionality and defiance, from swearing and verbal aggression to physical altercations and public meltdowns. Why do these behaviours happen, and how can parents navigate them?

We also discuss society’s perception of these behaviours, often met with judgment rather than compassion, and the long-term strategies families can use to support their children. Jacquie brings a wealth of knowledge on emotion regulation and offers practical advice, including grounding techniques, co-regulation approaches, and meaningful ways to connect with your child after a dysregulation episode.

Timestamps:

00:00 Discussing oppositional behaviors with psychologist Jackie Ward.
04:43 Parents seek help for children's emotion regulation.
08:17 Some kids get more compassion than others.
10:01 Shame in ADHD children causes significant pain.
14:30 Children's defiance or aggression signifies underlying fear.
16:50 Discuss calmly with your child when appropriate.
22:26 Discuss Dr. Mona Delahooke's work on challenging behaviors.
23:13 Challenging behaviors stem from nervous system dysregulation.
27:53 Parents need strategies to model emotional regulation.
30:19 Stay grounded; handle it with love.
36:08 Long-term skills are better than short-term consequences.
36:58 Support child regulation, not just correcting behavior.
40:21 Share, review, and enjoy ADHD Families podcast.

About Jacquie:
Jacquie Ward is a Psychologist who works with children, adolescents and their families. She works with a range of presentations, including Autism, Anxiety, Depression, challenging and disruptive behaviours, but has a particular interest in ADHD, as she's Mama to one very adorable ADHD'er herself.

Outside of the therapy room Jacquie can be found chasing her three young children at the beach, daydreaming about buying a hobby farm, or escaping to yoga class for a hit of peace amongst the happy chaos.

Link to buy Jacquie's book: https://www.jacquieward.com.au/billys-brilliant-butterflies-childrens-book

Connect with Jacquie:
Instagram: @jacquie_ward_
Facebook: Jacquie Ward
Website: www.jacquieward.com.au