Every week in my support group, parents share the same quiet ache — they wish they had people in their lives who actually got them. They feel lonely. And they're often so busy supporting their child's social struggles that their own go unspoken.
This episode is for you. The parent. The adult.
I am joined by Caroline Maguire (M.Ed, ACCG, PCC)— ADHD coach, social emotional learning expert, and author of Friendship Skills for Neurodivergent Adults — for one of the most honest and relieving conversations the ADHD Families Podcast has had.
✨ About the Guest:
Caroline Maguire (M.Ed, ACCG, PCC) is an ADHD coach, social emotional learning expert, author, and speaker who has spent over a decade researching how neurodivergent adults experience friendship and belonging. Her book Friendship Skills for Neurodivergent Adults is the first written by a neurodivergent person, for a neurodivergent audience — practical, research-backed, and deeply human. She is also the host of the new podcast Your ADHD Social Playbook and has a TEDx Talk available on YouTube.
👀 In This Episode, Sharon Covers:
Why adult friendship is genuinely harder — and why that is not your faultThe worldwide loneliness epidemic and why ADHD adults feel it more acutelyWhy proximity is the single biggest factor in making friends — and how ADHD gets in the wayThe radical reframe: friendship is a learnable skill, not a personality traitThe hidden cost of masking — and what it is doing to your energy and mental healthThe Flavours of Friendship — a framework for understanding different levels of connectionWhy ADHD adults mistake acquaintances for close friends — and the hurt that followsInfo dumping, oversharing, going quiet: separating shame from skill buildingHow to move someone from acquaintance to actual friendThe repair: how to come back after you've gone quiet or disappeared
⏱️ Episode Timestamps
00:00 – Why ADHD parents feel lonely — and why we don't talk about it02:17 – Friendship is a learnable skill: the reframe that changes everything04:43 – How parenting a child with ADHD affects your own friendships07:06 – Proximity — the single biggest factor in making friends09:15 – The myth that everyone else has it figured out11:38 – Confidence and friendship: the missing piece14:02 – Finding your people — why environment matters more than effort16:20 – The hidden cost of masking in friendships18:36 – Why socialising drains you even when it goes well20:55 – Managing your social energy and the power of the pause23:20 – The Flavours of Friendship framework30:21 – Rejection sensitivity and what it does to friendships35:09 – Pinging: a practical strategy for finding shared connection37:33 – Info dumping, oversharing, going quiet — shame vs skill building39:55 – How to repair a friendship after you've gone quiet42:21 – It's never too late — the path forward
📕 Caroline's NEW Book — Out Now!
Friendship Skills for Neurodivergent Adults iis the first book of its kind — written by a neurodivergent person, for a neurodivergent audience. If this episode resonated, this book is your next step.
Available at Amazon, Barnes & Noble, Books-A-Million, Hachette, Audible, and wherever you love to buy books. Also available in audiobook.
Website: https://carolinemaguireauthor.com/ Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/AuthorCarolineM Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/authorcarolinecm/ NEW Podcast: Your ADHD Social PlaybookNEW TEDx Talk — Becoming a Social Spy: Observational Learning
👦🏼 Also Worth Reading — From Xavier
This episode talks about the adult experience of friendship and ADHD. But what about our kids?
My son Xavier — who has ADHD — wrote a blog that has stopped parents in their tracks since the day it was published. It is called A Note from a Kid with ADHD: How to Be My Friend.
In Xavier's own words, he shares what he needs from friends — the patience, the inclusion, the kindness, and the grace. It is the resource I wished she could hand to other families when Xavier was young.
Share it with another parent, a teacher, or a child who could use the reminder.
Read it here → https://www.thefunctionalfamily.com/blog/anotefromanadhdkidhowtobemyfriend
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🔔 Next Steps & Resources
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Carolin Mcguirre — Friendship Skills for Neurodivergent Adults (available in audiobook, including in Australia)Join the waitlist for the ADHD Family Quest💻 Learn more at thefunctionalfamily.com
💛 Work With Sharon
Sharon Collon is a PCC credentialed ADHD family coach and founder of The Functional Family. She works with parents of children with ADHD who are exhausted by the daily battles — the mornings, the meltdowns, the school emails, the emotional dysregulation — and helps them build a family life that actually works.
Sharon's approach is practical, ADHD-informed, and built around real family systems — not generic parenting advice that wasn't designed for your child's brain.
With Sharon's support, families:
Understand what's really driving their child's behaviour — and respond strategically instead of reactivelyBuild the executive function skills their child needs, in a way that actually sticksReplace daily conflict and overwhelm with calm, connection, and confidenceCreate routines and systems that hold — even on the hard daysMove from survival mode to a family life that feels genuinely functional and joyfulWhether you're brand new to the ADHD diagnosis or years in and still feeling stuck — there is a way through.
You don't have to keep pushing through alone.
👉 Learn more at thefunctionalfamily.com