Why does it feel like the emotion you're in right now is going to last forever? In episode #70 ADHD and AuDHD: Why Feelings Feel Permanent, I explore why we struggle to hold onto the idea that feelings change because when one shows up, our attention locks onto it, making it feel permanent and all-encompassing. I'll help you make sense of why feelings feel so intense, and convincing.

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Research Referenced In This Episode:

• Affective Forecasting: Psychology Today
• Understanding the Ways We Think About Our Future Emotions: Lawyer Well Being
• Impact Bias: The Decision Lab
• Deficient Emotional Self-Regulation: Russell Barkley ADDitude Magazine/You-Tube