To get this episode ad-free as well as a video version and E-book visit the Patreon join page for more info and a free trial. Why do you feel excited and dread at the same time? Why do you want something and also don't? In episode #71 ADHD and AuDHD: Why Feelings Feel Permanent, I talk about when you feel two opposite feelings at the same time. Don't worry. You're not unstable! You're emotionally complex. Listen if you want to learn how we process multiple feelings at the same time, how our attention determines what feeling is "true" in the moment, and how relationships and situations can influence our mixed feelings.

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Sources Used:

• How Our Brain Navigates Complex Feelings: Psychology Today
• Two Truths Can Exist At The Same Time: Psychology Today
• Can You Feel Two Emotions At Once: Psychology Today
• What Does It Mean To Have Mixed Feelings: Psychology Today