Married After Kids

Ep. 76: The Hidden Cost of Keeping Score In Your Marriage


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That quiet mental tally you keep? The one that says, “I’ve done bedtime three nights in a row” or “I handled the birthday party and the laundry and the grocery run”… that’s called scorekeeping. And while it might feel totally justified, it’s also slowly eroding the connection in your marriage.


In this episode, I’m diving into where scorekeeping comes from, why it shows up so often after kids, and what it actually does to the trust and emotional safety in your relationship. Most importantly, I’ll show you what to do instead so you can get more of what you need without falling into the resentment spiral.


Tune in to discover:

  • Why scorekeeping is a symptom of a deeper issue in your marriage
  • How keeping track of “who does what” quietly chips away at trust
  • The surprising ways scorekeeping damages emotional safety and intimacy
  • What to do when it actually is unfair but you don’t know how else to say it
  • Tools to shift from competition to connection (and get your needs met)


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