No is such an important word, and it is important to use it effectively. We want to use no to create safety and remove the pressure, and we also don’t want no to be our automatic response when sex comes up. In the last episode, we talked about when we should say no. And in this follow-up episode, I share with you why you shouldn’t say no, how saying no becomes an automatic response, and the kind of awareness and pleasure that is possible for you.

I also want to remind you about the amazing opportunity I have going in the month of December 2020. For this month, whenever you leave a review on Apple Podcasts, take a screenshot of your review and send it to [email protected] and you’ll receive your Sensational Sex starter kit! My team and I have put together meditations, instructional videos, and a workbook to really jump start this part of your journey.

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Topics in this episode

• It starts innocently
• When no becomes automatic, and you find yourself always saying no
• Saying no ahead of time, to avoid saying it later.
• Noticing when you start cutting your partner off in little ways
• Practice in the pause in between the idea of sex, and deciding what you’re going to do
• Entertaining the thought, “Maybe I could be into it”
• Responsive desire - putting yourself in a place where desire can bloom
• Making “maybe” your new automatic response

As always, it’s been my absolute pleasure to be with you today. I hope these two conversations around the word no has created curiosity and awareness of your thoughts around why you’re saying no, feeling safe so that you can even enter a place of possibility, and starting to say yes and creating the pleasure that is possible for you.