You fell in love with their spontaneity, their energy, their calm, their structure — whatever it was that balanced you out. But fast forward a decade (or two), and those same traits are now the source of your biggest fights.

In this Heads & Tails episode, Dr. Kate and Jay White unpack what happens when the differences that once sparked attraction start to cause friction. From savers vs. spenders, early birds vs. always late, and introverts vs. extroverts, to the classic messy vs. clean showdown, they explore why these dynamics shift over time and what they reveal about deeper emotional needs.

You'll learn: • Why "opposites attract" isn't a myth — but also why it's not enough to sustain connection • How to move from criticism to curiosity when your partner's habits drive you crazy • What these personality pairings can actually teach you about your own blind spots • Practical tools to recalibrate instead of resent • How midlife, empty-nest transitions, and career shifts can magnify or mellow your differences Because staying connected isn't about becoming the same — it's about learning how to stay on the same team, even when you play different positions.

🪙 Flip a coin moment: Which side are you on — the saver or the spender, the messy or the meticulous? DM us your "opposite" story @headsandtailspodcast!