In this heartfelt and honest episode, Alyssa Dineen sits down with author, podcaster, and dating success story Kate Anthony to talk about what it really takes to find love after a toxic relationship. After years of dating burnout and failed attempts, Kate found success using the Burned Haystack Dating Method, developed by Jennie Young, and guidance from Alyssa on profile clarity and preferences.

Kate shares how she revamped her dating app experience by ditching “dealbreakers,” setting smart boundaries, and staying radically herself throughout the process. She opens up about meeting Ethan - her now-fiancé - and how intention, ease, and emotional safety shaped their relationship from the start.

This is a powerful conversation for anyone healing from relationship trauma, redefining what safety and love look like, or ready to show up authentically in dating and life.

You’ll also hear about:

• (01:55) Kate’s decision to try dating again after years of being single
• (06:00) How she revamped her profile with Alyssa’s help—and got “no notes”
• (10:40) Burned Haystack Dating and using preferences, not dealbreakers
• (14:10) Ethan’s pink shorts, bold values, and why his profile stood out
• (18:00) Early communication green flags and the importance of mutual effort
• (22:30) The first FaceTime, a direct ask, and scheduling their first date
• (27:00) Chemistry, ease, and the importance of feeling completely safe
• (31:40) Dating after narcissistic abuse and rebuilding self-trust
• (37:50) Co-parenting with an ex and healing over 16 years post-divorce
• (44:10) Emotional abuse, gaslighting, and how Kate finally got out
• (51:30) Advice for newly divorced women and reclaiming sexuality
• (56:20) Why dating is not theoretical—and how to show up to learn

Whether you're navigating post-divorce life, dating as a parent, or learning to trust again, this episode is a powerful blueprint for clarity, resilience, and true connection.

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Learn more about Kate Anthony:

• Visit her Website
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• Listen to The Divorce Survival Guide Podcast

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