All Things Marriage with Dr. Chavonne

Episode 278: What Sets Off The Anxious-Avoidant Cycle (Part 3)


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In today’s episode, we’re unpacking one of the most frustrating—and misunderstood—dynamics in a relationship: the anxious partner who longs for emotional validation, and the avoidant partner who’s just trying not to drown in overwhelm.


If you’ve ever found yourself needing your partner to get what you’re feeling and help you through it…


Or if you’ve ever felt like your partner’s emotions are a test you’re destined to fail…


You’re in the right place.


We’re getting to the root of what’s really going on underneath these reactions:

  • Why anxious partners often feel like they can’t handle big emotions alone
  • Why avoidant partners often feel like emotions = failure
  • And how both sides are doing their best to feel safe—but in ways that unintentionally trigger each other


This episode will give you insight into your nervous system responses, the deeper emotional fears you might not even realize are running the show, and—most importantly—what to do about it.


Because once you understand the real reason this feels so hard, you’ll finally have a clear direction forward. One that doesn’t involve blaming, fixing, or giving up.r


And if you are looking for more help navigating these triggering cycles as a couple, I invite you to reach out to book a 20 Minute Marriage Solution Call, to experience firsthand the power of coaching to help you. Or if you are already interested in working with me through one of my coaching programs, you can book a complimentary consultation. Both links can be found on my website: DrChavonne.com

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All Things Marriage with Dr. ChavonneBy Dr. Chavonne Perotte: Transformational coach, author, and speaker.

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