All Things Marriage with Dr. Chavonne

Episode 279: What Sets Off The Anxious-Avoidant Cycle (Part 4)


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In today’s episode, we’re diving into one of the most emotionally complex and frustrating dynamics between partners—what happens when one of you is anxiously tuned in to every emotion, every disconnect, every nuance…essentially hyper-self aware...


And the other is not able to see what's happening, unaware of the emotions often driving them, and has a harder time communicating what's going on for them...essentially lacking self awareness...


We’re breaking down why this mismatch in self-awareness and emotional processing leads to blame, shame, shutdowns, and emotional spirals—and how to begin shifting that pattern.


You’ll hear:

  • Why anxious partners can feel like they’re always solving the relationship alone
  • Why avoidant partners often feel like they’re being treated as a project instead of a person
  • And how this blame/shame cycle keeps both of you stuck, exhausted, and silently wondering if things will ever feel better

But more importantly—we’ll talk about what to do next. What actually helps. And how to start creating a new rhythm between you that leaves you both feeling seen, respected, and more connected.


If you’ve been feeling like you’re the only one clued in to what's happening…or if you’ve felt like your partner is always psychoanalyzing you—this episode is for you.



And if you are looking for help and would like to explore the ways my coaching program can help you, I invite you to book a complimentary consultation call with me here: https://drchavonne.com/work-with-me/

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All Things Marriage with Dr. ChavonneBy Dr. Chavonne Perotte: Transformational coach, author, and speaker.

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