April 16, 2019

Eps 183: Your kids are not manipulating you.

39 minutes

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Winging it in the closet!

Thank you for the review, Lauren!

Listening to my clients and group participants…. Amazing the expansive way we can see/here for the other person.

The idea that kids get into mischief, make mistakes, AND well meaning, loving parents get stuck into thinking “they are manipulating me/trying to get what they want/playng me”

Foundation of Adlerian theory – behavior being movement in the direction of belonging and significance

As young children – always perceiving/interpreting/beliefs/action (private logic)

Do I belong?

Do I matter?

Do I have influence?

Am I safe?

We are asking and answering those questions through our own lens, which has been developed over time, through experience and relationships we have lived through

Kids are cut and dry, their private logic is experienced as “truth”

Perception of emotional safety matters

“I’m curious… I notice you don’t want to talk about problems after the fact…. Can you tell me about that?”

Goal is to help them observe themselves

Having a conversation about the conversation

Curiosity has no agenda, it’s not a “method”

Curiosity is non-judgmental and open

THIS TAKES PRACTICE PEOPLE!

Call it out when the space feels judge-y and own what we have brought in the past

Asking VS Telling Experiential activity

Play with this!! Remember there are layers!!

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Come play with me!!

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By Casey O'Roarty

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April 16, 2019

Eps 183: Your kids are not manipulating you.

39 minutes

Join the Joyful Courage Tribe in our community Facebook group - Live and Love with Joyful Courage. Raising our children while growing ourselves...

::::

Winging it in the closet!

Thank you for the review, Lauren!

Listening to my clients and group participants…. Amazing the expansive way we can see/here for the other person.

The idea that kids get into mischief, make mistakes, AND well meaning, loving parents get stuck into thinking “they are manipulating me/trying to get what they want/playng me”

Foundation of Adlerian theory – behavior being movement in the direction of belonging and significance

As young children – always perceiving/interpreting/beliefs/action (private logic)

Do I belong?

Do I matter?

Do I have influence?

Am I safe?

We are asking and answering those questions through our own lens, which has been developed over time, through experience and relationships we have lived through

Kids are cut and dry, their private logic is experienced as “truth”

Perception of emotional safety matters

“I’m curious… I notice you don’t want to talk about problems after the fact…. Can you tell me about that?”

Goal is to help them observe themselves

Having a conversation about the conversation

Curiosity has no agenda, it’s not a “method”

Curiosity is non-judgmental and open

THIS TAKES PRACTICE PEOPLE!

Call it out when the space feels judge-y and own what we have brought in the past

Asking VS Telling Experiential activity

Play with this!! Remember there are layers!!

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