Joyful Courage for Parenting Teens

Eps 258: Teasing Apart Emotional Labor with Gemma Hartley

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My guest today is Gemma Hartley.

Gemma is a freelance journalist and the author of Fed Up: Emotional Labor, Women, and the Way Forward. She’s a mom of 3 kids, 5, 7 and 10

Takeaways from the show:

  • Gemma’s journey of being a writer
  • The article that started her career 
  • Not wanting to ask your family to do something, just wanting them to know to do it
  • Teasing apart emotional labor
  • The pressure that lays on moms’ shoulders
  • What are shared standards
  • Acknowledge your standards exist for a reason 
  • Holding resentment when your significant other feels like they should get praise for things you do on a daily basis
  • Being in conversation with our family in a way that supports everyone
  • Make it normal to talk about emotional labor 
  • Vulnerability with your partner is scary but necessary 
  • When going into emotional labor conversations, be clear on your intentions
  • The process of re-evaluating the life you share should include everyone being involved
  • Tools that help make everyone feel supported in emotional labor
  • Asking your kids to “help” you with household chores implies it is your job, which it isn’t
  • Recognize the subtle messaging you’re giving your kids

    • Where to find Gemma:

    Book | Website | Facebook | Instagram | Women Aren’t Nags Article | Emotional Labor Article

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