Joyful Courage for Parenting Teens

Eps 558: Neuroscience of adolescent behavior with Patrick Ney

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My guest today is Patrick Ney, here to explain the neuroscience behind some adolescent behaviors. Patrick shares about self-determination theory and our 3 universal psychological needs. We dig into the personal growth and rewriting the narratives we’ve told ourselves about the way we were parented.  Lastly, Patrick shares actionable steps & advice for helpful communication with your unregulated teen. 


Takeaways from the show

  • Wanting to parent differently than you were parented 
  • Self-determination theory 
  • 3 psychological needs: relatedness, competence, & autonomy 
  • People feel better & work better with others when those needs are met; we see more negative behavior when those needs are not met  
  • Parenting is an invitation for personal growth 
  • “There’s no getting around teen brain development” 
  • Neuroscience of the teen brain
  • The more you understand the connection between teen behavior, their needs, and brain development, the easier it becomes to stay grounded & helpful - most parents don’t know a lot of neuroscience, but it helps!  
  • Teens are hypersensitive to the opinions of other teens
  • You are the world’s best expert on your child 
  • Getting curious instead of cutting off behavior immediately 
  • Having a narrative understanding of who you are and where you came from can help you know where you’re going as a caregiver 
  • Reflecting on your own behavior & actions as a teenager 
  • “A teenage brain has higher highs and lower lows “
  • Steps for staying helpful & communicative with unregulated adolescents 


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