Dr. Kate talks with Raquel VanLoon, LPC, CADC,  a Licensed Professional Counselor, Certified Alcohol and Drug Counselor, and a Certified Sex Addiction Therapist - Candidate. 

Raquel is a Clinical Associate at Modern Intimacy, and earned her Masters degree in counseling psychology from The Chicago School of Professional Psychology with a specialization in treating addiction. 

Raquel works with clients feeling overwhelmed with depression, anxiety, low self-esteem, stress management, life transitions, trauma, substance use/abuse, building coping skills, body image, and lifestyle balance, to name a few. Raquel meets clients where they are and supports them through getting where they want to be.

Foreplay is necessary for a good f*ck. So many of us know how important foreplay is but yet it doesn’t get a lot of attention.

Without adequate foreplay, partners can have feelings of disappointment, feel less than, confused, disconnected if sex did not live up to their expectations. Often, partners carry misinterpretations from porn that sex does not require foreplay, clitoral stimulation or consists of quick penetration, and still have the expectation for ecstatic orgasms. When this doesn’t happen in our reality, partners often feel deflated.

Foreplay is that important. Some therapists say just 15 minutes of foreplay can increase chances of orgasm.

Dr. Kate and Raquel talk about specifics to up the exploration of one another’s body parts and bring awareness of foreplay to both partners. Do you know that foreplay can occur in and out of the bedroom? It can start with a text, a hand on your back, helping with a chore, and then hopefully elongate the pleasure of foreplay.

Listen to this conversation and get excited about exploring the importance and fun of foreplay.

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