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Welcome back to Even Here, Even Now. I’m Mara, your host, and today’s episode is a deeply personal reflection on how we navigate overwhelming times, hold space for grief, and find our unique role in the world. I share my own struggles, insights, and the ongoing journey of learning to care for myself while showing up for my community. If you’re someone who feels the weight of responsibility, this episode is for you. (Ahem, eldest sisters to the front.)

Timestamps & Highlights:

0:00 – Opening thoughts: waking up to grim news and emotional overwhelm

3:38 – Crying in the driveway. Maybe you need to cry too?

6:41 – The pressure to minimize our needs in the face of the overwhelming need of the people around us

10:55 – The “group project” fear: why it's really hard to trust others to do their part 😬

13:51 – Learning to be honest about our capacity if we want to be in community

17:24 – The unreasonable expectation to be good at everything, and how to let that go

21:04 – My journey into local activism: choosing affordable housing as my “corner” of the work

24:36 – Using my voice and skills to make an impact, and letting go of what isn’t mine to carry (I know, yikes and ugh)

29:13 – The power of doing your one thing: how doing less can actually mean doing more (and more sustainably)

Thank you for listening and for being part of this space. Remember, you don’t have to do everything—just your one thing matters.

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In this episode of Even Here, Even Now, I (Mara Glatzel) am joined by the incredible Beatriz Victoria Albina—functional medicine nurse practitioner, somatic experiencing practitioner, master certified somatic life coach, host of the Feminist Wellness Podcast, and author of the forthcoming book End Emotional Outsourcing.

We dive deep into the concept of emotional outsourcing—a term Beatriz created to describe the intersection of codependency, perfectionism, and people-pleasing. We talk about how so many of us habitually look outside ourselves for safety, worth, and belonging, and the toll that takes on our authenticity and agency. Beatriz shares personal stories and practical examples of how these patterns show up in everyday life, from over-apologizing and avoiding conflict to feeling responsible for everyone else’s emotions.

We explore the roots of these behaviors, tracing them back to childhood survival strategies and the impact of larger systems like patriarchy and capitalism. Beatriz offers a compassionate, non-pathologizing approach, encouraging us to meet ourselves with tenderness and understanding rather than blame.

She introduces her BRAVE framework for reclaiming self-trust and presence: Body first, Recognize the outsourcing, Ask what I want, Voice a small act of self-loyalty, and Encourage yourself like a best friend. We discuss the challenges and discomfort that come with setting boundaries and prioritizing our own needs, and how to support ourselves through those moments.

We also talk about Beatriz’s new book, the importance of pre-orders, and the joy of celebrating even the tiniest steps toward self-connection. This conversation is full of warmth, humor, and actionable wisdom for anyone ready to move from emotional outsourcing to anchored selfhood.

Interesting Points of Conversation:

• 0:00 — Introduction and why this Bea's work resonates so deeply with me
• 2:00 — Beatriz introduces herself and her (amazing) work
• 3:45 — What is emotional outsourcing? Why Beatriz coined the term
• 5:30 — The cost of sourcing worth, safety, and belonging from outside ourselves
• 8:00 — Real-life examples of emotional outsourcing in relationships and at work
• 13:45 — The seesaw of resentment and self-neglect; taking on the therapist role
• 17:00 — The roots of these patterns in childhood survival strategies
• 22:00 — The impact of societal systems (patriarchy, capitalism) on our sense of self
• 25:20 — The BRAVE framework for reclaiming self-trust and presence
• 30:00 — How to support yourself through the discomfort of setting boundaries
• 35:00 — The importance of self-compassion, celebration, and tiny “kitten steps"
• 47:45 — Details about Beatriz’s new book, pre-order bonuses, and where to find more of her work

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In this episode, I’m diving deep into what it really means to trust ourselves—like, truly, deeply, in a way that you can feel in your bones. I talk about how self-trust isn’t just a nice idea, but the foundation for knowing when to push forward and when to give yourself a break. I share my own struggles with consistency (and how it’s definitely not about being perfect), and why honoring our human needs matters so much, especially in a world that’s always pushing us to do more.

We’ll get into the messy, beautiful reality of self-care—how sometimes we only let ourselves rest when we’ve hit a wall, and how we can start to change that. I’ll also talk about the cycles of energy and capacity we all go through, and why it’s totally normal not to be “on” all the time.

Plus, I’ll share why it’s so powerful to let others in on what you need, and how community can help us all show up as our fullest selves. My hope is that you’ll walk away from this episode feeling a little more seen, a little more trusting of yourself, and a lot more willing to center your own well-being.

Here are some moments you might want to jump to:

• 0:00 Why I call this “soft animal anarchy” and what’s changing for me
• 2:10 The tension between productivity and honoring our bodies
• 5:28 The cycle of burnout and “emergency self-care”
• 8:15 My lifelong struggle with consistency (& why it’s not about perfection)
• 13:29 How to cooperate with your body instead of fighting it
• 16:29 Why honesty about your capacity is a radical act
• 21:09 The real meaning of self-trust and how it changes everything
• 25:20  How our needs and capacity ebb and flow (& that’s okay)
• 30:20 Centering this work in your life and community

xo

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In this episode of 'Even Here, Even Now,' I explore the concept of changing your life through a framework of radical self-responsibility and self-love. Fresh from a wild sales call experience where I was dumped for not being "driven" enough when I expressed a great love for my life as it is now (even as there were aspects that I'm working on), I reflect on the problematic nature of sales techniques that prey on our pain points and instead advocate for a more compassionate approach to self-improvement. 

I dive into the importance of having 'change conversations' with ourselves to identify what isn’t working and to align actions with our personal desires and capacities. Through personal anecdotes and professional insights, I aim to guide you in making meaningful changes in your life from a place of deep trust and care.

If there is one thing I know it's that you can love your life and want to change something, without beating yourself up or reverting to using shame as a motivator to get where you want to go.

00:14 The Sales Call Experience 🤭

02:20 Understanding Change Conversations

03:21 The Roost Change Framework

06:09 Personal Reflections on Change

11:20 Next up for me: Pouring more energy into my busines

19:48 Concluding Thoughts on Self-Trust and Change

The holidays can feel like way too much or too little – endless obligations and burnout, or lonely and ordinary while everyone else celebrates. I created a free workshop called Reclaim Your Holiday Season to help you figure out what YOU actually want and how to make it happen, with practical tools for boundary-setting and the YES/NO list framework. Sign up FREE at maraglatzel.com/holidays.

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In this episode of the newly rebranded 'Even Here, Even Now' podcast, host Mara Glatzel shares her thoughts on the importance of radical self-responsibility and reconnecting with one's needs, especially in the current socio-political climate.

 She discusses the shift from focusing on the 'Needy Podcast' to embracing a more present and empowered approach towards self-responsibility and community care. Mara emphasizes the need for nurturing one's inner ecosystem to be able to contribute meaningfully to broader societal change. 

00:00 Welcome Back to the Podcast

00:36 The Importance of Self-Work

02:59 Introducing 'Even Here, Even Now'

03:23 Personal Reflections on Needs and Self-Care

06:38 Breaking the Pattern of Self-Neglect

09:40 The Value of Self-Care Beyond Productivity

12:32 The Interplay of Self and Community Care

21:51 Radical Self-Responsibility

23:30 Changes to the Podcast Format

25:32 Engaging with YOU

26:44 Invitation to Connect

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The Importance of Self Care That Actually Works

In this episode of the Needy Podcast, I return after a year-long hiatus to discuss the essence of self-care that truly supports individual needs. I talk about my upcoming free workshop titled 'Self Care That Actually Works' scheduled for September 25th. 

I differentiate my approach to self-care from the prescriptive methods often sold online, emphasizing the need for responsive and present self-care practices. I share my personal journey of developing a self-care routine that helps me meet life's demands in a sustainable way, such as waking up early to watch the sunrise and engaging in varied physical activities. 

The discussion highlights the importance of creating routines that are adaptable to one's current emotional and physical state, ultimately aiming to provide a framework for showing up fully and compassionately for oneself.

00:00 Welcome Back to the Needy Podcast

01:46 Introducing the Self-Care Workshop

02:31 Redefining Self-Care

03:56 The Importance of Responsive Self-Care

06:18 Personal Self-Care Practices

10:42 Creating a Routine That Works

15:09 The Why Behind My Self-Care Routine

20:16 Final Thoughts and Workshop Invitation

The holidays can feel like way too much or too little – endless obligations and burnout, or lonely and ordinary while everyone else celebrates. I created a free workshop called Reclaim Your Holiday Season to help you figure out what YOU actually want and how to make it happen, with practical tools for boundary-setting and the YES/NO list framework. Sign up FREE at maraglatzel.com/holidays.

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How can we untangle ourselves from productivity culture without leaving our big dreams, goals, and interests behind?

In this episode, Dr. Kate Henry joins me to talk about slow productivity, an approach she learned and developed after being diagnosed with a chronic illness at a pivotal moment in her life.

Dr. Kate Henry is a Productivity Coach who specializes in sustainable and well-being oriented productivity. She holds an MFA in creative writing and a PhD in rhetoric and composition. In addition to her work as a productivity coach, Dr. Henry is an independent researcher and author of the book Tend to It: A Holistic Guide to Intentional Productivity.

Tune in to hear more about…

• The practice of untying worth from productivity
• The grief around letting go of achievement
• The Venn Diagram of slow productivity
• Body doubling and co-working as helpful productivity tools
• Kate’s favorite slow productivity tools & best practices
• Experimenting with roles & boundaries that work for you

Hang out with Kate

• Visit Kate’s Website
• Read Kate’s Book Tend to It: A Holistic Guide to Intentional Productivity
• Subscribe to Kate’s Substack Tending

Resources

• Download the Finch App

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The holidays can feel like way too much or too little – endless obligations and burnout, or lonely and ordinary while everyone else celebrates. I created a free workshop called Reclaim Your Holiday Season to help you figure out what YOU actually want and how to make it happen, with practical tools for boundary-setting and the YES/NO list framework. Sign up FREE at maraglatzel.com/holidays.

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How can we let stories from the past transform our relationship to the present?

In this episode, I’m joined by Ronna Detrick for a thoughtful and moving conversation about the power of reclaiming sacred stories. We discuss her passion for writing, reinterpreting the Bible, and reconnecting with historical stories in a more meaningful and honest way.

Ronna Detrick (she/her) left the church and its dogma nearly twenty years ago but took the stories of women with her. She has combined her love of writing with a diverse and winding career that has included coaching, spiritual direction, professional development training, corporate leadership, and entrepreneurship. She holds both a Master of Divinity degree and a Certificate in Spiritual Direction from The Seattle School of Theology and Psychology.

Tune in to hear us discuss…

• Ronna’s current writing process & how it helps her connect with herself more deeply
• The surprising benefits of closing your eyes while typing
• The house of cards that led to Ronna’s deconstructing her belief system
• The power in reclaiming the stories of women that have been misconstrued
• Mary of Bethany & what she teaches us about prioritizing our needs

Hang out with Ronna

• Visit Ronna’s Website
• Follow Ronna on Instagram
• Follow Ronna on Facebook
• Pre-Order Ronna’s Book Rewriting Eve: Rescuing Women’s Stories from the Bible and Reclaiming Them As Our Own
• Get the Intuitive Muse Deck
• Book a Sacred Reading

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The holidays can feel like way too much or too little – endless obligations and burnout, or lonely and ordinary while everyone else celebrates. I created a free workshop called Reclaim Your Holiday Season to help you figure out what YOU actually want and how to make it happen, with practical tools for boundary-setting and the YES/NO list framework. Sign up FREE at maraglatzel.com/holidays.

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Is it possible to have a relationship with our children that is mutually respectful? How do we push against societal messages saying that being a parent means having no needs?

In today’s episode, Jen Lumanlan, the founder of "Your Parenting Mojo," is here to share her wisdom on meeting our needs and those of our children. Together, we delve into the delicate balance between safety and autonomy as parents, exploring how to set boundaries that respect our own needs while honoring our children's independence.

Jen is a researcher, parenting coach, and author. After becoming a parent, she went back to school for a masters in education and psychology focusing on child development to better understand why parents and children face the challenges they do. Her podcast (named the best research-based parenting podcast by LifeHacker) and new book, “Parenting Beyond Power” discuss the societal influences that make parenting hard and why we shouldn’t see problems as individual failings.

Tune in to hear more about…

• How to communicate with our children and find solutions that truly benefit everyone involved
• The importance of involving the child in decision-making
• The exaggeration of safety risks and labeling things as safety issues
• Perfectionism as a way of seeking love and acceptance
• Questioning perpetuation of harmful systems and seeking change

Hang out with Jen

• Order Jen’s Book
• Visit Jen’s Website
• Follow Jen on Instagram
• Listen to Your Parenting Mojo on Apple Podcasts or Spotify

Resources from this episode

• Take Jen’s needs quiz to learn about your needs as a parent
• and my needs quiz if you want my support in learning how to nourish your needs

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The holidays can feel like way too much or too little – endless obligations and burnout, or lonely and ordinary while everyone else celebrates. I created a free workshop called Reclaim Your Holiday Season to help you figure out what YOU actually want and how to make it happen, with practical tools for boundary-setting and the YES/NO list framework. Sign up FREE at maraglatzel.com/holidays.

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Do you find yourself wanting to prioritize creativity but feeling like you don’t know where to start? How have societal structures and norms impacted your relationship with your wild creative self?

In this episode, Shereen Sun (they/them) joins me to discuss the many reasons we disconnect from our creative selves and how they’re helping others reconnect to their radiant Wildhearts.

Shereen is an artist, author, and acclaimed mentor who specializes in creativity and self-actualization. They have spent their life living on the margins, inviting the creative spirits of others to come out and play. They believe that everyone deserves access to the revolutionary healing power of the arts.

Tune in to hear us discuss...

• Creativity as a wellness practice
• The myth of the wide open space for creativity and making space for play where we can
• The importance of healing our childhood creative wounds
• Shereen’s suggestions for creating a consistent creative practice
• The importance of focusing on the process rather than the end product

Hang out with Shereen...

• Visit Shereen’s Website
• Listen to Wildheart Radio
• Order Radiant Wildheart: A Guide to Awaken Your Inner Artist and Live Your Creative Mission
• Follow Shereen on Instagram

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Really love Needy? Join the Needy Podcast Inner Circle! Courses, discounts, quarterly Q&As and more for a one-time or monthly donation of any amount. Exclusively for folks who love the Needy podcast. THANK YOU.

The holidays can feel like way too much or too little – endless obligations and burnout, or lonely and ordinary while everyone else celebrates. I created a free workshop called Reclaim Your Holiday Season to help you figure out what YOU actually want and how to make it happen, with practical tools for boundary-setting and the YES/NO list framework. Sign up FREE at maraglatzel.com/holidays.