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In this episode of Even Here, Even Now, I unpack the online debate about “bare minimum” versus “princess treatment,” and why the tender, specific care I crave, like coffee made exactly how I like it and thoughtful acts of attention, can feel both necessary and out of reach. 

I explore why so many of us want our partners to meet our needs without being asked... pointing to burnout (especially for oldest daughters and lifelong caregivers), romcom-driven expectations that love means mind-reading, and cultural conditioning in a capitalist, colonial, white supremacist, patriarchal overculture that teaches people, especially women and those socialized as girls, to minimize their needs to stay safe and belong. 

Tune in to hear my own story of being a stranger to myself, chasing self-improvement plan after self-improvement plan, and feeling resentful when others did not “handle it” for me. And, ultimately, how I came to understanding that my needs are my responsibility and I do not have to earn the care that I have ached for. 

Anchored in my core philosophy, even here, even now, I focus on small, doable acts of self-attunement and bespoke self-care, and I explain how the being really-really-really good at for caring for others is a transferrable skill. (Meaning, you can learn how to give it to yourself, babe!) 

00:00 Bare Minimum vs. Princess Treatment: The Internet Debate

03:10 Why We Crave Mind-Reading Love (and Romcom Expectations)

05:29 “Your Needs Are Your Responsibility" Even if you're a Burned-Out Caregiver

10:27 Cultural Conditioning, Safety, and the Belief You’re Allowed to Have Needs

13:28 From Self-Abandonment to Self-Knowing: My Burnout Story

19:05 You Don’t Have to Earn Care: Even Here, Even Now

22:43 How to Start Giving Yourself Bespoke Care (Small Daily Choices)

23:38 Invitation to My Free 90-minute Workshop, Princess Treatment, on February 27th!

25:30 Closing: You Deserve This Kind of Care 💞

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In this episode of 'Even Here, Even Now,' I dive into one of my favorite concepts concept -- 'return to sender.' Tune in to hear me discuss how we receive and internalize harmful messages from oppressive societal systems over the course of our lives, and emphasize the importance of prioritizing our own needs and authenticity as we reject the messages that do not align with how we *want* to be living.

Highlighting the struggle of feeling guilt and shame in prioritizing self-care, I encourage you to recognize and send back toxic beliefs, advocating for a balanced life where self-nourishment supports sustained contributions to others.

Timestamps

00:42 Understanding the Over Culture

02:01 Embracing Your (True) Needs, Wants & Beliefs

04:16 The Concept of 'Return to Sender'

06:09 Winter Camp: A Case Study

08:25 Challenging Social Norms

09:55 Personal Reflections and Socialization

12:04 The Importance of Self-Care, especially during the winter season

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In this episode of Even Here, Even Now, I jam about my *concerns* with traditional New Year's resolutions, examining how the overculture pushes us into setting unattainable goals and highlighting the importance of weaving self-compassion into our commitments. It is my deepest hope that this episode supports you in rethinking the winter season as a time of rest and nourishment rather than making drastic changes. You are not a problem to be fixed! You are a human being in deep need of restoration and tender care!

Join me as I advocate for setting realistic, deeply rooted intentions based on genuine desires and needs, rather than societal pressures. This episode will provide insights about how to create sustainable, self-loving commitments for the year ahead.

Timestamps:

00:00 My Feelings About New Year's Resolutions 🤭

01:37 Wintering and the Timing of Resolutions

04:56 The Big Problem with Resolutions

07:14 Granting Yourself a Fresh Start Anytime You Need it

11:05 Toxic Productivity Culture

18:55 Setting Doable Commitments

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In this episode, I reflect on how the winter season and the phases of the moon teach me to embrace periods of rest and transformation. I share my personal journey through challenging times, including a shattered ankle injury that forced me to reconsider my self-worth beyond productivity and navigate the cultural pressures that tie our value to constant doing.

The question is, who are YOU when you are not serving others or achieving visible results? Let's get into it :) 

There is incredible power to letting go, nourishing ourselves, and setting boundaries during the quieter months and invite you to use this season to set intentions and care for yourself in ways that support a vibrant, fulfilling year ahead.

Timestamps 

0:00 — I introduce the episode and the theme of reframing winter.

1:54 — I celebrate the value of unseen, internal transformation.

4:34 — I open up about my own “goo phase” and personal struggles.

5:35 — I draw lessons from nature and the moon’s cycles.

7:22 — Who am I when I’m not being productive?

8:41 — I share the story of my ankle injury and its impact on my identity.

11:15 — I examine how society links self-worth to doing, especially for women and those of us assigned female at birth or raised as girls.

13:58 — I encourage finding community and support during introspective times.

19:43 — I talk about committing to one supportive practice for the year

24:21 — I discuss setting intentions for a nourished, vibrant year ahead.

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In this podcast episode, I delve into my life-long journey of transforming my relationship with the winter season. Once dreading the cold and darkness, I have learned to reframe this time of year as as an opportunity for deep self-connection by asking myself the question "what is this season BEST for?" 

Tune in to hear me reflect on my past, including my struggles with childhood fears and postpartum experiences of grappling with fear of the dark. I emphasize the importance of how meeting ourselves in the dark fosters self-trust.

Towards the end of the episode, I share my own delightfully practical ways to enjoy winter, such as taking a social media break, engaging in cozy activities, and reconnecting with my inner light. The episode encourages YOU to reconsider their approach to winter and find joy and meaning in this quieter, darker time of year.

00:17 Reimagining the Winter Season

01:33 Winter Camp: Meeting Yourself the Dark

02:09 Personal Journey with Darkness

05:14 The Winter Solstice and Seasonal Reflections

06:33 Cultural Expectations vs. Natural Rhythms

09:35 Winter as a Time for Self-Connection

13:13 Practical Tips for a Cozy Winter

19:10 Reconnecting with Inner Light and Warmth

22:13 Invitation to Reflect

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Welcome back to Even Here, Even Now. I’m Mara, your host, and today’s episode is a deeply personal reflection on how we navigate overwhelming times, hold space for grief, and find our unique role in the world. I share my own struggles, insights, and the ongoing journey of learning to care for myself while showing up for my community. If you’re someone who feels the weight of responsibility, this episode is for you. (Ahem, eldest sisters to the front.)

Timestamps & Highlights:

0:00 – Opening thoughts: waking up to grim news and emotional overwhelm

3:38 – Crying in the driveway. Maybe you need to cry too?

6:41 – The pressure to minimize our needs in the face of the overwhelming need of the people around us

10:55 – The “group project” fear: why it's really hard to trust others to do their part 😬

13:51 – Learning to be honest about our capacity if we want to be in community

17:24 – The unreasonable expectation to be good at everything, and how to let that go

21:04 – My journey into local activism: choosing affordable housing as my “corner” of the work

24:36 – Using my voice and skills to make an impact, and letting go of what isn’t mine to carry (I know, yikes and ugh)

29:13 – The power of doing your one thing: how doing less can actually mean doing more (and more sustainably)

Thank you for listening and for being part of this space. Remember, you don’t have to do everything—just your one thing matters.

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In this episode of Even Here, Even Now, I (Mara Glatzel) am joined by the incredible Beatriz Victoria Albina—functional medicine nurse practitioner, somatic experiencing practitioner, master certified somatic life coach, host of the Feminist Wellness Podcast, and author of the forthcoming book End Emotional Outsourcing.

We dive deep into the concept of emotional outsourcing—a term Beatriz created to describe the intersection of codependency, perfectionism, and people-pleasing. We talk about how so many of us habitually look outside ourselves for safety, worth, and belonging, and the toll that takes on our authenticity and agency. Beatriz shares personal stories and practical examples of how these patterns show up in everyday life, from over-apologizing and avoiding conflict to feeling responsible for everyone else’s emotions.

We explore the roots of these behaviors, tracing them back to childhood survival strategies and the impact of larger systems like patriarchy and capitalism. Beatriz offers a compassionate, non-pathologizing approach, encouraging us to meet ourselves with tenderness and understanding rather than blame.

She introduces her BRAVE framework for reclaiming self-trust and presence: Body first, Recognize the outsourcing, Ask what I want, Voice a small act of self-loyalty, and Encourage yourself like a best friend. We discuss the challenges and discomfort that come with setting boundaries and prioritizing our own needs, and how to support ourselves through those moments.

We also talk about Beatriz’s new book, the importance of pre-orders, and the joy of celebrating even the tiniest steps toward self-connection. This conversation is full of warmth, humor, and actionable wisdom for anyone ready to move from emotional outsourcing to anchored selfhood.

Interesting Points of Conversation:

• 0:00 — Introduction and why this Bea's work resonates so deeply with me
• 2:00 — Beatriz introduces herself and her (amazing) work
• 3:45 — What is emotional outsourcing? Why Beatriz coined the term
• 5:30 — The cost of sourcing worth, safety, and belonging from outside ourselves
• 8:00 — Real-life examples of emotional outsourcing in relationships and at work
• 13:45 — The seesaw of resentment and self-neglect; taking on the therapist role
• 17:00 — The roots of these patterns in childhood survival strategies
• 22:00 — The impact of societal systems (patriarchy, capitalism) on our sense of self
• 25:20 — The BRAVE framework for reclaiming self-trust and presence
• 30:00 — How to support yourself through the discomfort of setting boundaries
• 35:00 — The importance of self-compassion, celebration, and tiny “kitten steps"
• 47:45 — Details about Beatriz’s new book, pre-order bonuses, and where to find more of her work

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In this episode, I’m diving deep into what it really means to trust ourselves—like, truly, deeply, in a way that you can feel in your bones. I talk about how self-trust isn’t just a nice idea, but the foundation for knowing when to push forward and when to give yourself a break. I share my own struggles with consistency (and how it’s definitely not about being perfect), and why honoring our human needs matters so much, especially in a world that’s always pushing us to do more.

We’ll get into the messy, beautiful reality of self-care—how sometimes we only let ourselves rest when we’ve hit a wall, and how we can start to change that. I’ll also talk about the cycles of energy and capacity we all go through, and why it’s totally normal not to be “on” all the time.

Plus, I’ll share why it’s so powerful to let others in on what you need, and how community can help us all show up as our fullest selves. My hope is that you’ll walk away from this episode feeling a little more seen, a little more trusting of yourself, and a lot more willing to center your own well-being.

Here are some moments you might want to jump to:

• 0:00 Why I call this “soft animal anarchy” and what’s changing for me
• 2:10 The tension between productivity and honoring our bodies
• 5:28 The cycle of burnout and “emergency self-care”
• 8:15 My lifelong struggle with consistency (& why it’s not about perfection)
• 13:29 How to cooperate with your body instead of fighting it
• 16:29 Why honesty about your capacity is a radical act
• 21:09 The real meaning of self-trust and how it changes everything
• 25:20  How our needs and capacity ebb and flow (& that’s okay)
• 30:20 Centering this work in your life and community

xo

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In this episode of 'Even Here, Even Now,' I explore the concept of changing your life through a framework of radical self-responsibility and self-love. Fresh from a wild sales call experience where I was dumped for not being "driven" enough when I expressed a great love for my life as it is now (even as there were aspects that I'm working on), I reflect on the problematic nature of sales techniques that prey on our pain points and instead advocate for a more compassionate approach to self-improvement. 

I dive into the importance of having 'change conversations' with ourselves to identify what isn’t working and to align actions with our personal desires and capacities. Through personal anecdotes and professional insights, I aim to guide you in making meaningful changes in your life from a place of deep trust and care.

If there is one thing I know it's that you can love your life and want to change something, without beating yourself up or reverting to using shame as a motivator to get where you want to go.

00:14 The Sales Call Experience 🤭

02:20 Understanding Change Conversations

03:21 The Roost Change Framework

06:09 Personal Reflections on Change

11:20 Next up for me: Pouring more energy into my busines

19:48 Concluding Thoughts on Self-Trust and Change

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In this episode of the newly rebranded 'Even Here, Even Now' podcast, host Mara Glatzel shares her thoughts on the importance of radical self-responsibility and reconnecting with one's needs, especially in the current socio-political climate.

 She discusses the shift from focusing on the 'Needy Podcast' to embracing a more present and empowered approach towards self-responsibility and community care. Mara emphasizes the need for nurturing one's inner ecosystem to be able to contribute meaningfully to broader societal change. 

00:00 Welcome Back to the Podcast

00:36 The Importance of Self-Work

02:59 Introducing 'Even Here, Even Now'

03:23 Personal Reflections on Needs and Self-Care

06:38 Breaking the Pattern of Self-Neglect

09:40 The Value of Self-Care Beyond Productivity

12:32 The Interplay of Self and Community Care

21:51 Radical Self-Responsibility

23:30 Changes to the Podcast Format

25:32 Engaging with YOU

26:44 Invitation to Connect

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