Finding Traction: Recovery from Porn

We all know the things that we want to leave behind - do we have a clear sense of what we want to see grow in our life?  In this episode Vern shares the result of a brainstorming session he did with a group of guys around the things they wanted to move toward.  Funny thing - they all start with "C".

We are starting new finding traction groups this fall to help 5-7 guys at a time connect around walking away from porn and moving towards a better life.  We have a a group for young guys, a group for older guys in or near retirement and a few guys waiting to start a "Married with Children" group. If you want more information on these groups email me at [email protected].  We can also arrange a free zoom call if you want to ask further questions.


If you would like to get access to a number of free resources that I have I encourage you to sign up for my circle learning platform.  If privacy is of concern to you - simply use your first name and last initial (like Vern T.) Your email will remain hidden from other users.  The following link will get you started (although if you are using a mobile device FIRST download the circle app - white circle on a blue background)

https://bandofbrothers-care.circle.so/join?invitation_token=5388d93418377c032a4cc121558868401484a4f3-39382185-b376-4e67-8d18-183f81064cc2

When it comes to living in sustained recovery two of the most problematic words we can utter are the words "What If".  Today I unpackage why those two words get us in trouble more often than we realize.


We are starting new finding traction groups this fall to help 5-7 guys at a time connect around walking away from porn and moving towards a better life.  If you want more information on these groups email me at [email protected].  We can also arrange a free zoom call if you want to ask further questions.


If you would like to get access to a number of free resources that I have I encourage you to sign up for my circle learning platform.  If privacy is of concern to you - simply use your first name and last initial (like Vern T.) Your email will remain hidden from other users.  The following link will get you started (although if you are using a mobile device FIRST download the circle app - white circle on a blue background)

https://bandofbrothers-care.circle.so/join?invitation_token=5388d93418377c032a4cc121558868401484a4f3-39382185-b376-4e67-8d18-183f81064cc2

I've heard a number of pretty dumb things in coaching guys.  I've even thought and said a few of them myself - the following are six of the dumbest things that I have come across.


We are starting new finding traction groups this fall to help 5-7 guys at a time connect around walking away from porn and moving towards a better life.  If you want more information on these groups email me at [email protected].  We can also arrange a free zoom call if you want to ask further questions.


When it comes to living in sustained recovery two of the most problematic words we can utter are the words "What If".  Today I unpackage why those two words get us in trouble more often than we realize.


We are starting new finding traction groups this fall to help 5-7 guys at a time connect around walking away from porn and moving towards a better life.  If you want more information on these groups email me at [email protected].  We can also arrange a free zoom call if you want to ask further questions.


If you would like to get access to a number of free resources that I have I encourage you to sign up for my circle learning platform.  If privacy is of concern to you - simply use your first name and last initial (like Vern T.) Your email will remain hidden from other users.  The following link will get you started (although if you are using a mobile device FIRST download the circle app - white circle on a blue background)


https://bandofbrothers-care.circle.so/join?invitation_token=5388d93418377c032a4cc121558868401484a4f3-39382185-b376-4e67-8d18-183f81064cc2

frEver been in a bad recovery group? Ever felt nervous about joining a group because of the many ways it could go wrong?  In this episode Vern explores how to tell when a group is toxic and when it is healthy.

We are starting up new Finding Traction groups in September 2024.  Normally groups are $149/month but if you sign up by August 31 - Vern is offering them at the old price of $99/month.  The cost includes all 52 videos plus handouts to guide our time together.  To get more information about these groups email Vern at [email protected] before the cutoff.

When it comes to living in sustained recovery two of the most problematic words we can utter are the words "What If".  Today I unpackage why those two words get us in trouble more often than we realize.


We are starting new finding traction groups this fall to help 5-7 guys at a time connect around walking away from porn and moving towards a better life.  If you want more information on these groups email me at [email protected].  We can also arrange a free zoom call if you want to ask further questions.


If you would like to get access to a number of free resources that I have I encourage you to sign up for my circle learning platform.  If privacy is of concern to you - simply use your first name and last initial (like Vern T.) Your email will remain hidden from other users.  The following link will get you started (although if you are using a mobile device FIRST download the circle app - white circle on a blue background)


https://bandofbrothers-care.circle.so/join?invitation_token=5388d93418377c032a4cc121558868401484a4f3-39382185-b376-4e67-8d18-183f81064cc2

Have you ever heard of the saying "Eat Your Frogs"  I hadn't!  But today we talk about an issue that many porn strugglers have embedded in their lives - their propensity to procastinate!

Vern has a brand new circle learning platform for people looking for connection and free resources in their recovery from porn.  To get access to this platform join up using the following link - if privacy is a concern use your initials or an alibi for your name... (I have my regular name and I have another called Tom Landry - so you can find me!)

https://bandofbrothers-care.circle.so/join?invitation_token=5388d93418377c032a4cc121558868401484a4f3-39382185-b376-4e67-8d18-183f81064cc2

If you want more informtion on these (or for any other reason - like football advice)  you can contact me at [email protected]

What if we have a relapse after a long period of sobriety?   In this episode Vern shares from his life about how demoralizing this can be but also how to get back up on our feet with the proper perspective.

Vern has a brand new circle learning platform for people looking for connection and free resources in their recovery from porn.  To get access to this platform join up using the following link - if privacy is a concern use your initials or an alibi for your name... (I have my regular name and I have another called Tom Landry - so you can find me!)

https://bandofbrothers-care.circle.so/join?invitation_token=5388d93418377c032a4cc121558868401484a4f3-39382185-b376-4e67-8d18-183f81064cc2

If you want more informtion on these (or for any other reason - like football advice)  you can contact me at [email protected]

Ever seen that Snickers Ad - "I'm not myself when I'm hungry"?  Today we introduce a marriage tip called Filters that has been of immense benefit to myself.  To add a living example I introduce one of my coaching clients, Jim, who has applied this to his marriage.

I love to help guys walk away from porn toward a fuller richer live.

If you are looking for some free resources go to the website bandofbrothers.care and click on the Free stuff tab.

To contact me, Vern, you can email me at [email protected]

What if you could write a letter to the younger version of yourself?  What would you say?  In this episode Vern introduces the idea of writng a letter to the future you - towards a specific recovery application.


If you are looking for a safe place to turn to - I'd love to hear from you - my email is [email protected]

We offer both weekly finding traction groups using our 52 week video course as well as a monthly connection meeting where you can join with other guys committed to walking away from porn and moving toward a much much better life!


If you are looking for some free resources as well as information on the 52 week video course "Finding Traction" you can check out the website

https://bandofbrothers.care

Remember what it's like to walk out of the final exam of your degree or finish a project you have been working on for years?  Today Vern shares is sense of accomplishment regarding a recovery project he has been laboring over for the last few years.


If you are looking for a safe place to turn to - I'd love to hear from you - my email is [email protected]

We offer both weekly finding traction groups using our 52 week video course as well as a monthly connection meeting where you can join with other guys committed to walking away from porn and moving toward a much much better life!


If you are looking for some free resources as well as information on the 52 week video course "Finding Traction" you can check out the website

https://bandofbrothers.care

Many guys express that they have noticed that their acting out tends to be cyclical and regular.  They often feel that they come up to a wall that they cannot get over in terms of days clean.  in this episode Vern talks about how to ovecome these embedded walls that have tripped us up.


If you are looking for a safe place to turn to - I'd love to hear from you - my email is [email protected]

We offer both weekly finding traction groups using our 52 week video course as well as a monthly connection meeting where you can join with other guys committed to walking away from porn and moving toward a much much better life!


If you are looking for some free resources as well as information on the 52 week video course "Finding Traction" you can check out the website

https://bandofbrothers.care