From Surviving to Thriving: A No Tools, No Techniques Shift from Stress and Overwhelm to Fulfilment

Can you imagine what there would be without judgement? Acceptance, calm and clarity. So can you notice where judgement is a catalyst for that overwhelmed feeling? Judgement of your behaviour of how you are feeling and of what you are thinking. It seems to me that at the route of all our suffering is judgement. Without it their would be so much space. There would be less of that overwhelmed feeling.

Imagine the acceptance of every feeling, every thought and all behaviour. When you judge, you feel the judgemental thoughts, not the thing about you, you're judging. Once you know this, there is less of that overwhelmed feeling. 

If you would like more freedom from judgement and less overwhelm, then please reach out.

When you listening to your upset, have you noticed what happens? You react to the world outside, to the people around you and to your own feelings. Quite often that can make things worse.

I understand your confusion because it looks like the upset is coming from outside so it looks like sorting the outside will make you feel better. So getting angry, sending THAT message and saying what is on your mind all make sense. But that's like thinking the warning lights on your dashboard are coming from the car next to you.

But have you noticed what happens when you are feeling good. Everything looks better, you respond, you settle situations and you have clarity. The thing is, your feelings are telling you just one thing. They are telling you about thought in the moment. Off feelings = off thinking. Once you really know this, it is transformational.

If you would like to respond rather than react, please get in touch to talk.

How many expectations do you have of yourself, your relationships and about the results of your actions. Can you see their contribution to that overwhelmed feeling? When things don't work out as expected there is something else on your mind. Disappointment, correction and a sense of loss.

Imagine just for a moment having no expectations. Without those expectations there is less on your mind. Less of that overwhelmed feeling. Less in your head right now. Less disappointment in the future.

And from that space ... so much is possible. 

If you would like more space in your head, less overwhelm and to feel calm & think clearly more of the time please book a FREE calm & clear hour on this link: https://calendly.com/uniquejourney/complimentary-calm-and-clear-hour

The source of your overwhelmed feeling might look like your full inbox, your jam-packed diary or your crazy full home life. It might seem like it's having a lot to do. As I reflect on the run-up to my 2015 burnout, I would have previously cited all those things. My life was CRAZY!! (listen to find out why). Full to the brim is an understatement. 

But recently I saw something new about this. It was all driven by one thing and that thing was THOUGHT!

My thoughts about my inbox, my thoughts that I had to have a jam-packed diary and my thoughts that I needed to control every aspect of my home life to name but a few. It was ALL THOUGHT! Thought drove it all! 

The thought I would feel good enough, the fearful thoughts about what might go wrong and the thoughts of being an imposter (in everything). I would love to know if you can relate. 

There is a message out there that we are supposed to be consistent. In life, in business, in parenting etc etc

We MUST be consistent. But we're not are we? We are human. Our inconsistency is part of what makes us human. Who made up this nonsense anyway. It's as crazy as saying that the UK weather should be consistent.  And when we judge ourselves as not consistent enough our head fills with noise and that overwhelmed feeling surfaces!

But when we stop making our perfect selves wrong there is space and from that space comes creativity and action. Turns out you don't have to make yourself wrong to do things!

This episode was recorded on Positive Thinking Day. But I am here with some news! You DON'T have to think positively. You DON'T have to change your 'negative' thoughts for 'positive' ones. There is NOTHING wrong with you if you have a negative thought! Because here are some things you might have noticed about thought!

You don't put it there! If you allow it to, it passes. You cannot change a thought. You can have anything turn up in your head and it means nothing. about you. Nothing! Nada! Zilch! Well not until you make it mean something anyway.

You can be aware of thoughts ('negative' and 'positive') and they don't have to mean anything. Without the meaning and the judgement they just pass. You DON'T have to make yourself think positively. There is much more ease around changing your relationship with thought.

If you would like to change your relationship with what passes through your head please reach out.

This beautiful topic came up during a recent conversation with a client. As we talked about the experience he was trying to avoid, he said, 'I think I am trying to transcend my feelings'. I couldn't resist looking up the word ... and got this result. 'To go beyond or above the range of normal or physical human experience.' Word by word, phrase by phrase we unpicked it. We started with 'normal or physical human experience.' Surely if we are having an experience, it is normal. How can it not be if we are having it. Imagine if we saw all our experiences as normal. How much would that take off our minds?

Even the space where the seekers of transcendence want to be is therefore part of the human experience. In the phrase, 'go beyond or above' there is sense of escaping, judging, measuring - all things which put more on our minds. The thing is, wherever you are seeking, trying to transcend, judging therefore the lack in your human experience there will be more on your mind! Your experience is perfect just as it is. You are perfect just as you are. Stay here and play.

How not to manage stress! Seems like a really strange title for a piece doesn't it? You are much more likely to see content about how to manage stress, relieve stress or feel less stressed.

But here's the thing I have seen. Trying to manage stress can make you more stressed. All those tools and techniques. The things to do every day.  The ones you do in the moment. It's a lot to think about! And that's the rub! Stress is created through thought so more thought = more stress.

Understanding stress is much more helpful and this podcast can help you do that. 

Conditions!

How many of those do you have in place?

Conditions for happiness.

Conditions for calm.

Conditions for action.

There are so many of these at play in our lives.

Most of the time we are unaware.

But what if you did bring a little awareness to them.

Notice where you are saying ...

'Once condition X is in place, I will experience Y'

As I consider that, it feels so heavy.

Like a huge burden of control.

So much to do.

But what if happiness, calm and action were condition-less?

What if nothing ever had to be a certain way again.

Just consider that freedom for a moment.

And smile.

Because it is possible once you know how things work.

Decisions!

How many of those do you make each day?

There will be some you don't even notice.

But there will be some which appear huge.

They fill your head!

Is it this or that?

Is it A or B?

What shall I do?

Have noticed that doesn't feel calm.

But have you seen the opposite?

You stop thinking about it.

You get on with something else.

Your mind clears.

Then the answer appears

Or the circumstances change.

And it's all sorted out.

Amazing how that works.

And what if you knew that would happen.

What if you never felt the unease of making a decision again.

I can help you achieve that.

Help you take that off your mind.

Help you live more in flow.

Let's have a conversation.