Long-term relationships and healthy marriages take work. Being right, trying to change your partner, attacking, or withdrawing can unravel your relationship over time. In this episode, expert couples therapist and author Terrance Real teaches us how to step out of toxic patriarchy and rugged individualism so that we can step into more loving, intimate, and connected long-term relationships. Terry Real offers practical skills you can apply to your relationship right away, and Diana Hill shares some of the successes and stuck points of her own marriage. You won’t want to miss the insight, communication skills, and practical wisdom in this episode, and you will want your partner to listen too!

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