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Dr. Julie Hanks joins us to share both her professional expertise as a marriage and family therapist who has worked with women across the Mormon and ex-Mormon spectrum for over 30 years, and her personal experience of entering a new era after leaving the LDS Church, going through divorce, and embracing her true self even more. Topics we cover include: the final straw in her Mormon journey, navigating mixed-faith dynamics, finding identity after high-demand religion, and why women need more support.

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Dr. Julie Hanks coaching services

Wasatch Family Therapy

To The Mothers in Zion talk

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Tanner and I go all the way back to third grade! We hopped on the mics this week to catch up on—first and foremost—why Diet Coke matters so much to our little ex-Mormon hearts and how we’re reevaluating our relationships with substances. From there we get into finding room for the mystical after leaving religion, “trusting your gut” both literally and figuratively, the soullessness of Freakier Friday, the TikTok-ification of art, and why we think we inherited a perfection problem from Mormonism. We hehe and haha the whole way through, and I hope you will too!

“Essex Honey” by Blood Orange

“Tested” podcast (on female runners who can no longer compete as women)

“Shiversucker” music video

Tanner’s first episode on Girlscamp

Tanner’s Instagram

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There are few things I disliked as much as fasting as a Mormon, so in this episode I’m talking about why. I get into what Mormon fasting is all about and then dig into fasting practices across cultures and religions—including when it’s done for health or protest reasons. I’m also sharing a recent awkward in-person run-in and a must-see documentary.

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As promised, we’ve got a sex expert back on Girlscamp! Rebekah Barton, associate marriage & family therapist specializing in sex, joins us to tackle all your burning questions. We cover everything from spicing up dirty talk to grieving the reality of only ever having one partner, the toll abstinence takes on queer Mormons, how to get past masturbation hangups, and so much more. You don’t want to miss this one!

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Bekah's Instagram

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Links for learning/ practicing dirty talk: 

https://apps.apple.com/us/app/dirty-talk/id1623119405

https://www.dipseastories.com/audiobooks/dirty-talk-101-series/?utm_source=chatgpt.com

Masturbation/ Female Pleasure Course waitlist link  (discount code: GIRLSCAMP)

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What haunted my Mormon girl nightmares? The Martin and Willie handcart tragedy. And here’s the thing: the version I was taught growing up wasn’t even as bad as the reality. In this episode, we’ll recap what really happened on that deadly trek, share some of the most harrowing and human anecdotes, and yes, do some much-deserved shit talking of Brigham Young. But more than that, I’ll dig into why this story still matters to me as a former Mormon—and how it continues to shape the way I understand both the faith of my upbringing and my identity as a descendant of pioneers.

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Devil's Gate book

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My trip to Sweden for a wedding has given me much to talk and testify about. After a recap of the week (including a couple serious travel mishaps), I dive into what it was like to leave the kids, the magic of non-Mormon weddings, and alcohol as a social lubricant. I share what it feels like to be the only ex-Mormon at the function, the joy of connecting with brand-new friends, and my very first real clubbing (and drunk 🍷) experience.

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Codependent? No more! As I’ve been learning about my own codependent tendencies, I’ve started noticing all the ways they show up in the culture and doctrine of high-demand religions. In this episode, we’ll cover Codependency 101, I’ll share my journey of recognizing those patterns in family, friendships, and marriage—and how I’m working to shift them. Then we’ll dive into how Mormonism (and other high-demand religions) can supercharge those dynamics. LFG!

Melody Beattie’s “Codependent No More”

Dr. Julie Hanks on patriarchal cultures and enmeshment

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'Tis the season for family reunions! Before jumping into your reunion tales (spoiler: one includes polygamy cosplay), I share a few unfortunate events from my own back-to-back reunions in July. Plus, we unpack a surprising listener revelation: are family reunions kinda Mormon-coded? Pack your lawn chairs and emotional baggage—let’s get into it. 

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This week we’re getting cozy and cracking open the bedroom door. I’m answering your sex questions, reading your spicy (and sweet) thoughts and reflections, and sharing a few intimate observations from my own sex life. It’s part advice column, part group chat, part “I can’t believe I just said that out loud.”

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After a much-needed July break, I’m catching you up on everything—from the real (and sometimes complicated) privilege of being a content creator, to the weird backlash I got for taking time off, to the chaos living in my notes app all month. We’re talking Mormonism and American exceptionalism, why eating contests should be illegal, learning to trust your intuition, and one of my new all-time favorite books. It’s a little bit of everything—because that’s what this podcast is, and honestly? That’s what I missed most.

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