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Sometimes the most loving thing we can do is stay close without stepping in too quickly.

This week I want to talk about one of the hardest forms of love: giving someone space. Not walking away. Not going cold. Not pretending we do not care. But staying close without taking over.

It came up for me while talking with my daughter, noticing how quickly I wanted to jump in with answers, advice, solutions and opinions. And I could see the same thing in myself, in council meetings, in family conversations, and even in the way I meet my own thoughts and feelings. Something arises and I want to fix it before I have really heard it.

But space is not neglect. Real space says: I am here. I trust you. Take your time.

In this episode, I explore why the instinct to help is not wrong, but why fixing too quickly can sometimes be about easing our own discomfort. We look at the small pause after a feeling appears, the gap between notes in music, the three seconds before we answer, and the strange wisdom that often appears when we stop crowding the moment.

Key topics:

• Why giving space is not the same as walking away
• The urge to fix the people we love, especially our children
• How a few seconds of pause can let wisdom appear
• Thoughts, feelings and body sensations that do not need an instant story
• The gap between the notes, and why space gives life meaning
• Council meetings, family tables, and the need to prove we know something
• Asking whether we are helping or reducing our own discomfort
• The three second rule for conversations, emotions and difficult moments

Companion meditation: IPM 105, Giving Space. A gentle Zen influenced meditation using the image of a closed shed and an open field to feel the difference between being crowded by what arises and giving it room to be seen clearly.

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With thanks this week to: Cheryl, Nitya, Yvonne, Eleanor and Ryan, Karen, Lani, Jess and Stuart.

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