What happens in the first 180 seconds of a fight determine its outcome at least 90% of the time.  For real.  This is a basic truth that every one of us needs to understand and an episode to share with our partners!  Many thanks to Drs. Julie and John Gottman for four decades of work and their new book, Fight Right.  

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Welcome to Kelly Corrigan Wonders, a place for people who like to laugh while they think and find it useful to look closely at ourselves and our weird ways in the hopes that knowing more and feeling more will help us do more and be better.  Author of 4 New York Times bestsellers about family life, Kelly wonders about loads of stuff: is knowing more always good? Can we trust our gut? How does change actually happen?  We only book nice people who have a sense of humor and know things worth knowing. Each episode ends with Kelly’s shortlist of takeaways, appropriate for refrigerator doors, bulletin boards and notes to your children.

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At this time of year, we are knee-deep in sports: college lacrosse, the NBA play-offs and all the golf majors. Where there are sports, there are adjectives describing the athletes and where there are sports championships, those adjectives are garish and piled-high.  Kelly wonders if maybe it’s time to use those dazzling descriptors to honor not the elite athletes out there but the army of regular, everyday, hard-working moms. (Previously aired)

Thanks For Being Here "Motherhood Illustrated"

I am damn near hopeless with routers and a printer on the skids can take me around the bend.  But, inspired by my mother and my husband and a friend, I remembered that hopeless is almost always an overstatement. (Previously aired)

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Doctors Julie Schwartz Gottman and John Gottman are probably the world’s reigning experts on relationships.  They are well into their 5th decade of research that reveals why we treat each other as we do and how a few small but essential adjustments to our everyday patterns could change our relationships for the better.  Everything we talked about is applicable across the board - from couples to parents and children and all the people we work with.  We predict this will be our most shared episode of 2024.  Enjoy.  (Previously aired)

Check out the Gottman's’ new book:  Fight Right: How Successful Couples Turn Conflict Into Connection

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Cathy Coleman wrote this eulogy for her mother Shirley.  For Mother’s Day the year Cathy was 57, she made a list of 57 things about her mom that she was grateful for and references those things in this beautiful tribute.

Thanks For Being Here Cathy Coleman's Eulogy - 57 Things

After much back and forth with you all on Facebook, I came up with my most important go-to items — the things that get me through the day — and, more importantly, the ideas that ground me on the epic journey of motherhood. (Previously aired)

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