Grace & Grind

By Dr. Pamala Brown-GrinionBusiness Religion & Spirituality Christianity Education Self-Improvement Management

Grace & Grind episodes

November 13, 2025Holiday Dining Etiquette 2025 ✨How Not to Be "That" Guest
Ep. 36 If you’re heading to a company party or client meal, this episode is your game plan to keep it classy—no awkward moments while dining! Dr. Pamala Brown-Grinion (international etiquette instructor) walks you through the small details that make a big impression—from arrival timing and attire to napkins, utensils, ordering, and alcohol limits.

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🎄Holiday Etiquette 2025 ✨How Not to Be "That" Guest
Key Takeaways:
🕰️ Arrive (slightly) early without being that person who’s too early

👔 Dress to the level of the event—and always look “meeting ready”

📵 Keep phones, keys, and purses off the table

🧻 Use your napkin and utensils like a pro (and spot which bread plate is yours)

🥗 Order in line with the host and wait to eat until everyone is served

🍷 Enjoy a drink without overdoing it—professionalism first

💬 Navigate small talk, skip hot-button topics, and bow out gracefully

🧾 Tip appropriately and thank the host the right way
Quick Checklist ✅
Arrive 5–10 minutes early • Wear a blazer-level look
• Personal items off the table • Follow the host’s lead when ordering
• Wait for all plates before eating • Pace your drink
• Keep conversation light • Thank the host before you leave
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Chapters
0:00 Intro: Holiday Dining Faux Pas—Do’s & Don’ts
0:48 Welcome to Grace & Grind
2:30 Timing: Too Early vs. Too Late
3:26 Dress Codes for Business Dinners
4:21 No Phones or Purses on the Table
5:26 Elbows & Posture
6:44 Napkin Basics (When, Where, How)
9:02 Ordering: Match the Host
10:44 Don’t Start Before the Table
11:55 Utensil Confidence
12:28 Cutting Techniques
14:01 Bread & Butter Etiquette
16:08 Chewing with Mouth Closed
17:28 No Talking with a Full Mouth
18:56 Alcohol Limits
20:14 Smart Tipping
21:42 Join the Conversation (Graciously)
23:01 Be Kind to Waitstaff
24:38 Excusing Yourself
26:02 Thanking the Host
27:30 Book a 1:1 with Dr. Pamala

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26 min
October 30, 2025 Faith, Family, and the Fight: Two Sisters’ Journey Through Breast Cancer
Ep. 35 When faced with life-altering diagnoses, where do you turn for strength? In this deeply moving episode of Grace & Grind, Dr. Pamala Brown-Grinion sits down with sisters Dr. Beverly Pringle and Lt. Col. Valerie Pringle to explore how faith, family, and knowledge serve as cornerstones in their journeys through breast cancer.
Through heartfelt testimony, the Pringle sisters reveal two distinct yet intertwined paths — one of treatment and one of prevention — offering a powerful reminder that healing is not one-size-fits-all. From navigating BRCA testing to embracing post-surgery self-acceptance, their stories illuminate how spiritual grounding, community support, and proactive health awareness can redefine what resilience looks like.
💖 Whether you’re walking your own wellness journey or supporting someone who is, this episode delivers truth, tenderness, and practical wisdom for anyone seeking grace through life’s toughest battles.

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34 min
October 16, 2025Confidence Is the New Power Suit (Live from WXXI Studio)
Ep. 34 What if the most powerful thing you could wear isn’t a designer suit—but your confidence?
In this powerful replay from the Aligned Entrepreneur Pod-A-Thon, host Dr. Pamala Brown-Grinion sits down with motivational speaker Maisha Beard of The Maisha Experience to explore how real confidence begins within.
Together, they unpack the mindset shifts that help women move from self-doubt to self-mastery — turning pain into purpose and authenticity into power. Maisha shares her journey from insecurity to self-acceptance, revealing why she calls confidence “the new power suit,” while Dr. Pam introduces the concept of Emotional Etiquette as a tool for healing and self-awareness.
💡 Key Takeaways:
Confidence isn’t a look — it’s a lifestyle.

Transform your pain into divine purpose.

Practice emotional awareness as a path to authentic leadership.
🎧 Listen now to this live episode recorded in front of a live studio audience at WXXI and rediscover what it means to show up as your highest, truest self.
Resources:
🔗 The Maisha Experience
🔗 Totally Unique by Dr. Pamala Brown-Grinion
Lisa Nichols – Transformational Speaking
Napoleon Hill – Think and Grow Rich
Chapters:
0:00 Confidence and Authenticity as Powerful Tools for Personal Growth
8:03 Transforming Pain Into Purpose and Embracing Emotional Healing
12:58 Harnessing Positive Energy and Confidence for Personal Growth
18:21 Embracing Authenticity Through Self-Acceptance and Vulnerability
22:42 The Journey of Forgiveness, Self-Awareness, and Personal Growth
26:34 Confidence as the New Executive Currency

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30 min
October 02, 2025 Stop Telling People to “Just Get Over It"!
Ep. 33 Some words sting deeper than we realize. When someone has been through trauma, “just get over it” isn’t advice — it’s rejection. 💔
In this heartfelt episode, I share what it really means to heal: to feel, to process, to reframe, and to intentionally do the work of getting free. Healing doesn’t happen because of age or time — it happens when you learn how to walk through it.
Sis, if you’ve ever been told to “just get over it,” this one’s for you. You are not alone. You have the power to shift your story and take control of how trauma shows up in your life. 🌱
🎧 Tune in to hear my heart and a message of hope: stop hurting, start healing, and know that I got you. 💕
RESOURCES & CONNECT
Learn more about Dr. Pamala Brown-Grinion, Founder of Emotional Etiquette™, and explore resources on trauma-informed leadership, women's professional development, Emotional Authority™, executive transformation, professional etiquette, and executive presence.
Website: totallyyou-nique.com
Instagram: @iamdrpamala
TikTok: @iamdrpamala
YouTube: @iamdrpamala
LinkedIn: Dr. Pamala Brown-Grinion | @iamdrpamala
Facebook: Totally “You”-nique Educational Consultants, LLC
Home of Emotional Etiquette™: Totally “You”-nique Educational Consultants, LLC

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16 min
September 18, 2025 7 Pillars of Emotional Etiquette with Dr. Pamala Brown-Grinion
Ep. 32 What does it really take to rise with grace, confidence, and emotional authority?
In this episode of Grace & Grind, Dr. Pamala Brown-Grinion shares insights from her upcoming book She Rises, a powerful prequel to Emotional: The Hidden Language of Healed Women.
She introduces the 7 Pillars of Emotional Etiquette—a healing-centered framework that transforms how women lead, communicate, and thrive:
1️⃣ Emotional Awareness – You can’t regulate what you don’t recognize
2️⃣ Emotional Atonement – Feel it to free it
3️⃣ Emotional Regulation – Pause is power
4️⃣ Emotional Tact – Say it with softness and strength
5️⃣ Emotional Boundaries – Every healthy yes needs a confident no
6️⃣ Emotional Discipline – Stay grounded when it gets gritty
7️⃣ Emotional Reframing – Change how you see it, change how you heal
💎 Together, these pillars move you from being emotionally reactive to emotionally refined—empowering you to lead with clarity, compassion, and unshakable confidence.
🎧 Tune in now to learn how to embody this framework and step fully into the woman you’re becoming.

✨ Free Emotional Etiquette Masterclass
Join Dr. Pamala Brown-Grinion for a live, interactive session every 2nd & 4th Thursday from 6–7:30 PM. 👉 Register Here

💎 10-Week Emotional Etiquette Bootcamp
Go deeper into the 7 Pillars of Emotional Etiquette with Dr. Brown-Grinion’s transformational 10-week program.
Begins Tuesday, September 30th, 6–8 PM. 👉 Sign Up Here

🎙 The Aligned Entrepreneur Pod-a-Thon
Be part of our first live studio audience on Saturday, September 27th at WXXI, Rochester, NY. Join Dr. Pamala Brown-Grinion and fellow JazzCast Pros hosts for a day of inspiration, strategy, and real talk on business and self-growth.
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Chapters:
0:00 – Welcome to Grace & Grind with Dr. Pamala Brown-Grinion
1:30 – Introducing Emotional Etiquette: A Framework for Women Leaders
4:19 – Why Traditional Etiquette Isn’t Enough Without Healing
7:31 – From Trauma to Transformation: Dr. Brown-Grinion’s Journey
10:32 – Aligning Inner Healing with Outer Presence
14:13 – What Is Emotional Etiquette? The Hidden Language of Leadership
18:06 – Claiming Your Emotional Authority
21:28 – The 7 Pillars of Emotional Etiquette Explained
22:07 – Pillar 1: Emotional Awareness – You can’t regulate what you don’t recognize
22:48 – Pillar 2: Emotional Atonement – Feel it to free it
23:27 – Pillar 3: Emotional Regulation – Pause is power
24:12 – Pillar 4: Emotional Tact – Say it with softness and strength
24:51 – Pillar 5: Emotional Boundaries – Every healthy yes needs a confident no
26:04 – Pillar 6: Emotional Discipline – Stay grounded when it gets gritty
26:43 – Pillar 7: Emotional Reframing – Change how you see it, change how you heal
28:00 – Reframing Trauma Through Emotional Authority
30:52 – Turning Trauma Into Wisdom and Growth
34:06 – Practices for Releasing and Rewriting Your Story
34:56 – Free Masterclass, Bootcamp, and Pod-a-Thon Invitations
36:28 – Closing Message: You Have the Power

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40 min
September 04, 2025 Black Excellence and the Power of Presence with Lady Trenette Wilson
Ep. 31 If you think etiquette is just about table manners, you’re missing the bigger picture. In today’s competitive world, soft skills are power skills — the very tools that open doors, command respect, and build lasting legacies.
On this week’s episode of Grace & Grind, Dr. Pam sits down with bestselling author and etiquette powerhouse Lady Trenette Wilson for an unforgettable conversation on the art of grace, emotional intelligence, and leadership. Together, they unpack:
💎 Why etiquette is an essential skill for executive women in 2025
💎 How to master “emotional etiquette” and keep your power under pressure
💎 The untold stories of Black excellence fueling Lady T’s new series Hunter’s Point
✨ This isn’t just a talk about refinement — it’s about empowerment, presence, and purpose.
About Lady Trenette Wilson
Professionally known as Lady T, she is the founder and CEO of the National Association of Urban Etiquette Professionals (NAUEP), the nation’s largest etiquette association serving underserved communities. With over 25 years of experience, more than 50 published etiquette books, and her popular YouTube channel Royal, Black, and Elite (15K+ subscribers, 2M views), Lady T is a nationally recognized voice for excellence and empowerment.

🔗 Resources from this episode:
• Royal, Black, and Elite YouTube Channel
• National Association of Urban Etiquette Professionals
• Lady T’s upcoming book: Respect the Game

🎟️ Want more conversations like this live? Join Dr. Pam and the Grace & Grind family at the Aligned Entrepreneur Pod-a-Thon — where you can be part of the studio audience, connect with powerful women, and meet your favorite podcast hosts in person.
Get VIP tix at JazzCast Pros.com
Use Promo Code EARLY
September 27, 2025 at WXXI Public Media in Rochester, NY

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55 min
August 21, 2025Stop Living a Double Life | How to Lead from a Place of Wholeness
Ep. 30 What does alignment really mean for women in leadership? In this episode of Grace + Grind, Dr. Pamala Brown-Grinion gets real about the challenges of living authentically when your public persona doesn’t match your private reality.
In this episode Dr. Pam shares why wholeness—the integration of your inner and outer worlds—is becoming the new standard for women leaders, plus practical steps to build character, protect your energy, and foster genuine trust.
Authenticity isn’t optional—it’s the cornerstone of transformational leadership.

Contact Dr. Pam and learn more about the Wholeness as the new standard for Women Leaders training program
RESOURCES & CONNECT
Learn more about Dr. Pamala Brown-Grinion, Founder of Emotional Etiquette™, and explore resources on trauma-informed leadership, women's professional development, Emotional Authority™, executive transformation, professional etiquette, and executive presence.
Website: totallyyou-nique.com
Instagram: @iamdrpamala
TikTok: @iamdrpamala
YouTube: @iamdrpamala
LinkedIn: Dr. Pamala Brown-Grinion | @iamdrpamala
Facebook: Totally “You”-nique Educational Consultants, LLC
Home of Emotional Etiquette™: Totally “You”-nique Educational Consultants, LLC
💡 What you’ll learn:
Why alignment between your inner values and outer actions creates credibility & trust.

How misalignment leads to exhaustion, broken relationships, and lost integrity.

Dr. Pam’s RAPID framework (Responsibility, Accountability, Passion, Integrity, Discipline) for building authentic leadership.

The role of truth-tellers and accountability circles in sustaining growth.
#GraceAndGrind #AlignedEntrepreneur #WomenInLeadership #AuthenticLeadership

Chapters:
0:00 Wholeness as the New Standard for Women Leaders
2:36 Authenticity in Leadership and Its Impact on Trust
6:43 The Importance of Authenticity and Alignment in Leadership
12:36 Aligning Personal Values Through Self-Audit and Consistency
15:45 Building Authentic Connections Through Accountability Circles
17:52 Aligning Public and Private Selves for Authentic Living

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27 min
July 24, 2025R&D Tax Credit – The New Goldrush for Businesses
Ep. 29 Think R&D tax credits are just for tech giants? Think again.
In this episode of Grace & Grind, Dr. Pamala Brown-Grinion sits down with Mike Hinsvard, Managing Partner at Dreams Business Resources, to reveal a massive financial opportunity that many small to mid-sized business leaders are missing: the quintupled R&D tax credit.
Whether you're in manufacturing, construction, or even the service industry—this credit could mean tens of thousands back in your pocket.
What You’ll Learn:
✅ How to qualify for the R&D tax credit
✅ Why this isn’t just for Silicon Valley
✅ How to amend past tax returns for a bigger refund
✅ The truth behind payroll tax savings
✅ How you can refer businesses and earn

💬 “Too often small and medium businesses just simply are not taking advantage of R&D and many other incentives.” – Mike Hinsvard

🎧 Don’t miss this episode if you're ready to lead smarter and save bigger.
👉 Join here:
🔗 Apply for your tax credit
🔗 Join the referral program

Connect with Dr. Pam
Facebook: Totally You-nique Educational Consultants, LLC
LinkedIn: Dr. Pamala Brown-Grinion
TikTok: @TYECLLC
Website: Totallyyou-nique – Consulting
00:00 Topic Teaser
00:54 Introducing Mike Hinsvard
01:57 Quintupled Changes to the Tax Credit
03:29 Dispelling Myths About Eligibility
04:51 Processes and Services That Qualify
06:47 Shift in Claiming R&D Expenses
08:06 Biggest Payroll Tax Refund Opportunity
09:47 Importance of Knowing Tax Credits
11:47 Common Misconceptions
13:55 How the R&D Gold Rush Works
16:32 State Tax Credits and Other Benefits
18:52 Navigating Changes in Tax Laws
20:52 Opportunities for Team Members
23:12 Conclusion and Call to Action
#GraceAndGrind #BusinessTaxCredit #WomenInLeadership #FinancialStrategy #ExecutiveWisdom #SmallBusinessWins

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38 min
July 23, 2025 For High Powered Women in High Heels (Trailer)
Grace & Grind is back—and more unapologetically powerful than ever.
You've built the brand, hit the metrics, and led the team... but something still feels off. If you're tired of performing and ready to lead from a place of truth, this podcast is your executive she-shed. ✨
New episodes every other Thursday on the JazzCast Pros Network.
Tune in For:
🧠 Inner healing
🫀 Emotional intelligence
💪🏾 Self-mastery

Join Dr. Pamala Brown-Grinion, executive leadership coach and certified etiquette expert, as she helps high-powered women shed the mask, face the mirror, and rise into real leadership.
🎧 Subscribe / follow the podcast and prepare to meet the most powerful version of yourself.
#GraceAndGrind #AuthenticLeadership #WomenInBusiness #PodcastForWomen #ExecutiveCoaching

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3 min
July 10, 2025Rewire Your Brain. Heal From Trauma with the Power of Neuroplasticity
Ep. 28 Dr. Pamala Brown-Grinion delves into the world of neuroplasticity, exploring how it can empower you to reshape your responses to emotional trauma.
Drawing from personal experiences and professional insights, she provides strategies for reframing adverse experiences to foster healing and growth.
This episode underscores the power of mindset shifts and positive affirmations in overcoming past trauma, emphasizing that it's never too late for change. Whether dealing with past abuse or seeking personal development, this discussion offers valuable guidance for cultivating emotional resilience and authentic leadership.
Notable Quotes:
"You have the power to control how your experiences show up in your life."

"Neuroplasticity is your brain's beautiful and miraculous ability to reorganize itself by forming neural connections throughout your life."

"If you spend all your time looking for the dark cloud, then you're going to experience the dark cloud."

"Confidence is the new Social Currency"

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Facebook: Totally You-nique Educational Consultants, LLC
LinkedIn: Dr. Pamala Brown-Grinion
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Website: Totallyyou-nique – Consulting

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32 min