In this episode of Grandma Has ADHD, Jami speaks with ADHD coach and keynote speaker Elle O'Flaherty. Elle shares her journey from being a high-achieving attorney to discovering her ADHD and transitioning into coaching. They discuss the challenges of ADHD in adults, especially seniors, and how to navigate executive function struggles, organization, and life transitions like retirement. Elle also talks about being raised by an ADHD mom and raising ADHD children, highlighting the generational shifts in understanding neurodiversity.

In this episode we:

• [00:03:00] Jami shares Elle’s background as a lawyer, ADHD coach, and keynote speaker, and how she helps professionals succeed.
• [00:05:00] Elle reflects on how her mother’s undiagnosed ADHD influenced parenting and household organization.
• [00:07:00] Elle explains her late ADHD diagnosis, the challenges she faced as a lawyer, and how she transitioned into coaching.
• [00:15:00] Elle discusses being raised by an ADHD mom, parenting ADHD children, and breaking gender role expectations.
• [00:20:00] Elle and Jami discuss why older adults are often overlooked in ADHD research and diagnosis.
• [00:31:00] Elle shares tips for embracing ADHD, finding community, and using the right tools to thrive.

Resources Mentioned:

• Elle O’Flaherty’s Website: www.interlacesolutions.com
• Sign up for her newsletter for ADHD tips and strategies.
• Verywell ADHD - The magazine Jami mentioned around 04:46. You can find this special edition at newsstands until March 21st.
  
  

Thank you for joining us for this episode of Grandma Has ADHD! We hope Jami's journey and insights into ADHD shed light on the unique challenges faced by older adults. Stay tuned for more episodes where we’ll explore helpful resources, share personal stories, and provide guidance for those navigating ADHD. Don’t forget to subscribe and share this podcast with friends who might benefit. Remember, Make the rest of your life the best of your life.

Follow us:

Instagram:

@grandma_has_adhd
@silverliningstransitions

Facebook

Silver Linings Transitions
Grandma Has ADHD (Facebook Page & Group)

Youtube:

Grandma Has ADHD

In this special Valentine’s week episode of Grandma Has ADHD, host Jami Shapiro welcomes back Coach Diane D for Part 2 of their discussion. This time, they dive deep into sexuality, intimacy, and body confidence for people with ADHD as they age. From self-pleasure and communication tips to overcoming body image struggles, this conversation is all about embracing pleasure at any stage of life.

Content Warning: This episode contains open discussions about sex and intimacy. Listener discretion is advised.

In this episode we:

• [00:02:00] Coach Diane D returns to discuss body confidence, intimacy, and maintaining a fulfilling sex life as we age.
• [00:04:00] The impact of ADHD on self-perception and how negative thoughts can prevent intimacy.
• [00:07:00] The difference between masturbation and self-pleasuring, and how to reconnect with your body through touch and sensations.
• [00:12:00] Techniques for exploring erogenous zones, using different textures and vibrations, and discovering personal preferences.
• [00:20:00] Coach Diane shares stories of clients overcoming intimacy struggles, communication barriers, and relationship challenges.
• [00:30:00] How aging affects sexual function, the importance of communication, and medical options for addressing physical challenges.
• [00:33:00] Information on where to find Coach Diane online, her coaching services, and upcoming resources.
  
  

Resources Mentioned:

• Coach Diane D’s Website: www.dianedelina.com
• Coach Diane D’s Ebook: Sexuality & ADHD Truths and Solutions
• Link to the Erotic Blueprint Breakthrough Program: https://go.theblueprintbreakthrough.net/t?orid=78811&opid=2
• Link to the Erotic Blueprint Quiz: https://go.theblueprintbreakthrough.net/t?orid=78811&opid=2
  
  

Thank you for joining us for this episode of Grandma Has ADHD! We hope Jami's journey and insights into ADHD shed light on the unique challenges faced by older adults. Stay tuned for more episodes where we’ll explore helpful resources, share personal stories, and provide guidance for those navigating ADHD. Don’t forget to subscribe and share this podcast with friends who might benefit. Remember, Make the rest of your life the best of your life.

Follow us:

Instagram:

@grandma_has_adhd
@silverliningstransitions

Facebook

Silver Linings Transitions
Grandma Has ADHD (Facebook Page & Group)

Youtube:

Grandma Has ADHD

In this episode of Grandma Has ADHD, Jami sits down with Coach Diane D., a registered therapist, ADHD coach, and certified sexuality coach. They discuss Diane’s journey with ADHD and autism, her experiences as a mother, and how ADHD affects relationships and intimacy. Diane also shares insights into sexuality coaching, including the Erotic Blueprint framework, and offers advice for individuals and couples navigating intimacy with ADHD.

In this episode we:

• [00:02:00] Jami shares how Rejection Sensitive Dysphoria (RSD) can affect emotions.
• [00:05:00] Diane reflects on her childhood, lack of structure, struggles with self-esteem, and early signs of ADHD.
• [00:07:00] She talks about being a young mother, struggles with organization, and how structure helped her manage ADHD.
• [00:10:00] Diane describes how she realized she had ADHD in a college class and the difficulty in finding resources.
• [00:16:00] She shares her journey of selling everything to travel, house-sitting, and embracing a free-spirited lifestyle.
• [00:20:00] Diane explains how she became a certified sexuality coach and the importance of understanding different sexual needs.
• [00:30:00] She shares advice for couples dealing with ADHD and aging, including communication, boundaries, and spicing up intimacy.

Resources Mentioned:

• The Erotic Blueprint Framework is a system created by sexologist JAIYA that helps people understand their unique sexual preferences and needs, similar to the Five Love Languages but for intimacy. It identifies five different "blueprints" or sexual personalities:

1. Energetic – Enjoys anticipation, teasing, and deep emotional connection.
2. Sensual – Loves touch, ambiance, and engaging all the senses.
3. Sexual – Prefers straightforward, passionate, and physical intimacy.
4. Kinky – Excited by the taboo, whether psychological (power play) or physical (bondage, etc.).
5. Shapeshifter – Enjoys all the blueprints and craves variety.

• Coach Diane D’s Website: www.dianedelina.com
• Coach Diane D’s Ebook: Sexuality & ADHD Truths and Solutions
• Link to the Erotic Blueprint Breakthrough Program: https://go.theblueprintbreakthrough.net/t?orid=78811&opid=2
• Link to the Erotic Blueprint Quiz: https://go.theblueprintbreakthrough.net/t?orid=78811&opid=2
  
  
  

Thank you for joining us for this episode of Grandma Has ADHD! We hope Jami's journey and insights into ADHD shed light on the unique challenges faced by older adults. Stay tuned for more episodes where we’ll explore helpful resources, share personal stories, and provide guidance for those navigating ADHD. Don’t forget to subscribe and share this podcast with friends who might benefit. Remember, Make the rest of your life the best of your life.

Follow us:

Instagram:

@grandma_has_adhd
@silverliningstransitions

Facebook

Silver Linings Transitions
Grandma Has ADHD (Facebook Page & Group)

Youtube:

Grandma Has ADHD

In this special birthday episode of Grandma Has ADHD, host Jami Shapiro is joined by two very important guests—her oldest child, Will, and her mother, Vicky. Together, they explore the experience of ADHD across three generations, sharing stories, struggles, and insights into how ADHD manifests differently in each of them.

ADHD often runs in families, and many parents only recognize their own ADHD after their children are diagnosed. Jami reflects on her journey of self-discovery, her mother's late diagnosis, and how their experiences shaped their family dynamic. Will shares their own perspective on growing up with an ADHD parent and grandparent, while Vicky talks about her years of undiagnosed ADHD and how the diagnosis has helped her reframe her life experiences.

In this episode we:

• [00:02:00] Jami introduces family members representing three generations living with ADHD.
• [00:06:00] Each generation shares their experiences with ADHD, from childhood struggles to adult challenges.
• [00:15:00] The guests compare how ADHD was understood and diagnosed in their respective generations.
• [00:22:00] Jami and her mom Vicky talk about raising kids with ADHD while having ADHD themselves.
• [00:30:00] Each generation shares the tools and techniques that have helped them navigate life with ADHD.
• [00:35:00] The guests reflect on the importance of understanding, self-acceptance, and advocating for ADHD awareness in families.

Resources Mentioned:

• Silver Linings Transitions - Jami's company that offers move management and home organization support for seniors with ADHD.

Thank you for joining us for this episode of Grandma Has ADHD! We hope Jami's journey and insights into ADHD shed light on the unique challenges faced by older adults. Stay tuned for more episodes where we’ll explore helpful resources, share personal stories, and provide guidance for those navigating ADHD. Don’t forget to subscribe and share this podcast with friends who might benefit. Remember, Make the rest of your life the best of your life.

Follow us:

Instagram:

@grandma_has_adhd
@silverliningstransitions

Facebook

Silver Linings Transitions
Grandma Has ADHD (Facebook Page & Group)

Youtube:

Grandma Has ADHD

In this episode of Grandma Has ADHD, host Jami Shapiro sits down with Judith Rosen, a licensed clinical social worker with ADHD and a wealth of lived and professional experience. Judith shares her late ADHD diagnosis journey at age 36, her decision to pivot careers in her fifties, and how her ADHD diagnosis empowered her academic and professional success.

The conversation dives deep into the challenges and strengths of living with ADHD at any age, the importance of addressing shame, and practical strategies for managing ADHD symptoms. Judith also emphasizes the transformative power of diagnosis and treatment, particularly for older adults.

In this episode we:

• [00:03:00] Talk about the genetic component of ADHD and Judith’s self-medication with nicotine before her diagnosis.
• [00:05:00] Explore Judith’s diagnosis journey and how an episode of Oprah led to her life-changing realization.
• [00:07:00] Discuss differences in ADHD presentations, such as inattentive versus hyperactive types, and how they can vary within families.
• [00:12:00] Address why recognizing ADHD in older adults matters and how it can improve quality of life through strategies and self-compassion.
• [00:14:00] Focus on combating shame associated with lifelong ADHD and the importance of physical and mental activity after 50.
• [00:18:00] Highlight effective ADHD strategies like the Pomodoro method, habit stacking, and acknowledging small achievements with a "to-done" list.
• [00:23:00] Discuss practical tips to overcome procrastination and time blindness, such as identifying personal pivot points.
• [00:26:00] Celebrate the creativity, problem-solving skills, and unique strengths of people with ADHD.
• [00:31:00] Judith emphasizes the transformative potential of an ADHD diagnosis, regardless of age.

Resources Mentioned:

• Judith Rosen's Website: www.JudithEveRosen.com
• Finch App for building healthy habits.
• The Adult ADHD and Anxiety Workbook by Russell Ramsay
• Learn more about ADHD at CHADD and ADDA
  
  
  

Thank you for joining us for this episode of Grandma Has ADHD! We hope Jami's journey and insights into ADHD shed light on the unique challenges faced by older adults. Stay tuned for more episodes where we’ll explore helpful resources, share personal stories, and provide guidance for those navigating ADHD. Don’t forget to subscribe and share this podcast with friends who might benefit. Remember, Make the rest of your life the best of your life.

Follow us:

Instagram:

@grandma_has_adhd
@silverliningstransitions

Facebook

Silver Linings Transitions
Grandma Has ADHD (Facebook Page & Group)

Youtube:

Grandma Has ADHD

In this episode, host Jami welcomes Wilma Fellman, a counselor, author, and expert in career and life transitions, to discuss the often-overlooked topic of retirement for adults with ADHD. Wilma shares her insights into how ADHD individuals can navigate the challenges of retirement, reassess their strengths, and find meaningful ways to spend their time post-career. Drawing from her own experience of retiring three times and her work with clients, Wilma offers practical advice and inspiring stories about the limitless potential of life after retirement.


In this episode we:

• [00:02:00] Wilma explains her "life chapters" concept, emphasizing planning for the post-retirement chapter to avoid anxiety and find meaningful activities.
• [00:04:00]  Wilma shares how her son’s ADHD diagnosis led to her own discovery in the 1980s, highlighting the lack of awareness about ADHD in women at the time.
• [00:10:00] Jami and Wilma discuss how focusing on strengths can help ADHD individuals find fulfilling careers and navigate life challenges.
• [00:14:00] Wilma shares an emotional poem she wrote for her non-ADHD child, reflecting the challenges and love within a neurodiverse family.
• [00:16:00] Wilma explains her unique "squirtle" identity—a mix of squirrel and turtle—symbolizing the boundless energy and need for rest that ADHD brings.
• [00:22:00] Jami and Wilma discuss the intergenerational impact of ADHD, from parents to children, and how recognizing patterns can lead to better understanding and support.
• [00:23:00] Wilma shares the importance of planning for retirement like any other life stage and how reassessing strengths and interests can lead to meaningful post-retirement activities.
• [00:26:00] Wilma explains how career coaching can help retirees rediscover their passions and avoid feelings of isolation and aimlessness.
• [00:32:00] Wilma emphasizes that every stage of life can be vibrant and purposeful, encouraging listeners to assess where they are today and pursue what lights them up.
  
  

Resources Mentioned:

• Link to the Edge Foundation: https://edgefoundation.org/
• Link to Wilma’s book “Finding A Career That Works For You”: https://bit.ly/4atVNgX

Thank you for joining us for this episode of Grandma Has ADHD! We hope Jami's journey and insights into ADHD shed light on the unique challenges faced by older adults. Stay tuned for more episodes where we’ll explore helpful resources, share personal stories, and provide guidance for those navigating ADHD. Don’t forget to subscribe and share this podcast with friends who might benefit. Remember, Make the rest of your life the best of your life.

Follow us:

Instagram:

@grandma_has_adhd
@silverliningstransitions

Facebook

Silver Linings Transitions
Grandma Has ADHD (Facebook Page & Group)

Youtube:

Grandma Has ADHD

In this episode, Jami sits down with ADHD coach Corie Wightlin to discuss her personal ADHD journey, the power of mindfulness, and how seniors and their families can better understand and support ADHD. Corie shares actionable tips for regulating emotions, building self-compassion, and creating systems that work for ADHD brains. Whether you're navigating ADHD yourself or supporting a loved one, this episode is packed with insights and inspiration.

In this episode we:

• [00:02:00] Corie shares her experience of growing up with an ADHD dad, her diagnosis, and how ADHD impacted her life and parenting.
• [00:10:00] Corie explains how mindfulness techniques like pausing and reframing thoughts can help manage ADHD.
• [00:19:00] Corie explains how taking small actions can lead to motivation, even when it feels impossible to start.
• [00:25:00] Corie introduces the concept of a dopamine menu—different strategies to spark energy and reward yourself.
• [00:28:00] Corie emphasizes the importance of resetting routines and habits at any time.
• [00:30:00] Corie and Jami encourage listeners to embrace self-compassion in their ADHD journey.

Resources Mentioned:

• Corie Wightlin’s Website: www.WightlinCoachingServices.com
• Phone: 619-549-0472
• Books: "The Untethered Soul" by Michael Singer

Thank you for joining us for this episode of Grandma Has ADHD! We hope Jami's journey and insights into ADHD shed light on the unique challenges faced by older adults. Stay tuned for more episodes where we’ll explore helpful resources, share personal stories, and provide guidance for those navigating ADHD. Don’t forget to subscribe and share this podcast with friends who might benefit. Remember, Make the rest of your life the best of your life.

Follow us:

Instagram:

@grandma_has_adhd
@silverliningstransitions

Facebook

Silver Linings Transitions
Grandma Has ADHD (Facebook Page & Group)

Youtube:

Grandma Has ADHD

In this episode, Jami Shapiro speaks with Cathi Nelson, the visionary CEO and founder of The Photo Managers, the world's leading educational community dedicated to helping individuals and businesses manage, organize, and preserve their photo and video collections. 

Together, they discuss the significance of photos in preserving memories, the emotional and practical challenges of organizing and preserving photo collections, especially for people with ADHD. Cathi shares practical tips for tackling photo organization, the emotional connection to our visual histories, and how to create manageable systems. Whether you're organizing decades of family photos or wondering where to start, this episode offers actionable advice and inspiration.

In this episode we:

• [00:02:00] Cathi shares her journey as a visionary in photo management and her connection to ADHD.
• [00:07:00] Discuss how ADHD affects executive functioning and makes organizing photos overwhelming.
• [00:18:00] Cathi introduces her simple system for sorting photos: A for archival, B for keep in the box, and C for discard.
• [00:24:00] Why it’s okay to let go of photos and focus on the ones that tell meaningful stories.
• [00:29:00] Tips for tackling photo projects in manageable chunks using timers and a clear goal.
• [00:34:00] Cathi and Jami share how to approach ADHD with kindness and humor, turning perceived flaws into strengths.
• [00:37:00] Cathi emphasizes the importance of preserving memories and reminds listeners they don’t have to tackle photo projects alone.

Resources Mentioned:

• Faster Than Normal by Peter Shankman - Cathi suspected she had ADHD when she read this book.
• Cathi suggests ranking photos by A,B,C,S: 
  A= archival, album worthy
  B= Not sure box with a note that says “my permission to dispose when I pass” allowing family members to keep what’s important rather than feeling obligated to keep all photos.
  C= Can throw away anything blurry or scenery
  S= What is the story behind the photo
• www.thephotomanagers.com - Cathi’s company website
  
  

Thank you for joining us for this episode of Grandma Has ADHD! We hope Jami's journey and insights into ADHD shed light on the unique challenges faced by older adults. Stay tuned for more episodes where we’ll explore helpful resources, share personal stories, and provide guidance for those navigating ADHD. Don’t forget to subscribe and share this podcast with friends who might benefit. Remember, Make the rest of your life the best of your life.

Follow us:

Instagram:

@grandma_has_adhd
@silverliningstransitions

Facebook

Silver Linings Transitions
Grandma Has ADHD (Facebook Page & Group)

Youtube:

Grandma Has ADHD

In this special solo episode, host Jami Shapiro opens up about her experiences with ADHD and shares her thoughts on embracing a new year with kindness, self-awareness, and optimism. Jami dives into the importance of setting realistic goals, building community, and finding gratitude amidst the chaos. She also reflects on her journey as a podcast host, her takeaways from the international ADHD conference, and the many gifts of living with ADHD.

Key Takeaways:

• [00:01:14] Authenticity Matters: Jami shares why staying real and embracing imperfections is her personal and professional mantra.
• [00:04:21] New Year’s Perspective: A fresh start doesn’t have to wait for New Year’s Day you can make changes anytime.
• [00:06:06] Choosing a Word of the Year: Jami reveals her 2025 word and how it helps shift her mindset toward positivity and trust.
• [00:08:33] 30 Days of Gratitude: Jami discusses her gratitude challenge and how focusing on the positive transforms your outlook.
• [00:13:46] Lessons from the ADHD Conference: Highlights include meeting Penn Holderness and learning the importance of celebrating ADHD’s strengths.
• [00:19:24] ADHD Challenges and Solutions: The importance of planning for forgetfulness, managing clutter, and embracing your strengths.
• [00:28:00] Celebrating ADHD Strengths: Jami encourages listeners to find the silver linings in ADHD and shares inspiring stories from past podcast guests.

Resources Mentioned:

Books:

• You Are a Badass by Jen Sincero
• The Surrender Experiment by Michael Singer

Guest Mentions:

• Dr. Ken Druck and his work on resilience and grief
• Penn Holderness and his experiences with ADHD

Thank you for joining us for this episode of Grandma Has ADHD! We hope Jami's journey and insights into ADHD shed light on the unique challenges faced by older adults. Stay tuned for more episodes where we’ll explore helpful resources, share personal stories, and provide guidance for those navigating ADHD. Don’t forget to subscribe and share this podcast with friends who might benefit. Remember, Make the rest of your life the best of your life.

Follow us:

Instagram:

@grandma_has_adhd
@silverliningstransitions

Facebook

Silver Linings Transitions
Grandma Has ADHD (Facebook Page & Group)

Youtube:

Grandma Has ADHD

In this inspiring episode of Grandma Has ADHD, Jami welcomes special guest Heidi Eagleton, a 76-year-old trailblazer who has lived an extraordinary life with ADHD. Heidi shares her journey from undiagnosed challenges in her youth to becoming a lawyer, architect, and now a memoir writer. She dives into the importance of recognizing and embracing ADHD's unique strengths, including creativity, resilience, and hyperfocus, while addressing the struggles that come with aging and ADHD.

Together, Jami and Heidi discuss the stigma around ADHD in older adults, why diagnosis matters even later in life, and how seniors can harness their ADHD traits to live fulfilling lives. Heidi also shares her favorite hacks for navigating life without medication and emphasizes the power of self-acceptance and celebrating differences.

In this episode we:

• [00:04:13] Share Heidi’s personal journey with ADHD and her diagnosis in her 60s.
• [00:08:46] Explore Heidi's wake-up call involving health issues and her decision to manage ADHD without medication.
• [00:10:30] Discuss Heidi's approach to harnessing ADHD strengths, like creativity and tenacity, in her career and personal life.
• [00:18:45] Talk about Heidi's career transitions from law to architecture and her passion for teaching.
• [00:20:57] Touch on the dynamics of ADHD and OCD in relationships, including Heidi’s long-lasting marriage.
• [00:22:44] Highlight the stigma around ADHD in older adults and the importance of focusing on its positive aspects.
• [00:25:00] Emphasize the value of ADHD traits, like hyperfocus, and the need for older adults to embrace their unique strengths.
  
  

Resources Mentioned:

• Heidi Eagleton’s Website: www.heidieagleton.com
• Heidi’s email address: [email protected]

Thank you for joining us for this episode of Grandma Has ADHD! We hope Jami's journey and insights into ADHD shed light on the unique challenges faced by older adults. Stay tuned for more episodes where we’ll explore helpful resources, share personal stories, and provide guidance for those navigating ADHD. Don’t forget to subscribe and share this podcast with friends who might benefit. Remember, Make the rest of your life the best of your life.

Follow us:

Instagram:

@grandma_has_adhd
@silverliningstransitions

Facebook

Silver Linings Transitions
Grandma Has ADHD (Facebook Page & Group)

Youtube:

Grandma Has ADHD