We all like to think of ourselves as kind. However, actually giving to others isn't always natural and can feel wrong when we work so hard for what we have.

We love to find ways to save time and do more to help others whilst having good things come back to us. This episode explains some ideas and benefits for a framework that makes giving much easier and without any surprises costing time or money you don't have.

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Morning routines are supposed to set you up for a day of success and a life of happiness and joy.

Yet most self-improvement and productivity advice on morning routines does the opposite. It makes you feel like a failure who will never be good enough and isn't made of the right stuff to ever succeed.

We break down the problems with most advice and how to actually improve your day and your life with a morning routine that actually works.

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00:00 Morning routines and toxic productivity

01:51 #1 Do the thing that you find hard to do at any other time

03:21 #2 Plan your day before

03:53 #3 Sleep

05:22 Be Adaptable

06:20 Match what you want to do with what you want to have done

07:33 A few questions to ask yourself

07:44 What do I struggle to do in a day?

08:04 What do I need to change to plan for tomorrow better?

08:27 How can I improve my sleep?

09:35 What is on my want to have done list, but doesn't actually ever appear on my want to do list.

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Catastrophizing is a type of cognitive distortion. It's a faulty and inaccurate way of thinking that involves imagining the worst possible outcome in a given situation.

Catastrophizing can hold people back in life, work, and relationships and we all do it in some way, and some of us do it a lot more than others.

Understanding the natural psychological processes behind catastrophizing can help us build awareness and learn to create a more balanced and productive view of our futures.

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00:00 What is catastrophising

03:00 Build awareness

05:52 Magnifying and minimising

07:15 The problem with imagined details

08:58 The human tendency to invent stories

12:01 Catastrophizing and being diagnosed with ADHD

14:56 Balancing worst and best scenarios

16:02 Social anxiety

17:48 Write a journal

19:10 Alex Hormozi selling gym subscriptions

19:48 Want and don't want chair

22:08 4 step method for mitigating catastrophization

22:13 Step 1 - Awareness 

23:20 Step 2 - Challenging the thought

24:03 Step 3 - Imagine the best

24:34 Step 4 - Accept uncertainty

26:19 Catastrophizing is the opposite of Growth mindset

26:40 Therapy & CBT

29:20 Episode Summary

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Stoicism is the time-tested solution to life's problems and living with a greater peace of mind. In this mini-series of how to stop complaining we couldn't skip over the OG's of not complaining.

This episode breaks down the 5 most important concepts from Stoicism and how to apply them in the modern day:

With a few stories from Seneca, Epictetus, and Marcus Aurelius we get a great reminder of what's important in life =)

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00:00 Intro to Stoicism

01:59 1st concept - The dichotomy of control

04:33 2nd concept - Love of fate

08:08 3rd concept - negative visualization

09:55 4th concept - Virtue is the soul good

13:01 5th concept - Mindful acceptance

17:01 Outro

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Complaining can be a very good diagnostic tool for identifying the actual problems in our life. The key is not just to sit around complaining about the same things year by year to learn how the important issues affect us and how to fix them.

Awareness of the major flaws in our situation and mindsets allows us to make a strategy for how we want to address them going forwards and build a life we don't complain about.

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00:00 Problems and illusions of the mind

00:41 General framework for complaints

01:28 3 types of problems

01:59 1st type of problem - the problem you want to have

02:35 2nd type of problem - the problem you can do nothing about

04:01 3rd problem - the problems you do not want to have

04:50 Issues of fixed mindsets

05:57 Community and purpose

07:15 Too many interests and desires

10:29 Assessing the scale of a problem

11:56 How our problems change over time

13:01 Turning complaints into tools

15:00 Some wise words

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No one likes people who complain and yet it is so hard to stop complaining about problems in our life. Gratitude is sold as the answer to all our happiness woes. Stop having expectations, be happy and grateful for what you have, and never let another day go to waste.

It's so simple and yet it doesn't work because it isn't that easy.

This episode covers the most powerful strategy that has helped people find gratitude in many areas they didn't feel possible without meditating, journaling or re-aligning their chakras. Just some simple psychology and reframing the information in their heads to make them see what they already know.

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00:00 Introduction to the flaw with gratitude

00:35 Standard tips on how to build gratitude

00:54 Issues with gratitude - focusing on problems

01:38 Example - Lawn being ruined

02:18 Example - Arctic trip

02:57 Example - Frustrating emails

04:16 Recurring theme - great achievements will come with problems

06:14 Planning ahead

08:00 Example - Social influencer trolls

08:53 Example - Romantic partner problems

09:37 Recap - Notice to see the positive side of things

11:35 Next week's episode - Problems you don't want to have

11:42 Outro

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The Go For it Window was a concept introduced by David Perrel to help people spot giant opportunities in their life. Opportunities come around regularly but are mostly missed because we don't see them for what they are. Learning to spot luck as it happens and seize life's big chances is key to our success.

Developing a mindset that embraces change and discomfort is an essential part of the Growth Mindset and making the most of the "Go For it Windows" in our life.

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00:06 Intro

00:25 Overview of the "Go for It Window"

01:20 David Perell's explanation

03:50 People are blind to opportunities - have contrarian views

04:52 David Perell's example - AirBnB

05:41 Example #2 - Not getting a degree

06:40 Sam investing in Free Trade

07:19 Sam investing in a men's make-up company 

09:32 Quote from Thomas Edison 

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Nir Eyal is a behavioural expert and bestselling author in the field of attention. His work to help people become Indistractable has helped people create systems and mindsets for building focus.

We all know what we need to do to achieve most of our goals. Yet we don't achieve them because of unplanned distractions and poor attention management. To live the life we truly want we need to learn the art of managing distraction and becoming indistractable.

We discuss the biggest insights from years of research and science to help you live with more peace and less chaos whilst you get the important things done whilst also enjoying down time.

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00:00 Introduction to building focus - Nir Eyal

02:48 What is Distraction 

03:58 Any action can be traction or distraction

07:22 Sam's 10 day meditation

08:21 Story behind how everything happened - got distracted whilst spending time with her daughter

10:26 Reason why we get distracted - internal triggers

13:49 Vipassana 10-day retreats

15:06 Feeling bad is not bad

19:01 detachment from reality

21:26 syncify

21:48 Making pacts - Price, Effort, Identity

22:09 Effort pact

23:27 Price pact

23:40 Identity pact

24:34 Cigarettes and being indistractable

31:50 Nir's next mission

32:40 Send off

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A quick strategy to cure confusion and be more decisive. This simple brain hack can radically simplify our situation when we feel confused and help us make hard decisions and take action.

We can all become confused with the pile-up of priorities and our different obligations. The worst thing is no decision yet we can sit in confusion unable to move on. In many cases there is a simple way to cure confusion and make stuff happen.

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00:00 - You don't have time to be confused

01:41 - Identify the truth of the matter

02:39 - Buridians Donkey

04:08 - My booking dilemmas to NASA launch failures

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Tom Davies, better known as GeoWizard is a YouTuber, adventurer and mental health advocate. He has raised thousands of pounds for mental health and is passionate about helping other break out of their ruts.

Before his YouTube took off Tom suffered his own mental health problems, anxiety and loss of enthusiasm for anything. In the episode, we talk about the best ways to find inspiration and how to quit our bad habits.

GeoWizard is known for his straight-line missions across Wales, Dribbling a football across the length of Britain and being one of the best GeoGuessrs on the planet. 

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