You've heard of the G-spot, but do you know about the A-spot and U-spot?
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Once a cheater always a cheater?
Why do people cheat?
Is it possible to make it work after someone cheats?
All of these questions and more answered here! We'll look at cheating through the lens of attachment theory and the Gottman Approach, a therapy model that is based on decades of research and over 3,000 couples!

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Do you feel like you take forever to finish and it's impacting your ability to enjoy sex or stay in the moment with your partner? Well this one's for you!

There are many reasons some people take longer than average to reach orgasm, and some are more easily fixable than others. In this episode, I list some of those reasons and suggestions to overcome them. Ever heard of death grip syndrome? Listen up!

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Tons of guys are worried about cumming too fast or not lasting long enough, but when is it actually a problem and what can be done about it? In this episode I cover misconceptions and unrealistic expectations about the duration of sex, what a premature ejaculation diagnosis actually entails, and a few strategies to prolong penetration. Plus I answer a question about orgasm-induced sneezing! It's a thing!

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Meet my friend Anaya from Pretty In Kink! I asked her a few questions about her career, what issues she commonly sees with her clients, and what we can learn about being more open and accepting.

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We get so much information from our families, communities, media, and larger society about sexuality and a lot of times, it's unhelpful or downright inaccurate. Today I'm correcting 10 common myths about sex drive:

1. Aphrodisiacs make you horny
2. If your partner rejects your advances, they aren't attracted to you
3. Porn doesn't change your sex drive
4. Sex should last 30 minutes or longer
5. Men are always horny and ready for sex
6. Women have lower sex drives than men
7. Sex and desire should be spontaneous
8. Having a low sex drive is bad
9. Your sex drive is fixed and stable
10. Sex drive disappears as you age

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Sources in this episode: The Journal of Sexual Medicine & The Wiley Handbook of Sex Therapy

People who practice sexual mindfulness experience more desire, better self-esteem, more consistent orgasms, a better relationship with their partners, and better overall sexual functioning! In this episode I introduce Tantra and Sensate Focus as ways to incorporate sexual mindfulness into your life.  Plus I answer a question about meeting and dating with social anxiety!

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In this episode, I share some of the mind-blowing facts and concepts I've recently learned about kink in school. The specific article I reference comes from the Wiley Handbook of Sex Therapy, published in 2017, which includes fun facts about kink,  common myths, reasons people may seek therapy for their kinks, and what we can learn from kinky people. Listen to the end, because there is an incredible section from the book that shows an empirically-validated foundation for kink and BDSM altering states of consciousness. WHAT?! I know, so cool. Also I answer a question about what to do when you're accidentally gaslighting your partner!

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We're talking about squirting & female ejaculation! YAY! In this episode I cover common myths, squirt anatomy, the differences between female ejaculate and squirt, and techniques for learning how to squirt. I also touch on the Only Fans rumor (lol). 

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Giving head, fellatio, cunnilingus, blowjobs, sucking d*ck, eating p*ssy, sloppy toppy; whatever you wanna call it, here it is! Oral sex could get it's own podcast altogether, but here is the overview of how to give good head, no matter what parts your partner has! This episode does trend heterosexual, but the straights need more guidance in this area. Definitely go check out Beducated and use the free trial to watch some of the courses on blowjobs and cunnilingus.

Blowjob Instructions: 17:23
Eating Pussy Instructions: 39:13

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