This Complex Life

Help. My teens aren't interested in me. What do I do?


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In this episode, I address a heartfelt question from a listener, a 62-year-old father who feels disconnected from his teenage daughters. He is eager to understand their changing interests and how to maintain a meaningful relationship despite feeling sidelined. I provide insights into adolescent development, effective communication strategies without emotional pressure, and the importance of evolving from a managerial to a consultant role in parenting.

Themes:
  • Adolescent Development: Understanding the normal shifts in behaviour and interests as teenagers seek independence and form their own identities.
  • Effective Communication: Strategies for engaging teenagers in a way that fosters connection rather than conflict, including the use of open-ended questions and avoiding criticism.
  • Parental Role Adaptation: Transitioning from manager to consultant

Key Takeaways:

  • Understanding Adolescence: It's normal for teenagers to seek more peer interaction and explore personal interests as part of their development.
  • Communication Techniques: Utilising less critical and more curious approaches can help maintain a connection with teenage children.
  • Role Adjustment: Parents can adapt their roles and approaches as their children grow, moving towards a consultative role that respects the child's growing autonomy.


"As parents, your job shifts from being a manager to a consultant as your child grows." — Marie

"Effective communication is about curiosity, not criticism." — Marie


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