We all have negative experiences that impact our mental state day to day as we parent. It can be exhausting and disheartening to attempt to parent in this state of distress. Today we tackle a listener question on parenting while healing past trauma and parenting. We also hear from a listener seeking advice about her children's name calling, spitting and general boundary pushing.

Book Mentioned:

How to do the Work // Nicole LePera

Related Episodes

Hone Your Morning Routine

Morning Routines for a 30 day transformation

How To: Create Pockets of Peace

Time Stamps

14:00 - How to deal with trauma and parent

15:58 - Big T vs little t trauma

16:30 - Repressed trauma

17:40 - Adult trauma

19:07 - Therapy is a major tool

22:00 - Give yourself extra grace and self care

24:01 - Name your trauma

31:00 - 90 second rule with stress/anxiety

34:57 - How to handle kids being unkind

38:30 - This too shall pass

42:00 - Name calling is a hard no

46:40 - A family is a good testing ground for kids to figure out social interactions

49:39 - Foster positive interactions to start a positive momentum

53:35 - Honey vs. Vinegar analogy

54:52 - Give yourself self-care so you can be your best

1:01:00 - Laughter is a pressure relief valve

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Local1st 02/10/2023

Most helpful podcast

I listen to a lot of parenting podcasts, this one is my favorite! So many topics covered and ideas discussed. I always seem to get so much out of listening. Thank you!

Who doesn't want peace and homeostasis in the family environment? So often we can get to a place of chaos; where our homes and families feel out of sorts. In this episode Felica shares her experience of stripping away outside influence with their cross country move and how it affected her family environment. She shares tips on applying her learning to your home. She also explains how she felt the anxious buzzing energy in her home, recognized it, and found some settling. Hint hint, it always starts with us! 

Related Episodes

Patience with Aggressive Behavior, Friendships in Motherhood and Making Peace with Your Inner Landscape

Guidance for the Changing seasons of Motherhood

Time Stamps

1:52 - Recognizing something is out of whack

4:00 - Our inner landscapes reflect onto our outer landscape --Focus on yourself

6:45 - Find support from others

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MaryHag

11/08/2022

The highlight of my week🙏🏻

Updating my review since I have been listening now for a couple of years. Honestly, this podcast is a game changer and life changer for me, and truly a highlight of my week. I eagerly go onto my podcast app each week to refresh and pray for a new episode to be ready on my Tuesday morning walk. This podcast has helped me through so many challenges in parenting and in life, and I feel like I have been growing right alongside you incredible women for the last couple of years. I appreciate your authenticity and being real with us, approaching each new episode and book with such an openness and sense of curiosity and your clear passion for sharing the tools you discover with us. Thank you from the bottom of my heart for doing what you do - now please don’t stop because I’m about to have child number 2 and I need y’all!! 

The Enneagram is a system of personality typing that describes patterns in how people interpret the world and manage their emotions. It unpacks the intention by with we interact with others and make the choices we make. In this episode we unpack our Enneagram types and discuss how they helped us unearth shadow sides of our egos that were limiting us or helped us see ourselves and our relationships in a new light. The Enneagram is a multi-faceted tool that can make us aware of who we are and how to work with our strengths and also help us determine weaknesses we may seek to change. In this episode, we use it to help us explore our own personalities and share how knowing ourselves has helped us capitalize on our strengths and understand and work with our weaknesses. 

Books and Links We Mentioned:

Road Back to You // Ian Morgan Cron and Suzanne Stable

Enneagram Test

Enneagram Type Descriptions

Famous People’s Types

Dr. Nicole LePera // the.holistic.psychologist

Time Stamps

Related Episodes

⁠Building Bridges Back Home to Ourselves ⁠

⁠Becoming Embodied ⁠

Become a Child Whisperer / Parenting Your Kids True to Their Nature (based on the work of Carol Tuttle)

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Unicorns are Real

I have loved and listened to "Find the Magic" for years of motherhood. So many of those years I would listen to Taralyn or Felicia talk about reframing and even enjoying the mundane tasks (like changing diapers) and to dos that normally are mindless. They talked about enjoying these things, creating connection in them. Every week I tuned in but honestly, I didn't believe it. I said things like, "I can't be that mom, that isn't working for MY children, these women are just UNICORNS. And every episode I would still plug in my headphones and listen along and wish I could get there, be that mom. Then something switched, last year I went on (my first ever) solo retreat to South America. It was a women's empowerment, yoga, surf trip but a switch flipped and I started doing the work on myself. I continued taking steps like FINALLY starting a miracle morning routine (for me!) and guess what? Things started clicking with my kids, and at home. So if you are able, start with yourself. I was convinced that to be a good mom I had to read all the parenting books, listen to all the podcasts, plan all the activities but that is so far from reality. Start with your Self! So grateful to Find The Magic, To Taralyn, Felicia and Katelin... Thank you!

In our lives there are things that we control, things we influence, and things we have no control over. In today's episode, Katelin explores one thing that is entirely within our control: our thoughts. Our thoughts have power over the way we see and subsequently engage with our world. She discusses tips and tools, including the work by Byron Katie, for how to change our thoughts, which will ultimately change our reality. 

Related Episodes

Staying Open to The Present

The Power of being present NOW

Books & Links Mentioned

How Your Thinking Creates Your Reality // Jennice Vilhauer Ph.D. 

Can You Affect Another Person's Behavior With Your Thoughts?

The Power of Now // Eckhart Tolle 

Loving What Is // Byron Katie

Time Stamps

1:14 - Three buckets in life

2:32 - Our thoughts are within our control

4:30 - How thoughts become belief and how that primes our brains

7:45 - Beware of labeling our children – “terrible twos” “threenager”

10:25 - Experiment on labeling “smart” and “dumb” rats

13:51 - Step 1 is becoming aware of your thoughts are your thoughts

15:12 - Step 2 create what you want to see

16:50 - Step 3 - visualize every step and the end

17:25 - step 4 - invite God into this process

18:30 - Using the work by Byron Katie as a tool to unstick thoughts

21:15 - Example of navigating sharing holiday time with families

28:40 - Turning around your belief statement

Sponsor:

GABB WIRELESS

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MaryHag

11/08/2022

The highlight of my week🙏🏻

Updating my review since I have been listening now for a couple of years. Honestly, this podcast is a game changer and life changer for me, and truly a highlight of my week. I eagerly go onto my podcast app each week to refresh and pray for a new episode to be ready on my Tuesday morning walk. This podcast has helped me through so many challenges in parenting and in life, and I feel like I have been growing right alongside you incredible women for the last couple of years. I appreciate your authenticity and being real with us, approaching each new episode and book with such an openness and sense of curiosity and your clear passion for sharing the tools you discover with us. Thank you from the bottom of my heart for doing what you do - now please don’t stop because I’m about to have child number 2 and I need y’all!! 😝😘

In a few weeks our kids will be home for the summer, and our daily schedules will change drastically. A lot of jokes, angst and dread can surround this time of year. Let’s start as we mean to go on! In this episode, we are sharing some of our favorite tips for designing our summer. We touch on creating and setting boundaries from the start, letting our kids be and resisting screen entertaining. If we have learned anything this year, it is that being fluid and available for change can help us live in the present and create a calm atmosphere in our homes. As we let them be free to work through the B word (boredom!) we will come out the other side with having enjoyed our summer together!

Related Episodes

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HOW TO Parent Less and Love it More

The Martyr Effect. HOW TO Stop Offering Ourselves at the Altar of Parenting

Interview with Dr. Mary Wilde: How to Joyfully Ride the Waves of Parenthood Without Drowning in Them

Encouraging Independent Play and Letting Go of Guilt

Time Stamps

10:00 - Summer bucket list

11:56 - Beware of over scheduling

17:00 - It's not our job as a parent to entertain our kids

20:45 - Importance of completing your essentials during the summer

22:27 - Consider eliminating screens

23:41 - Embrace boredom

27:23 - Give them a chore if they are bored

29:11 - The moment of "reaching" when we slow down

34:20 - Remind them to clean up

35:15 - Take the time to teach them more household skills during the summer

36:00 - Open the buffet

39:00 - Set the expectation & infrastructure at the beginning

45:34 - Verbally state your expectations

46:01 - Let go of control

47:31 - Children can contribute to the family

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We LOVE books. One of the casualties of our current age and our screen adapted/crippled attention spans is that we don’t read as much anymore. In this magic moment, Taralyn gives her best persuasion for reading and gives lots of easy tips to keep or acquire the habit of reading in your life. People ask us all the time how we read so many books, and she tells the secret to our habits:)

Books and Links We Mentioned:

Women Who Run With Wolves // Clarissa Pinkola Estes, Ph.D

The Gift // Hafiz

You Can Heal Your Life // Louise Hay

Related Episodes

The Power Of Beautiful Words

Book Club Recommendations for 2020

Finding Motivation to Claim Your Personal Power Hour

Make Your Morning Routine Happen!

Morning Routines for a 30 Day Transformation with Taralyn

Hone Your Morning Routine with Felica

Sponsor:

GABB WIRELESS

We LOVE devices that help our kids stay safe and be able to adventure while still being able to contact us safely and allow us to know where they are without being the kind of technology that steals their mental health and attention. Gabb wireless is an incredible company that we FULLY endorse for just that. Go to https://gabbwireless.com and use code FINDTHEMAGIC to get $50 off any device!

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I have loved and listened to "Find the Magic" for years of motherhood. So many of those years I would listen to Taralyn or Felicia talk about reframing and even enjoying the mundane tasks (like changing diapers) and to dos that normally are mindless. They talked about enjoying these things, creating connection in them. Every week I tuned in but honestly, I didn't believe it. I said things like, "I can't be that mom, that isn't working for MY children, these women are just UNICORNS. And every episode I would still plug in my headphones and listen along and wish I could get there, be that mom. Then something switched, last year I went on (my first ever) solo retreat to South America. It was a women's empowerment, yoga, surf trip but a switch flipped and I started doing the work on myself. I continued taking steps like FINALLY starting a miracle morning routine (for me!) and guess what? Things started clicking with my kids, and at home. So if you are able, start with yourself. I was convinced that to be a good mom I had to read all the parenting books, listen to all the podcasts, plan all the activities but that is so far from reality. Start with your Self! So grateful to Find The Magic, To Taralyn, Felicia and Katelin... Thank you!

We have all been here; there are times in life of discontent, resentment, perhaps even depression and often these coincide with a forgetting of ourselves. In this episode Felica interviews Tessa Brown, an artist and writer who focuses her work on womanhood and feminine energy and happens to be Felica's dear friend.

They dive into reclaiming our younger selves and the decisions we made, wrestling with motherhood and its expectations as well as considering how we can build bridges to parts of our lives that we want to include and ask the right questions to determine what things we should leave behind. 

Time Stamps

3:30 - What do we say yes to?

6:45 - How did past selves make decisions for our future?

14:35 - What is the right question to ask

18:00 - The power of manifestation

22:30 - Not merge with collective

24:05 - I get to decide who comes onto the island

25:25 - Do I want this life?

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EP 99 HOW TO OWN YOUR OWN DESIRES AND THE ART OF INTIMACY WITH DR. JENNIFER FINLAYSON-FIFE

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she.will.be.katie

11/07/2022

Absolute favorite

This is the only podcast that I cannot wait for the new release each week. There’s so much to contemplate in each episode. Yet at the same time its easy enough to digest that, even when my mom brain is at an all time high, I finish each episode inspired. Thank you 💛

In today’s episode we talk about how to deal with your children squabbling repeatedly and what to do when you feel like you just can’t get it together. 

Time Stamps

Books & Related Episodes

How to do the work // Nicole Le Pera

HOW TO Prepare Children for a New Sibling: a Conversation with Upbringing 

Systems and Values for Easier Days and Stronger Family Connections (Entitlement Trap by Linda Eyre and Richard Eyre)

Understanding Praise and How We Can Use It to Give Our Kids Confidence Instead of Insecurity

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Good for dads too!

As a father of two grown children and now taking care of my 16 year old nephew along with my wife, I still find lots of great tips and inspiration from these three amazing humans. I love the “high 5” and “facepalm” stories and the podcast is a soothing way to start a day or listen to in the drive home after a busy day at work. I wish I had something like this when my kids were younger as I think back to some situations I could have handled better. Thank you Find the Magic for all the times you made me smile, laugh, think and grow as a parent.

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Some parenting wisdom feels true to our core; that is how we felt when we read much of the wisdom from Hunter Gather Parent by Michaleen Doucleff. Today we are sharing our favorite nuggets from the book pertaining to disciplining our kids. The advice is less prescriptive and more in line with what we know to be true as parents and humans. Our children are learning. Our role is to see them with love and respect and teach them the ways of their family tribe. We tackle how to direct our kids with less force, create cooperation, and reduce the amount of anger in our homes. 

Find part one of our conversation here - 

230 // Pt 1: What Ancient Cultures Can Teach Us About the Lost Art of Raising Happy, Helpful Little Humans // Michaeleen Doucleff

Books, Quotes, & Links Mentioned

Understanding Praise and How We Can Use It to Give Our Kids Confidence Instead of Insecurity

Hunt, Gather, Parent: What Ancient Cultures Can Teach Us About the Lost Art of Raising Happy, Helpful Little Humans // Michaeleen Doucleff 

“When little people are overwhelmed by big emotions, it's our job to share our calm, not join their chaos.”― L.R. Knost

Time Stamps

7:15 - Premise of Hunter, Gather, Parent

9:50 - 100 commands vs. 3 commands per hour

12:00 - A request is giving our kids the chance to obey or rebel

14:30 - Master the facial expressions and gestures

15:11 - Ask 3 times calmly

18:59 - Parent is the pole analogy

22:11 - Don’t talk for your kids

25:17 - At intersecting points, redirect your kids to the family

27:58 - Misbehavior is a call for responsibility & freedom

29:00 - Our work is their play

32:15 - We can infuse connection into our daily chores

35:35 - Never in anger

39:19 - Take a breath & say nothing when feeling angry

41:10 - Yelling trains our kids not to listen

43:15 - When we respond with kindness & quiet, we teach them to do the same

48:13 - How we see our kids is changes how we act towards them

Sponsor:

GABB WIRELESS

We LOVE devices that help our kids stay safe and be able to adventure while still being able to contact us safely and allow us to know where they are without being the kind of technology that steals their mental health and attention. Gabb wireless is an incredible company that we FULLY endorse for just that. Go to https://gabbwireless.com and use code FINDTHEMAGIC to get $50 off any device!

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Cherise L&D nurse, 03/15/2023

I just want to take the time to thank you for being such a positive change in my life. I started listening to you guys while I was in nursing school back in 2020. Your very first podcast on morning routines changed my life forever. I then purchased “Miracle Morning” and have lived by this since then. I wake up every morning, oil pull, set my diffusers, do yoga, sip on tea, and if I have time run with my dog (I even make sure to do this on my work days). Being a busy mom of 2 kids ages 7 and 4 that I partially homeschool (they’re also in a homeschool co op), wife, and a nurse, I can’t thank you ladies enough. Your podcasts help center myself as a parent. It’s so easy to get caught up in the day to day busy lifestyle, and when I do find that happening, I pop my ear buds in and go on a run and listen to you ladies. I tell every single mom about your podcast. You have made such a positive change for my family. I truly can’t even begin to tell you how much gratitude I have for your show.

Thank you,

Cherise