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Stress is a fact of life, getting stuck in it isn't! When we are stuck in chronic stress or our stressors push us past our ability to cope we find ourselves in overwhelm. This episode we unpack Atlas of The Heart, the work of Brene Brown, as a guide to moving through stress and out of overwhelm. We touch on ways that we can identify the feeling in our body before it becomes overwhelmed and our favorite tips and tools for increasing our ability to cope with these often uncomfortable feelings.

9:00- Definition of Stress vs. Overwhelm

15:26 - Where do we feel stress/overwhelm in our bodies?

18:30 - Your body keeps the score

22:52 - Move through the tunnel

23:50 - Completion of the stress cycle

25:50 - Fight, flight, or freeze

28:30 - Using RAIN from Tara Brach as a tool

31:45 - Grounding

36:11 - Having a positive social interaction

40:06 - Creative expression

It sometimes feels like we are being pulled in many directions, and it is hard to feel settled and aligned when that is happening. In this episode, Taralyn describes a few things she has learned lately in her wrestle for alignment. 

The steps she has used to help her are:

1-Identify what parts of you are misaligned and intentionally give them all a seat in your council.

2-Set aside time daily to imagine what it would feel like to have that settled feeling of being aligned in your heart, mind, body, and spirit. Use that powerful brain of yours to try on the feeling of having all of the parts be in harmony. Tapping into this vibration helps you pull it towards you. Grounding is also a really helpful tool during this step. The shower is a great place to try this habit because its daily and the water is so conductive.

4-Think bigger. Zoom out your perspective and observe that YOU are not your body, your emotions, or your mind. Once you FEEL that, aligning all of them becomes easier--like a magnet rearranging metal shavings.

If you try this, Taralyn would LOVE to know how it goes for you. Just DM her on instagram @taralyngriffin

Our Daily Meditation: this is the meditation that Taralyn does every morning. You simply push play and she walks you through it. It’s an easy way to get yourself into the habit.

Breathwork Exercises for Daily Habit Building with Taralyn 

203 // Meditation: Letting Fear Go

Finding Motivation to Claim Your Personal Power Hour

Make Your Morning Routine Happen!

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"No one listens to me!"

"I feel like the train engine running our whole home."

"I am exhausted, will it always be this hard?"

Finding the right parenting style for your family is hard. Information flies at us from all direction challenging us to "listen more", "be more strict." etc ... ultimately what we want is a dynamic, respectful and loving relationship with our children.

In this episode Felica interviews Joe Newman, author of Raising Lions, about his work for his new book. They discuss how respectful parenting can be taken too far when we are respecting our children but they are showing no respect back and why this happens.

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⁠⁠How to: Create Pockets of Peace⁠⁠

⁠⁠Running a Household Without Resentment⁠⁠

Books and Links We Mentioned

⁠⁠Fairplay⁠⁠ // Eve Rodsky

⁠⁠Raising Lions⁠⁠ // Joe Newman

⁠⁠No Bad Kids: Toddler Discipline Without Shame⁠⁠  // Janet Lansbury

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Do you ever feel parent guilt? We get so many questions from listeners about the torn feeling that comes while trying to balance being a whole person ourselves while still serving our families with love. In this episode, we answer this question as we discuss how we can set boundaries for ourselves, protect our own personal time (shower time, bathroom, etc.) and learn to coexist with more ease without young children.

We also address questions about reinventing ourselves as our children grow, how to handle kids being sneaky and hiding things, and how to deal with our children being bossy and having public meltdowns.

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⁠How to: Create Pockets of Peace⁠

⁠Running a Household Without Resentment⁠

Books and Links We Mentioned

⁠Fairplay⁠ // Eve Rodsky

⁠Raising Lions⁠ // Joe Newman

⁠No Bad Kids: Toddler Discipline Without Shame⁠  // Janet Lansbury

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​​This episode is a balm to stress and overwhelm. If you are feeling trapped in the storm of life this episode is for you. Felica shares her favorite quick tips for regulating her nervous system when things are just too much!

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Review of the week

*nicole0304h*, 10/03/2023

Can I be friends with them?I LOVE this podcast. As a mom, and a former therapist—they speak to my heart from such a real, empowering and practical perspective. I glean so many tips and tidbits from what they share and appreciate their honesty and ability to respect different points of views on topics. They truly do their research and have conversations that make me think, laugh and secretly want to be friends with them!

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Tips for Overcoming Distraction

Our favorite sex therapist is back and this time we are challenging the assumption that sexual desire dies with long term relationships. Felica interviews Dr. Finlayson-Fife and they dive into the challenges we face to "keep the fire alive".Esther Perel said " Eroticism is the antithesis to everything a healthy family life needs, ritual, routine and knowing. Safety and security. Eroticism is adventure" , in this episode we tease out the nuance in this and discover what eroticism TRULY means. Hint ** it isn't all about sex/ desire.We also touch on the fact that families are more child centered than ever with higher expectations for couples. All responsibility often falls on parents, not community, institutions or society. We set up play dates and take pictures of and talk about and invest in our kids yet our personal and couple relationships are left to shrivel up. How can we do better?We tackle all this and more! Don't miss this chance to bring more erotic energy into your life. 

Links We Mentioned 

https://www.goodinside.com/podcast/4759/sex-after-kids-tell-me-more-esther-perel/

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How to Own Your Own Desires with Dr.Finlayson Fife 

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So often in parenting, we find ourselves...losing our cool, to put it nicely. We respond with anger; we use bribing or coercion to make our kids behave, and we hurt our relationship with our kids and ourselves in the process. In this episode, we take a deep dive into individual steps we can take anytime we find ourselves triggered by our kids’ behavior. We start with ourselves, pause, attune to our child, and then respond, not react, by setting limits and allowing logical consequences by looking at the need being expressed by our child’s behavior. This conversation will help you reframe difficult parenting situations and allow you to focus on the priority of your relationship.

• Take a pause to connect to your intuition when making decisions.

  
  



• Pay attention to what you fear and ask yourself why? Parenting helps us see ourselves more clearly. Don’t parent from a place of lack.

  
  



• The Pause - Give your self time and space with your children

  
  



• Use breath to bring yourself into the present moment and pause

  
  



• Sometimes bad behavior is a cry for connection.

  
  

Time Stamps

• 8:00- How do we live from a place of authenticity when parenting

  
  



• 12:31 - Take a pause to connect to your intuition when making decisions

  
  



• 18:15 - Parenting from a place of lack vs. wholeness

  
  



• 21:00 - Meditation practice to give your child self love and acceptance

  
  



• 24:33 - Journal out your fears with your kids to process them

  
  



• 29:00 - The Pause - Give your self time and space with your children

  
  



• 37:30 - Zone of zero reactivity

  
  



• 46:50 - Come to each situation with a response vs. a reaction

  
  



• 52:31 - Natural consequences vs. Cultivating consequences

  
  

  
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  Are you feeling lost, unanchored or listless in your days? We use our daily planner and journal to align our core values with the tasks we do each day! You can learn more about it HERE

  
  

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Books and links we mentioned;

The Awakened Family // Shefali Tsabary

The Conscious Parent // Shefali Tsabary

Original Post date 10/25/22

Fear is a powerful emotion. All of us face it at some point of another, and often, it really puts a damper on the way we live our lives. It can interfere with us loving wholeheartedly and doing things that inspire (and scare) us. In this episode, Taralyn dives deep into the concept of facing and processing our fears so they don’t hold us back in life. She addresses 3 different kinds of fear, and walks you through steps to free yourself from the fears that don’t serve you.

Books Taralyn Mentioned:

Gift of Fear // Gavin De Becker

Fear: Essential Wisdom for Getting Through the Storm // Thich Nhat Hanh

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Tapping Into the Abundance Inside Us

The holiday season can feel overwhelming because we feel the need to do everything to make them exciting and special. However, the beauty of having our own families is that we can intentionally choose the holiday activities that serve us and let go of the ones that don’t. The magic of family traditions is that they help our children feel a sense of belonging and gives them roots, which helps them identify with the connection of the family instead of peer groups and can help with their behavior.

In this episode, we share the traditions that serve us with simplicity and joy and give you many options to try with your own family. We talk about how sometimes all it takes is to recognize the traditions we already have and capitalize on naming them and making them reoccurring and special. 

From Halloween fun, ways to be grateful in November and loads of Christmas and winter traditions we hope that this episode inspires you to create new memories with your family and recognize your current traditions to turn them into magical ones that repeat every year! 

You can listen to this episode on iTunes here and many other platforms here.

Books we mentioned:

Hold on to Your Kids // Gabor Mate

The Entitlement Trap // Linda and Richard Eyre

Food Nanny Rescues Dinner //  Liz Edmunds  

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Systems and Values for Easier Days and Stronger Family Connections