Her Mother Tongue

Have you ever tried to teach your kid a value? Or help them stop taking toys? Or handle a conflict within a friendship or with a sibling? As parents we have a (sometimes) underutilized tool that can help us in these situations: play. In this episode Katelin walks through how to use role playing specifically to help work through these situations with our children of all ages. 

Related Episodes

Using Play to Diffuse Power Struggles and Connect With Your Child (based on Playful Parenting by Lawrence J. Cohen)

Books & Articles Mentioned

6 Steps To Do A Role Play

Playful Parenting // Lawrence Cohen

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This podcast is my happy place

I am SO grateful for the time and effort that goes into this podcast. Every episode is packed with gold. There is so much education and real conversations about life and motherhood. It helps to calm my soul, reassure me, motivate me and so much more. THANK YOU!

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Summer is half over and with all the fun comes exhaustion and overwhelm. In this episode, we address the concept of summer burnout, which can be applied to really any season of life. This episode was inspired by a voice message we received from one of our fabulous listeners. If you’d like to send us a question in the form of a voice message, just click ⁠here⁠.Related Episodes 

Authoritative Parenting / Arguably the MOST Effective Parenting Style

230 // Pt. 1 What Ancient Cultures Can Teach us About the Lost Art of Raising Happy, Helpful Little Humans // Michaeleen Doucleff

Discovering YOUR Life Essentials

Solitude Through Digital Minimalism

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REVIEW OF THE WEEK:

-Mandy Schuh

I have listened to this podcast for years, it is hands down my favorite podcast! It is insightful, fun and full of great ideas. I feel like I have made a friend in Felica. I appreciate the realness from these ladies and within Find The Magic. Thank you for being a breath of fresh air!

Still My Favorite!

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Stuck in a rut? Are you feeling tired or disenchanted with your life or easily frustrated with your kids? Our days are made up of small moments, small seemingly insignificant moments that add up to our lives. Are we racing through or are we practicing presence and engaging with our day day? Inspired by Ross Gay on We can do hard things; this episode we share how finding small delights each day has inspired us to be more present for ourselves, our loved ones and especially in parenting.  Related Episodes 

229 // Applying Our Four Pillars: Connection, Being Present, Unconditional Love, & Healthy Boundaries

Four Pillars of Wholehearted Parenting We Apply to Any Problem

Links We Mentioned

Start a Daily Delight Practice With Abby, Glennon, and Amanda! 

The Artist’s Way // Julia Cameron

We can do hard things Start a Daily Delight Practice with Abby, Glennon & Amanda!

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We all have negative experiences that impact our mental state day to day as we parent. It can be exhausting and disheartening to attempt to parent in this state of distress. Today we tackle a listener question on parenting while healing past trauma and parenting. We also hear from a listener seeking advice about her children's name calling, spitting and general boundary pushing.

Book Mentioned:

How to do the Work // Nicole LePera

Related Episodes

Hone Your Morning Routine

Morning Routines for a 30 day transformation

How To: Create Pockets of Peace

Time Stamps

14:00 - How to deal with trauma and parent

15:58 - Big T vs little t trauma

16:30 - Repressed trauma

17:40 - Adult trauma

19:07 - Therapy is a major tool

22:00 - Give yourself extra grace and self care

24:01 - Name your trauma

31:00 - 90 second rule with stress/anxiety

34:57 - How to handle kids being unkind

38:30 - This too shall pass

42:00 - Name calling is a hard no

46:40 - A family is a good testing ground for kids to figure out social interactions

49:39 - Foster positive interactions to start a positive momentum

53:35 - Honey vs. Vinegar analogy

54:52 - Give yourself self-care so you can be your best

1:01:00 - Laughter is a pressure relief valve

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Local1st 02/10/2023

Most helpful podcast

I listen to a lot of parenting podcasts, this one is my favorite! So many topics covered and ideas discussed. I always seem to get so much out of listening. Thank you!

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Who doesn't want peace and homeostasis in the family environment? So often we can get to a place of chaos; where our homes and families feel out of sorts. In this episode Felica shares her experience of stripping away outside influence with their cross country move and how it affected her family environment. She shares tips on applying her learning to your home. She also explains how she felt the anxious buzzing energy in her home, recognized it, and found some settling. Hint hint, it always starts with us! 

Related Episodes

Patience with Aggressive Behavior, Friendships in Motherhood and Making Peace with Your Inner Landscape

Guidance for the Changing seasons of Motherhood

Time Stamps

1:52 - Recognizing something is out of whack

4:00 - Our inner landscapes reflect onto our outer landscape --Focus on yourself

6:45 - Find support from others

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MaryHag

11/08/2022

The highlight of my week🙏🏻

Updating my review since I have been listening now for a couple of years. Honestly, this podcast is a game changer and life changer for me, and truly a highlight of my week. I eagerly go onto my podcast app each week to refresh and pray for a new episode to be ready on my Tuesday morning walk. This podcast has helped me through so many challenges in parenting and in life, and I feel like I have been growing right alongside you incredible women for the last couple of years. I appreciate your authenticity and being real with us, approaching each new episode and book with such an openness and sense of curiosity and your clear passion for sharing the tools you discover with us. Thank you from the bottom of my heart for doing what you do - now please don’t stop because I’m about to have child number 2 and I need y’all!! 

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The Enneagram is a system of personality typing that describes patterns in how people interpret the world and manage their emotions. It unpacks the intention by with we interact with others and make the choices we make. In this episode we unpack our Enneagram types and discuss how they helped us unearth shadow sides of our egos that were limiting us or helped us see ourselves and our relationships in a new light. The Enneagram is a multi-faceted tool that can make us aware of who we are and how to work with our strengths and also help us determine weaknesses we may seek to change. In this episode, we use it to help us explore our own personalities and share how knowing ourselves has helped us capitalize on our strengths and understand and work with our weaknesses. 

Books and Links We Mentioned:

Road Back to You // Ian Morgan Cron and Suzanne Stable

Enneagram Test

Enneagram Type Descriptions

Famous People’s Types

Dr. Nicole LePera // the.holistic.psychologist

Time Stamps

Related Episodes

⁠Building Bridges Back Home to Ourselves ⁠

⁠Becoming Embodied ⁠

Become a Child Whisperer / Parenting Your Kids True to Their Nature (based on the work of Carol Tuttle)

Sponsor:

GABB WIRELESS

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Unicorns are Real

I have loved and listened to "Find the Magic" for years of motherhood. So many of those years I would listen to Taralyn or Felicia talk about reframing and even enjoying the mundane tasks (like changing diapers) and to dos that normally are mindless. They talked about enjoying these things, creating connection in them. Every week I tuned in but honestly, I didn't believe it. I said things like, "I can't be that mom, that isn't working for MY children, these women are just UNICORNS. And every episode I would still plug in my headphones and listen along and wish I could get there, be that mom. Then something switched, last year I went on (my first ever) solo retreat to South America. It was a women's empowerment, yoga, surf trip but a switch flipped and I started doing the work on myself. I continued taking steps like FINALLY starting a miracle morning routine (for me!) and guess what? Things started clicking with my kids, and at home. So if you are able, start with yourself. I was convinced that to be a good mom I had to read all the parenting books, listen to all the podcasts, plan all the activities but that is so far from reality. Start with your Self! So grateful to Find The Magic, To Taralyn, Felicia and Katelin... Thank you!

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In our lives there are things that we control, things we influence, and things we have no control over. In today's episode, Katelin explores one thing that is entirely within our control: our thoughts. Our thoughts have power over the way we see and subsequently engage with our world. She discusses tips and tools, including the work by Byron Katie, for how to change our thoughts, which will ultimately change our reality. 

Related Episodes

Staying Open to The Present

The Power of being present NOW

Books & Links Mentioned

How Your Thinking Creates Your Reality // Jennice Vilhauer Ph.D. 

Can You Affect Another Person's Behavior With Your Thoughts?

The Power of Now // Eckhart Tolle 

Loving What Is // Byron Katie

Time Stamps

1:14 - Three buckets in life

2:32 - Our thoughts are within our control

4:30 - How thoughts become belief and how that primes our brains

7:45 - Beware of labeling our children – “terrible twos” “threenager”

10:25 - Experiment on labeling “smart” and “dumb” rats

13:51 - Step 1 is becoming aware of your thoughts are your thoughts

15:12 - Step 2 create what you want to see

16:50 - Step 3 - visualize every step and the end

17:25 - step 4 - invite God into this process

18:30 - Using the work by Byron Katie as a tool to unstick thoughts

21:15 - Example of navigating sharing holiday time with families

28:40 - Turning around your belief statement

Sponsor:

GABB WIRELESS

We LOVE devices that help our kids stay safe and be able to adventure while still being able to contact us safely and allow us to know where they are without being the kind of technology that steals their mental health and attention. Gabb wireless is an incredible company that we FULLY endorse for just that. Go to https://gabbwireless.com and use code FINDTHEMAGIC to get $50 off any device!

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MaryHag

11/08/2022

The highlight of my week🙏🏻

Updating my review since I have been listening now for a couple of years. Honestly, this podcast is a game changer and life changer for me, and truly a highlight of my week. I eagerly go onto my podcast app each week to refresh and pray for a new episode to be ready on my Tuesday morning walk. This podcast has helped me through so many challenges in parenting and in life, and I feel like I have been growing right alongside you incredible women for the last couple of years. I appreciate your authenticity and being real with us, approaching each new episode and book with such an openness and sense of curiosity and your clear passion for sharing the tools you discover with us. Thank you from the bottom of my heart for doing what you do - now please don’t stop because I’m about to have child number 2 and I need y’all!! 😝😘

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Have you ever driven in a city that isn’t well planned? The roads are often too narrow for the amount of traffic, and the flow of streets seem to have no discernible pattern. Navigating in such a place can be tricky and chaotic. In contrast, a city that has planned  ahead of time what they want long term often has wide, orderly streets, and the initial time and thought investment pays back tenfold as their city runs much smoother as it grows. In this episode, we talk about using this theory of infrastructure in our own families. It takes some time upfront, but in the long run, it makes our family run sooo much more smoothly and makes parenting easier, while intentionally aligning it with our values.
We discuss the systems that we have tried out in our own homes over the years that have proven themselves to be priceless.
Books we mentioned:
The Entitlement Trap
Secrets of a Happy Family
Hold on to Your Kids
Miracle Morning
Links We Promised
Serendipity Parenting Episode from Linda an Richard Eyre
Related Episodes
Discovering Your Life Essentials
How To: Create Pockets of Peace
Sponsor:
GABB WIRELESS
We LOVE devices that help our kids stay safe and be able to adventure while still being able to contact us safely and allow us to know where they are without being the kind of technology that steals their mental health and attention. Gabb wireless is an incredible company that we FULLY endorse for just that. Go to https://gabbwireless.com and use code FINDTHEMAGIC to get $50 off any device!
Thank you for the kind reviews! We appreciate them so much. Here is how to leave a review for us  on iTunes:
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MaryHag
11/08/2022
The highlight of my week🙏🏻
Updating my review since I have been listening now for a couple of years. Honestly, this podcast is a game changer and life changer for me, and truly a highlight of my week. I eagerly go onto my podcast app each week to refresh and pray for a new episode to be ready on my Tuesday morning walk. This podcast has helped me through so many challenges in parenting and in life, and I feel like I have been growing right alongside you incredible women for the last couple of years. I appreciate your authenticity and being real with us, approaching each new episode and book with such an openness and sense of curiosity and your clear passion for sharing the tools you discover with us. Thank you from the bottom of my heart for doing what you do - now please don’t stop because I’m about to have child number 2 and I need y’all!! 😝😘

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In a few weeks our kids will be home for the summer, and our daily schedules will change drastically. A lot of jokes, angst and dread can surround this time of year. Let’s start as we mean to go on! In this episode, we are sharing some of our favorite tips for designing our summer. We touch on creating and setting boundaries from the start, letting our kids be and resisting screen entertaining. If we have learned anything this year, it is that being fluid and available for change can help us live in the present and create a calm atmosphere in our homes. As we let them be free to work through the B word (boredom!) we will come out the other side with having enjoyed our summer together!

Related Episodes

How to: Create Pockets of Peace

HOW TO Parent Less and Love it More

The Martyr Effect. HOW TO Stop Offering Ourselves at the Altar of Parenting

Interview with Dr. Mary Wilde: How to Joyfully Ride the Waves of Parenthood Without Drowning in Them

Encouraging Independent Play and Letting Go of Guilt

Time Stamps

10:00 - Summer bucket list

11:56 - Beware of over scheduling

17:00 - It's not our job as a parent to entertain our kids

20:45 - Importance of completing your essentials during the summer

22:27 - Consider eliminating screens

23:41 - Embrace boredom

27:23 - Give them a chore if they are bored

29:11 - The moment of "reaching" when we slow down

34:20 - Remind them to clean up

35:15 - Take the time to teach them more household skills during the summer

36:00 - Open the buffet

39:00 - Set the expectation & infrastructure at the beginning

45:34 - Verbally state your expectations

46:01 - Let go of control

47:31 - Children can contribute to the family

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We LOVE books. One of the casualties of our current age and our screen adapted/crippled attention spans is that we don’t read as much anymore. In this magic moment, Taralyn gives her best persuasion for reading and gives lots of easy tips to keep or acquire the habit of reading in your life. People ask us all the time how we read so many books, and she tells the secret to our habits:)

Books and Links We Mentioned:

Women Who Run With Wolves // Clarissa Pinkola Estes, Ph.D

The Gift // Hafiz

You Can Heal Your Life // Louise Hay

Related Episodes

The Power Of Beautiful Words

Book Club Recommendations for 2020

Finding Motivation to Claim Your Personal Power Hour

Make Your Morning Routine Happen!

Morning Routines for a 30 Day Transformation with Taralyn

Hone Your Morning Routine with Felica

Sponsor:

GABB WIRELESS

We LOVE devices that help our kids stay safe and be able to adventure while still being able to contact us safely and allow us to know where they are without being the kind of technology that steals their mental health and attention. Gabb wireless is an incredible company that we FULLY endorse for just that. Go to https://gabbwireless.com and use code FINDTHEMAGIC to get $50 off any device!

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I have loved and listened to "Find the Magic" for years of motherhood. So many of those years I would listen to Taralyn or Felicia talk about reframing and even enjoying the mundane tasks (like changing diapers) and to dos that normally are mindless. They talked about enjoying these things, creating connection in them. Every week I tuned in but honestly, I didn't believe it. I said things like, "I can't be that mom, that isn't working for MY children, these women are just UNICORNS. And every episode I would still plug in my headphones and listen along and wish I could get there, be that mom. Then something switched, last year I went on (my first ever) solo retreat to South America. It was a women's empowerment, yoga, surf trip but a switch flipped and I started doing the work on myself. I continued taking steps like FINALLY starting a miracle morning routine (for me!) and guess what? Things started clicking with my kids, and at home. So if you are able, start with yourself. I was convinced that to be a good mom I had to read all the parenting books, listen to all the podcasts, plan all the activities but that is so far from reality. Start with your Self! So grateful to Find The Magic, To Taralyn, Felicia and Katelin... Thank you!

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