Her Revision Podcast

He wasn’t loud. He wasn’t cruel. He listened. He cared — or at least, he sounded like he did.

But somewhere between the deep conversations and “I understand,” you started feeling smaller.

That’s the thing about The Good Guy Complex — it’s not toxic in the obvious way. It’s tidy. It’s emotionally aware. It’s the kind of manipulation that hides behind calmness and care.

In this episode of Her Revision Podcast, Jasmine Lashae breaks down how emotional fluency can turn into control, why “nice” doesn’t always mean safe, and how to recognize when someone’s using self-awareness to protect their image, not your heart.

Because peace without honesty? That’s not peace. That’s performance.

Listen now to “The Good Guy Complex: And Why It’s Still Manipulation” — streaming everywhere you get your podcasts.

🎧 Spotify | Apple Podcasts | YouTube

For more reflections and raw storytelling, read my latest post on Substack → rewrittenthoughts.substack.com

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In this episode, Jasmine Lashae unpacks money wounds—those emotional flashbacks that make us panic after spending, obsess over getting it back, or feel guilty for wanting nice things. She breaks down how scarcity shapes our habits, the difference between discipline and distress, and how to build financial peace without losing faith.

If you’ve ever said “I’ll make it back” after spending or felt shame just for swiping your card, this one’s for you.

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Topics:

• The “make it back” mentality and money trauma
• Discipline vs. distress in financial habits
• The link between faith, fear, and finances
• Practical ways to rebuild trust with money

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Free Resources Mentioned:

Credit Help

• Credit Karma – free credit tracking
• Experian Boost – add bills to build credit
• AnnualCreditReport.com – official free credit reports
• Self Financial – beginner credit builder loans

Budgeting & Planning

• YNAB – budget philosophy that teaches clarity
• Mint – free tracking app
• Google Sheets Templates – quick-start budget option

Mindset & Money Education

• Get Good with Money by Tiffany Aliche
• You Are a Badass at Making Money by Jen Sincero
• The Psychology of Money by Morgan Housel
• Podcasts: Journey to Launch, Brown Ambition, Earn Your Leisure

Faith & Financial Peace

• Proverbs 21:5 — “The plans of the diligent lead surely to abundance.”
• Keep a “Provision Journal” to record unexpected blessings.
• Daily affirmation: “Money flows to me with purpose, not panic.”

Support & Guidance

• NFCC.org – free credit counseling
• Operation HOPE – free financial coaching
• Savvy Ladies – free advice for women

Connect with Jasmine Lashae:

🎧 Her Revision Podcast — a space for women rewriting the stories they tell themselves.

📰 Rewritten on Substack

📲 @jasmine.lashae_

🎶 Her Revision Playlist

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This Off the Page episode is for the girl who keeps wondering if she missed her moment. The one who’s been feeling late, overlooked, or like she’s not doing enough.

You didn’t fall off.

You didn’t fumble.

You just been watching too many people rush through their process — and calling it purpose.

In this quick word, I’m unpacking what it really means to be on time for your life — even when it looks slower than everybody else’s. We talk pace, peace, and why you gotta stop letting panic be your compass.

Let the rushers rush. We’re building solid over here.

🔗 Mentioned:

No links or resources mentioned in this one — just straight from the heart.

💌 Stay Connected:

→ Subscribe to Rewritten on Substack

→ Follow me on TikTok: @jasminelashae0105

→ Follow on Instagram: @jasmine.lashae_

→ Want more of these? Rate + review the pod and let me know.

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In this episode of Her Revision, Jasmine Lashae gets all the way real about the quiet things we avoid — the decisions, the boundaries, the truths — and how avoidance often disguises itself as peace, rest, or even loyalty. From untangling your worth from being the “teacher,” to naming the emotional clutter that keeps you stuck, this episode is a spiritual gut check. No fluff. No performative softness. Just truth, reflection, and that loving push you’ve been avoiding.

🔹 What You’ll Hear in This Episode:

• Why cultivating doesn’t always mean keeping
• How to recognize when you’re staying out of fear, not love
• The difference between rest and avoidance
• Why tying your worth to “being helpful” is silently burning you out
• Signs that you’re emotionally cluttered, not confused
• A reminder that you’re not broken — but you are responsible

📝 Journal Prompts from the Episode:

What’s the hard thing I keep putting off — and what am I afraid it will change if I finally do it?

What’s something I’ve been calling “rest” that’s actually avoidance?

What identity am I still tied to that no longer reflects who I am becoming?

🎧 Listen + Subscribe:

Available on all streaming platforms — make sure to follow, rate, and share

📬 Stay Connected:

• Subscribe to the Substack:
• 📨 rewrittenthoughts.substack.com
• Get deeper reflections, prompts, and behind-the-scenes.
• Follow me on Socials:
• TikTok: @jasminelashae0105
• Instagram: @jasmine.lashae_
• Tag me if you’re listening!
• Screenshot the episode, post your favorite moment, and tag me for a shoutout.

💿 Vibe with the Playlist:

Pair this episode with the curated Her Revision Spotify playlist — soul, R&B, and real ones only:

🎶 Listen to the playlist

🔁 Share the Love:

If this episode hit home, don’t keep it to yourself:

• Text it to your bestie
• Post it in your group chat
• Share it on your story and tag me!
• Rate & leave a review to help the podcast grow

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This episode is personal. Lately, it’s felt like everything around me has been trying to teach me something. Instead of rushing through the month, I decided to slow down and study myself. I created my own September Curriculum. And in this episode, I’m breaking it all down.

I’m reflecting on a powerful passage from Blues People by LeRoi Jones. I talk about the beauty of Black expression, how signs have been showing up in my life, and why I’m leaning into this moment as a student of my own growth.

This is a diary-style episode. Honest, reflective, layered. Just me and the mic.

🔑 Topics We Get Into:

• How African creativity shaped how I see myself
• Why 111 and 11:11 keep showing up
• What it means when your life starts to feel like school
• The books and documentaries teaching me right now
• Learning to let go of being everything to everybody

📚 Books I Mention:

• Blues People by LeRoi Jones
• The Jasmine by Larry Tye
• Black Futures by Kimberly Drew and Jenna Wortham
• But Beautiful by Geoff Dyer
• What Is This Thing Called Jazz
• Duke: A Life of Duke Ellington
• The Black Experience in America by Norman Combs

🎧 This episode is for you if:

• You’ve been feeling signs but can’t make sense of them yet
• You’re in a season that feels slow but sacred
• You’re unlearning and relearning who you are
• You want to study yourself without pressure to perform
• You’re looking for permission to move at your own pace

💌 Subscribe to the Substack:

For essays, updates, and deeper thoughts I couldn’t fit in the episode

→ rewrittenthoughts.substack.com

We’re growing, and your voice matters. Take a minute to share your thoughts about Her Revision Podcast — what you love, what you want more of, and how we can keep evolving.

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Episode Summary:

This episode is for the woman who’s tired of performing peace but not actually feeling it in her body. For the one who keeps asking God for change but knows deep down it’s time to change how she shows up too.

In this raw and reflective episode, I’m walking you through the very real shift I’ve been making lately — not just in what I say I want, but in how I actually live. We’re talking:

• Praying differently (and not just when everything’s falling apart)
• Hearing God in the quiet instead of waiting on the thunder
• Reacting without letting ego run the room
• Redefining femininity outside of being the “easy” woman
• Waiting with purpose, not panic
• And learning how to let myself dream without putting pressure on the outcome

It’s layered. It’s honest. It’s not me trying to be “soft life” or perfect — it’s me becoming my own safe space in real time.

Why This Episode Matters:

We say we want different, but keep doing the same thing. This episode is your nudge to switch it up — in your prayer life, in your patience, in your posture, in how you imagine the next version of yourself.

Segments Include:

✨ God check-in: Praying with honesty, not performance

🧠 Self-work: Pausing before you let offense or ego spiral you

💘 Dating files: Letting your femininity be full, not palatable

⏳ Timing talk: Choosing preparation over panic while you wait

🎨 Imagination Station: Dreaming without control

Takeaway Quote:

“One different decision really can change your direction. Don’t wait for permission to live a life that actually feels good to your body.”

Listen Now On:

Spotify | Apple Podcasts | Substack | Wherever you tune in

🎧 Plus: Tap the latest Her Revision Radio playlist to carry this episode’s energy into your day.

📝 Subscribe to rewrittenthoughts.substack.com for weekly letters from me — raw, grounding, and always honest.

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This episode is for the woman who’s tired of packaging herself just to be picked. Tired of being the most understanding, most flexible, most available version of herself.. just to maybe get chosen. Jasmine Lashae gets real about what happens when you stop waiting to be picked and finally start choosing you.

Whether it’s in love, friendships, career, or family dynamics..the exhaustion is real. This is your permission slip to lay it down. The performance. The pressure. The need to be palatable. And reclaim your worth outside of being selected.

In this episode, we cover:

• What “pick me” behavior actually looks like (it’s not just what Twitter said)
• The emotional labor of being digestible
• Choosing yourself without detaching from love
• Letting go of the performance and embracing fullness
• What it really looks like to stop chasing validation

✨ Call to action:

If this episode hit, text it to a friend. Share it in your stories.

And ask yourself this week: Where am I still trying to be chosen?

Listen to the Her Revision Mood Board Playlist on Spotify:

🎧 Her Revision Playlist

Links:

• Substack: rewrittenthoughts.substack.com
• Instagram: @jasmine.lashae_
• TikTok: @jasminelashae0105

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Hey y’all. Welcome back to Her Revision Podcast.

This is an Off the Page episode, which is basically the audio version of a journal entry. It’s where I pause, check in, and share whatever’s been sitting heavy or tugging at my spirit. No full-blown structure, just honest reflection in real time.

In today’s episode, I’m talking about something that’s been on my heart. Lately, I’ve had a lot going on, but not necessarily in the direction I thought I would. And it’s been making me ask some real questions.

Can priorities change without it meaning I’m falling off?

What happens when something I love doesn’t feel like the center of my life right now?

Am I allowed to shift without it meaning I’m out of alignment?

If you’ve been feeling that quiet tug like you’re expanding, but not exactly where you thought you would, this one’s for you. You’re not lazy, you’re not lost. You might just be in a new season.

Let’s stay connected:

📝 Substack: rewrittenthoughts.substack.com

🎧 TikTok: @jasminelashae0105

📸 Instagram: @jasmine.lashae_

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Have you ever looked up and realized you don’t even recognize yourself anymore?

This episode is for the woman who’s poured herself into everyone else. Relationships. Friendships. Family. Work. Always showing up. Always bending. Always giving. Until there’s barely anything left of you.

I’m talking about what it feels like to love someone so hard that you go missing. About the relationship that cracked me open. About the miscarriage, the cheating, the over-functioning. About how trying to be someone’s peace left me in pieces.

This isn’t just about romantic love. We’re naming all the places we go missing. In jobs. In friend groups. In family roles. And most importantly, we’re walking through what it takes to come back home to yourself.

This episode is truth. It’s healing. It’s the moment you stop disappearing.

In This Episode:

• What self-abandonment actually looks like in real life
• My story of loving someone who couldn’t love me back
• Signs you’re disappearing in relationships and roles
• How trauma bonding can feel like love
• How disconnection from yourself can disconnect you from God
• Steps I took to return to myself without guilt or shame
• Why real love never requires you to go quiet

Mentioned in This Episode:

• My Substack: rewrittenthoughts.substack.com
• Past episodes on healing, heartbreak, and reinvention
• Real life reflections on faith, boundaries, and reclaiming your voice

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Let’s Stay Connected:

• Substack – Weekly journal drops and honest thoughts I don’t post anywhere else
• https://rewrittenthoughts.substack.com
• TikTok – My little corner of the internet where I talk real
• https://www.tiktok.com/@jasminelashae0105
• Instagram – Behind the scenes, books, voice notes, and soft life reminders
• https://www.instagram.com/jasmine.lashae_

We’re growing, and your voice matters. Take a minute to share your thoughts about Her Revision Podcast — what you love, what you want more of, and how we can keep evolving.

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In this episode:

This is not a pep talk. This is a full on spiritual read. If you’ve ever caught yourself shutting down when someone gives you feedback, isolating yourself when you feel misunderstood, or calling everything “disrespect” just because it rubbed your ego wrong, this one is for you.

We’re talking about how ego creeps into your friendships, your goals, your purpose, and your growth. And more importantly, how to kill it before it kills everything good God is trying to do in your life.

Topics include:

• The spirit of offense and why it’s louder than you think
• How pride shows up in quiet ways
• The difference between being guarded and being unavailable
• Why real growth requires real accountability
• What it takes to truly kill your ego and walk in peace

This is your reminder that you can’t evolve if you flinch every time someone challenges your behavior. You’re not being attacked. You’re being invited into alignment.

Take what you need. Leave what you don’t. And let this one sit in your spirit a while.

Connect with me:

TikTok: @jasminelashae0105

Instagram: @jasmine.lashae_

Substack: rewrittenthoughts.substack.com

We’re growing, and your voice matters. Take a minute to share your thoughts about Her Revision Podcast — what you love, what you want more of, and how we can keep evolving.

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