What happens when the path you've been told to follow starts to feel intolerable?

In this episode, we explore the uncomfortable space of not knowing what's next and the courage it takes to choose what actually delights you instead. Jay and Sasha dive into the friction between cultural expectations of consistency and the messy, multifaceted reality of a life lived in alignment with one's curiosity.

Sasha has done a lot of different things. She's published 3 books—two on cheese and one on menopause. She's been a project manager, cheesemonger, podcaster, shopkeeper, restaurant manager, human resources assistant, copywriter and book coach. Her latest venture is Paper Jam Reuse, which is a reuse project focused on using paper to inspire people to create low-stakes, high-satisfaction creative projects.

Her numerous professional reinventions have given Sasha deep insight into the internal "ick" that signals a need for change.

In this episode, Jay and Sasha discuss:

► Distinguishing between what you think you should want and what actually brings you delight.

► Recognizing the physical and emotional cues that a role or project is no longer aligned.

► Why it's so tempting to reach for crummy opportunities just to avoid the embarrassment of being unmoored.

► How unpredictable bodily changes can destabilize your sense of identity and reality.

► A simple and surprising tool to stay present during moments of overwhelm.

Learn more about Sasha Davies

► Websites: https://paperjamreuse.com https://www.sashadavies.com/

► Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/paperjamreuse/

► Other links: The Menopause Companion (Book)

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Stay connected with Jay

► Website: https://jaymoonfields.com

► Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/heywaitwithjay/

► Books: https://www.amazon.com/less-lost-finding-yourself-ordinary/dp/B0FSDSG63B

► Coaching Program: https://jaymoonfields.com/coaching

► LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/jaymoonfields/

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Original Music produced by Dalton Grant

Today's episode is about grief. Or at least it starts out that way, but the conversation evolves into being about authenticity, purpose and desire. And weirdly, as you listen, you'll find that these topics make sense together. Because for as heavy and all-encompassing as grief feels while you're in it, it's inseparable from some of the most essential questions in life. Who am I? What am I here to do? And what do I really want?

Uma Girish is a Grief Companion, Human Design guide, and the author of four books, including Sacred Fire: Memoir of a Marriage. She works with women who are grieving a loss and feeling lost, helping them navigate not just the death of a loved one, but the "lower-case losses"—breakups, changing roles, diagnoses, empty nesting, and the years spent not choosing themselves. Uma serves as a compassionate witness, helping women listen to what grief is asking of them and who they are becoming in the process.

► Grief as an Identity Reset ► Spiritual Bypassing vs. True Feeling ► The nervous system's and mind's common responses to loss ► Human Design as a Soul Map ► Reclaiming Desire

► Website: https://umagirish.com/► Substack: Light After Loss (via website) ► Book: Sacred Fire: Memoir of a Marriage ► Special Offer: Uma is offering a free 20-minute Human Design Highlights reading to the first two listeners who email her with their birth details.

If you loved this episode, please help get it to others by subscribing, rating the show, or sharing it with a friend! You can learn more about how to support Jay's work and the show at https://buymeacoffee.com/jaymoonfields

► Website: https://jaymoonfields.com► Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/heywaitwithjay/ ► Books: https://www.amazon.com/less-lost-finding-yourself-ordinary/dp/B0FSDSG63B ► Coaching Program: https://jaymoonfields.com/coaching ► LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/jaymoonfields/

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Original Music produced by Dalton Grant

Have you ever felt like your nervous system is pressing the gas pedal and the brake at the same time? In the first solo episode of Season Two, Jay explores the often-overlooked "Fawn" stress response, a survival strategy that prioritizes connection over authenticity. If you find yourself shape-shifting to please others or losing touch with your own needs to keep the peace, this episode will help you understand that it isn't a personality flaw; it's your nervous system trying to keep you safe.

Jay Moon Fields is a somatic coach, author, and the host of Hey Wait. She works with people who struggle to stay connected to themselves while connecting with others, bringing deep insight into nervous system regulation, embodiment, and "unfawning."

► The "Hey, Wait" Tool: Using two simple words as a reset button to interrupt default patterns and reorient to your own needs. ► Defining the Fawn Response: Understanding the fourth stress response (alongside fight, flight, and freeze) as "responding to a threat by becoming more appealing to the threat." ► The High-Functioning Fawner: Why fawning often hides in plain sight, looking like competence, empathy, and success on the outside while feeling like numbness and resentment on the inside. ► A Personal Confession: Jay shares a vulnerable (and slightly ridiculous) story about fawning at the airport with her husband. ► The Path to "Unfawning": An introduction to the steps required to heal, including nervous system regulation, reparenting, and parts work.

If you're interested in learning more about Jay's signature online program, Yours Truly, that teaches you the steps to heal fawning, visit https://jaymoonfields.com/yours-truly. Use the code heywait-100 at checkout to receive $100 off your registration.

If you loved this episode, please help get it to others by subscribing, rating the show, or sharing it with a friend! You can learn more about how to support Jay's work and the show at https://buymeacoffee.com/jaymoonfields

► Website: https://jaymoonfields.com► Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/heywaitwithjay/ ► Books: https://www.amazon.com/less-lost-finding-yourself-ordinary/dp/B0FSDSG63B ► 1:1 Coaching: https://jaymoonfields.com/coaching ► LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/jaymoonfields/

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Original Music produced by Dalton Grant

This week's episode feels less like an interview and more like a homecoming. Jay sits down to steep in a conversation with Angelo Lazenka, one of her main mentors who shaped her life and work.

Angelo is wilderness rites of passage guide and the former Director and President of the School of Lost Borders. He has worked with thousands of individuals seeking growth and insight in the wilderness and brings deep insight into the practice of living, dying, and the healing of the "lie of separation."

At 72 years old, Angelo is stepping away from the role of guide and moving into the next chapter of elderhood. In that way, this conversation comes from a "liminal space," the in-between times when you are no longer who you were, but not yet who you are becoming.

► What rites of passage really are—and why they are so rare and necessary in our time.

► The vital distinction between self-improvement and true intimacy with life.

► Healing the "lie of separation" between ourselves, nature, and one another.

► Navigating the shift from adulthood into the rich, stewardship-focused territory of elderhood.

► How to answer the call of "that which you've always been, but have yet to become."

► Website: www.schooloflostborders.org

If you loved this episode, please help get it to others by subscribing, rating the show, or sharing it with a friend! You can learn more about how to support Jay's work and the show at https://buymeacoffee.com/jaymoonfields

► Website: https://jaymoonfields.com► Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/heywaitwithjay/ ► Books: https://www.amazon.com/less-lost-finding-yourself-ordinary/dp/B0FSDSG63B ► Coaching Program: https://jaymoonfields.com/coaching ► LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/jaymoonfields/

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Original Music produced by Dalton Grant

I have a feeling it would probably land as truth for you if I said to you, Sweetie, you're doing too much.

Almost every client I've worked with lately has been struggling with this—the desire to slow down paired with an almost panicky inability to actually do it. I've felt it myself over the past few months, as I've been forced into a much slower pace and lessened capacity due to some unexpected health issues.

In this week's solo episode of Hey, Wait, I share:

— How your nervous system makes slowing down feel harder than it should — The social and relational conditioning that keeps you constantly striving instead of resting — How to recognize the part of you shaped by both your wiring and your conditioning — Three steps to help you move through the panic that can arise when you try to do less—so you can finally take care of yourself

This is my last episode for the 2025 season, and I want to thank you so much for being here! If there was a single episode that really touched you, or if you loved every one of them and you listened every Thursday when they came out, or you found yourself telling your friends about it or doing something differently because of something you heard on this podcast–

I have a very simple way that you could be in reciprocity with me for that. It's a website called buymeacoffee.com and it's a place where you can symbolically buy me a coffee as a thank you if you feel called. Go here: https://buymeacoffee.com/jaymoonfields If you've been wanting a simple way to honor what you receive here, this is one that is very deeply appreciated.

► Website: https://jaymoonfields.com► Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/heywaitwithjay/ ► Books: https://www.amazon.com/less-lost-finding-yourself-ordinary/dp/B0FSDSG63B ► Coaching Program: https://jaymoonfields.com/coaching ► LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/jaymoonfields/

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This podcast was produced by Viv – First Click VA. For collaboration or podcast support, contact: [email protected] Original Music produced by Dalton Grant

If you're a highly sensitive person, you move through life differently than other people. You know what it's like to feel other people's emotions as if they're your own. To struggle to sort out what's your energy and what's someone else's. To walk through the world feeling like your nerves live on the outside of your skin.

Today's guest, Dr. Maria Furlano, has spent her entire career helping highly sensitive people interact with the world in ways that don't drain them. She is a Spiritual Intuitive and Consciousness Mentor specializing in Eastern Energetic Medicine and nervous system regulation. She is a Physician of Chinese Medicine and Acupuncture (MTOM, L.Ac.) and a Doctor of Medical Qigong (DMQ, China), and she is one of the most gifted Medical Qigong teachers.

If you're feeling anything but radiant, give yourself the gift of this episode. Dr. Maria will make you feel understood, supported, and steadied—and she shares a beautiful, easy practice called The Falling Leaf that will help settle your nervous system and lift your energy.

► What Medical Qi Gong actually is and how it can support your health and well-being ►Energetic hygiene (protection, purging, fortifying) that helps you be more vital and healthier in your relationships ►How to set an energetic boundary (and it's not about imagining a big bubble of white light around yourself) ►How to handle the energetic vampires in your life so they don't suck you dry ►Why getting small by contracting your energy doesn't keep you safe—and what actually does ►How to simply and effectively call your energy back when it's scattered or running ahead of you

Dr. Maria Furlano ►Instagram: @‌mariafurlano ►YouTube: @‌mariafurlano ►LinkedIn: LinkedIn.com/mariafurlano ►Website: www.theartoftuningin.com ►Podcast: https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/the-art-of-tuning-in-podcast/id1457630238 ►Monthly Women's Membership: https://www.theartoftuningin.com/studio ►Programs: https://www.theartoftuningin.com/energetic-protection-101 ►Coaching Sessions: https://www.theartoftuningin.com/soul-sessions

► Official Website: https://jaymoonfields.com► Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/heywaitwithjay ► Book: https://www.amazon.com/less-lost-finding-yourself-ordinary/dp/B0FSDSG63B ► Coaching program: https://jaymoonfields.com/coaching ► LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/jaymoonfields

This podcast was produced by Viv – First Click VA. For collaboration or podcast support, contact: [email protected]Original Music produced by Dalton Grant

Anger is a powerful and often misunderstood emotion. For many, it's an emotion to be suppressed, a sign of being out of control. But what if anger, when harnessed correctly, could be a force for good in your life?​

Today's guest, Dr. Mitch Abrams, is an expert in sport, clinical, and forensic psychology, and the author of I'm Not Fucking Angry!!! Adjust the Flames to Get What You Want and Need. He has spent his career working with everyone from prison inmates to high-performance athletes, and he believes that anger is one of the most misunderstood emotions.​

In this episode, Jay and Dr. Abrams discuss: ► Why we have so much shame around anger.​ ► The surprising physiological similarities between anger and anxiety.​ ► How to harness anger as a motivator for positive change.​ ► The difference between "good" and "bad" anger.​ ► How to deal with anger in relationships, whether it's your own or someone else's.​

To learn more about Dr. Mitch Abrams and his work, visit his website at drmitchabrams.com. You can also find his book, I'm Not Fucking Angry, on Amazon https://a.co/d/c1BjU91

Connect with Dr. Mitch Abrams: ►Official Website: https://www.drmitchabrams.com ►X: https://x.com/MitchAbramsPsyD ►Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/mitch.abrams ►LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/drmitchabrams/

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Connect with Jay: ► Official Website: https://jaymoonfields.com/ ► Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/heywaitwithjay/ ► (Book) less lost: finding and being yourself in the wilds of ordinary life https://www.amazon.com/less-lost-finding-yourself-ordinary/dp/B0FSDSG63B/ref=sr_1_1?crid=221PWAS0W0ZLC&dib=eyJ2IjoiMSJ9.-eRJFgQB4PnBUu9EFA5KH0qjLkBb0WOaS_HjQyUF2kw.CNtBvCKk6A0VuF_beHrhgWISjOophnXc2zr577YZlOk&dib_tag=se&keywords=less+lost+jay+fields&qid=1759192701&sprefix=less+lost%2Caps%2C181&sr=8-1 ► "Yours Truly" Coaching Program: https://jaymoonfields.com/coaching ► Jay Moon Fields' Books Less Lost and Teaching People Not Poses on Amazon ► LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/jaymoonfields/

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Do you ever feel like you're constantly running at 100 miles an hour, stuck in a state of high-functioning anxiety? You know all the "right" things to do for self-care, but you just can't seem to slow down, feel present, or access that inner wisdom. You might know what to do, but you can't actually do it.

That is exactly what today's guest, Erin Washington, has experienced. Erin is the author of From Pain to Purpose, the host of the top 1% podcast thERINpy, and the creator of the Blue Butterfly Foundation, a mentorship program for teen girls. She has navigated a decades-long struggle with perfectionism, body image, and self-worth, and publicly shares her evolution as a way of making other women feel seen and less alone.​

The big hey, wait moment in this episode comes when Jay coaches Erin live on the air. Jay introduces a simple framework for understanding and regulating your nervous system, guiding Erin (and you!) from a state of anxious over-functioning to a place of calm presence in just a few minutes. It's a powerful demonstration of how you can learn to truly be with yourself, even when life feels chaotic.​

In this episode, Erin talks about: ► Her journey from finding confidence through fitness to discovering her deeper purpose.​ ► The evolution of her identity and her brand from "Squats and Margaritas" to theERINpy.​ ► Navigating divorce in your 40s when you and your partner are no longer aligned.​ ► A live coaching session on regulating your nervous system to move from anxiety to calm.​ ► How to break generational cycles of body image and perfectionism.​

To learn more about Erin Washington, visit her podcast and foundation websites.

Connect with Erin Washington: ► Podcast (thERINpy with Erin Washington): https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/therinpy-with-erin-washington/id1530232466 ► Website (Blue Butterfly Foundation): https://thebluebutterflies.org/ ► Instagram (thERINpy with Erin Washington): https://www.instagram.com/therinpy_with_erin_washington/ ► Instagram (Erin Washington): https://www.instagram.com/iamerinwashington/

To listen to the episode of thERINpy where Jay is interviewed and offers Erin even more coaching, use this link: https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/embodiment-coach-jay-moon-fields-on-how-to-regulate/id1530232466?i=1000734983793

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Connect with Jay: ► Official Website: https://jaymoonfields.com/ ► Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/heywaitwithjay/ ► (Book) less lost: finding and being yourself in the wilds of ordinary life https://www.amazon.com/less-lost-finding-yourself-ordinary/dp/B0FSDSG63B/ref=sr_1_1?crid=221PWAS0W0ZLC&dib=eyJ2IjoiMSJ9.-eRJFgQB4PnBUu9EFA5KH0qjLkBb0WOaS_HjQyUF2kw.CNtBvCKk6A0VuF_beHrhgWISjOophnXc2zr577YZlOk&dib_tag=se&keywords=less+lost+jay+fields&qid=1759192701&sprefix=less+lost%2Caps%2C181&sr=8-1 ► "Yours Truly" Coaching Program: https://jaymoonfields.com/coaching ► Jay Moon Fields' Books Less Lost and Teaching People Not Poses on Amazon ► LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/jaymoonfields/

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Betrayal is a uniquely painful human experience that can shatter your sense of self, your health, and your ability to trust. What if there was a predictable path to move through the devastation and emerge stronger on the other side?​

Imagine turning your deepest personal pain into a mission to heal others. That is exactly what today's guest, Dr. Debi Silber, did. After experiencing life-altering betrayals, she embarked on a PhD to study the topic, uncovering three groundbreaking discoveries about how we can heal and transform. Dr. Silber found that while you can't count on time to heal the wounds of betrayal, there is a proven, research-based roadmap to move from breakdown to breakthrough.​

Dr. Silber is the founder and CEO of The PBT (Post Betrayal Transformation) Institute and a leading expert on healing from betrayal. In this conversation, she and Jay explore the science and soul of recovery, including why this particular type of trauma requires a different approach.​

In this episode, Dr. Silber discusses: ► Her personal story of betrayal and what led her to research the topic.​ ► Post-Betrayal Syndrome and its common physical, mental, and emotional symptoms.​ ► The five predictable stages of healing from betrayal, and how to know if you are stuck.​ ► Why it's possible to not only heal but to become a new, transformed version of yourself.​

To learn more about Dr. Debi Silber and her work, visit her company's website at https://thepbtinstitute.com.

Connect with Dr. Debi Silber: ► Official Website: https://thepbtinstitute.com ► Podcast: https://thepbtinstitute.com/podcast/ ► Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/debisilber/ ► TEDx Talk, "Do You Have Post Betrayal Syndrome?": https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=iyqOR69dHiU ► Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/InspireEmpowerTransform ► LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/debisilber/

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Connect with Jay: ► Official Website: https://jaymoonfields.com/ ► Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/heywaitwithjay/ ► (Book) less lost: finding and being yourself in the wilds of ordinary life https://www.amazon.com/less-lost-finding-yourself-ordinary/dp/B0FSDSG63B/ref=sr_1_1?crid=221PWAS0W0ZLC&dib=eyJ2IjoiMSJ9.-eRJFgQB4PnBUu9EFA5KH0qjLkBb0WOaS_HjQyUF2kw.CNtBvCKk6A0VuF_beHrhgWISjOophnXc2zr577YZlOk&dib_tag=se&keywords=less+lost+jay+fields&qid=1759192701&sprefix=less+lost%2Caps%2C181&sr=8-1 ► "Yours Truly" Coaching Program: https://jaymoonfields.com/coaching ► Jay Moon Fields' Books Less Lost and Teaching People Not Poses on Amazon ► LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/jaymoonfields/

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Do you ever feel like you're dating the same person in a different body, repeating the same painful relationship patterns over and over? Many of us search for a love that completes us, only to find we've lost ourselves in the process. This cycle of relating is more common than you think, and it has a name: love addiction.

That is what today's guest, Jodi White, is here to unpack. Jodi is a licensed therapist, coach, and podcaster specializing in codependence and love addiction. Drawing on her professional training and her personal recovery after a 25-year struggle, she helps clients heal relationship patterns rooted in childhood trauma and cultural conditioning.

For both Jay and Jodi, a huge "Hey, Wait" moment was the realization that these patterns weren't about love, but about a process addiction. It's an addiction to seeking the safety and validation externally that we needed to develop internally. Understanding this is a powerful first step toward breaking the cycle and building a fulfilling relationship with yourself and others.

In this episode, Jodi talks about: ► The difference between codependence and love addiction. ► The three core symptoms of a love addict. ► How cultural messages and childhood experiences create these patterns. ► What the recovery process looks like and how to start healing.

To learn more about Jodi White, visit her website or listen to her podcast, Journals of a Love Addict.

Connect with Jodi White: ► Official Website: https://www.jodiwhiteonline.com/ ► Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/jodiwhite_ ► Podcast: Journals of a Love Addict

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Connect with Jay: ► Official Website: https://jaymoonfields.com/ ► Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/heywaitwithjay/ ► (Book) less lost: finding and being yourself in the wilds of ordinary life https://www.amazon.com/less-lost-finding-yourself-ordinary/dp/B0FSDSG63B/ref=sr_1_1?crid=221PWAS0W0ZLC&dib=eyJ2IjoiMSJ9.-eRJFgQB4PnBUu9EFA5KH0qjLkBb0WOaS_HjQyUF2kw.CNtBvCKk6A0VuF_beHrhgWISjOophnXc2zr577YZlOk&dib_tag=se&keywords=less+lost+jay+fields&qid=1759192701&sprefix=less+lost%2Caps%2C181&sr=8-1 ► "Yours Truly" Coaching Program: https://jaymoonfields.com/coaching ► Jay Moon Fields' Books Less Lost and Teaching People Not Poses on Amazon ► LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/jaymoonfields/

This podcast was produced by Scufd Studio Pvt. Ltd. For permissions, inquiries, or collaboration, please contact [email protected]