Listen in as Jay shares a deeply personal update about a recent health diagnosis and how it is requiring she shift everything in her life. If you are an overfunctioning woman exhausted by people-pleasing, hear why confusing a capacity problem with a discipline problem is costing you everything, and how to finally begin listening to your body.

Jay Moon Fields is a Somatic coaching expert and the host of Hey, Wait, bringing deep insight into authentic living, embodiment, and aligning your insides with your outsides.

In this episode, you'll hear: • How a surprising genetic diagnosis of dysautonomia and hEDS shifted everything and why body awareness is no longer optional. • Healing from people pleasing and why extreme physical feedback finally stopped the fawning response. • The crucial difference between a capacity problem and a discipline problem. • Using the "wave and ocean" metaphor to reconnect to your vaster self. • How awe can help you quiet your mind and regulate your nervous system.

Resources Jay mentions in the show: Dr. Zac Spiritos: https://www.instagram.com/drzacspiritos/

Bendy Bodies Podcast: https://www.bendybodiespodcast.com/

Disjointed Book: https://bookscouter.com/book/9781734794908-disjointed-navigating-the-diagnosis-and-management-of-hyperm

For full resources, links, and to learn more about coaching, visit: https://jaymoonfields.com

Support the show: https://buymeacoffee.com/jaymoonfields

Credits: Produced by Viv – First Click VA | Original Music by Dalton Grant

Have you ever felt like you go missing in your own life to keep others comfortable? Fawning is an unconscious survival mechanism rooted in the nervous system that prioritizes someone else's happiness and demands over your own experience and boundaries. This episode features two fawners in recovery exploring how to break that trance, stop performing helpfulness, and start trusting your own internal compass.

Dr. Ingrid Clayton is a therapist with a PhD in private practice and the author of the deeply personal book Fawning. She works with survivors of complex childhood trauma and brings deep insight into relational trauma, healing, and the messy, slow work of learning to unfawn.

In this episode, Jay and Dr. Ingrid discuss: ► The crucial difference between genuine kindness or empathy and a fawning response driven by self-abandonment. ► Why chronic fawners often see other people's relational red flags as on-ramps to their own helpfulness. ► How clients, therapists, and coaches often unknowingly fawn with each other during professional sessions. ► How to tell the difference between staying in an asymmetrical relationship to do genuine healing work versus repeating a cycle of re-traumatization. ► The complexities of the "Let Them" theory and how it can sometimes embolden a trauma response instead of setting healthy boundaries.

Learn more about Dr. Ingrid Clayton ► Substack: https://ingridclaytonphd.substack.com/ ► Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/ingridclaytonphd

If you loved this episode, please help get it to others by subscribing, rating the show, or sharing it with a friend! You can learn more about how to support Jay's work and the show at https://buymeacoffee.com/jaymoonfields

Stay connected with Jay

► Website: https://jaymoonfields.com► Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/heywaitwithjay/ ►DIY Online Course to Support Unfawning: https://jaymoonfields.com/yours-truly ► 1:1 Coaching: https://jaymoonfields.com/coaching ► Book: https://www.amazon.com/less-lost-finding-yourself-ordinary/dp/B0FSDSG63B ► LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/jaymoonfields/

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CreditsThis podcast was produced by Viv – First Click VA. For podcast support, contact: [email protected]

For collaborations or general inquiries, contact: [email protected]

Original Music produced by Dalton Grant

Have you ever wondered why it can be so hard to stay in your body during moments of intimacy? This episode explores the deep connection between your nervous system, your body, and your capacity for pleasure.

Lisa West is a physical therapist, bodyworker, and yoga practitioner of over 30 years and the author of the book Follow the Feeling, A Roadmap to Emotional Freedom.

She has worked with clients navigating midlife, chronic pain, and trauma and brings deep insight into sexual medicine, pelvic health, and nervous system regulation.

In this episode, Jay and Lisa discuss:

► The shift from constant upward, productive energy to honoring the downward-flowing energy (apana vayu) of the body.

► Why arousal requires a baseline parasympathetic (relaxed) state and how to find the sweet spot of flow between relaxation and stimulation.

► The misconception that pain during sex or pelvic exams is normal, and how pelvic floor physical therapy can help.

► The truth about women's arousal, including the fact that only about 30% of women can orgasm from penetration alone.

► Simple, fluid movements and grounding practices—like softening the jaw to access the pelvis—that help you stay present and connected to yourself.

Learn more about Lisa West

► Website: https://lisawestwellness.com

► Instagram: @LisaYogini

► Other links: Follow the Feeling on Amazon and courses on Teachable

If you loved this episode, please help get it to others by subscribing, rating the show, or sharing it with a friend! You can learn more about how to support Jay's work and the show at https://buymeacoffee.com/jaymoonfields

Stay connected with Jay

► Website: https://jaymoonfields.com

► Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/heywaitwithjay/

► Books: https://www.amazon.com/less-lost-finding-yourself-ordinary/dp/B0FSDSG63B

► Coaching Program: https://jaymoonfields.com/coaching

► LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/jaymoonfields/

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Credits

This podcast was produced by Viv – First Click VA.

For podcast support, contact: [email protected]

For collaborations or general inquiries, contact: [email protected]

Original Music produced by Dalton Grant

People pleasing, perfectionism and codependence, oh my! Are you exhausted from constantly managing the people around you and performing for safety? If so, this is the episode you need if you want to stop looking outward for validation and actually feel safe being yourself.

Beatriz Victoria Albina is a Somatic Experiencing Practitioner, Master Somatic Coach, and the author of the bestselling book End Emotional Outsourcing. She has worked with humans socialized as women looking to regulate their nervous systems and rewire their minds, and brings deep insight into untangling codependency, perfectionism and people pleasing.

In this episode, Jay and Bea discuss: ► What "emotional outsourcing" really means and how it's a shame-free replacement term for codependent, perfectionist, and people-pleasing habits. ► The sneaky mixed nervous system state of "functional freeze," where you might look like an impressive, highly productive overachiever on the outside but are totally frozen to your feelings on the inside. ► Why you need to stop viewing these behaviors as individual character flaws and start celebrating them as the brilliant childhood survival skills they once were. ► How performing for self-worth and living in a constant state of panic might literally be messing with your poop and digestion (because science!). ► The game-changing difference between being self-aware and being self-referential, plus a sweet little somatic grounding practice to help you reconnect with the earth.

Learn more about Beatriz Victoria Albina ► Website: https://beatrizalbina.com/ ► Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/beatrizvictoriaalbinanp ► YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@beavictoriaalbina ► Podcast: https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/feminist-wellness/id1454980022 ► End Emotional Outsourcing Book: https://bookshop.org/p/books/end-emotional-outsourcing-how-to-overcome-your-codependent-perfectionist-and-people-pleasing-habits-beatriz-victoria-albina-np-mph-sep/54b675f3d3e5154a?ean=9781538766439&next=t

If you loved this episode, please help get it to others by subscribing, rating the show, or sharing it with a friend! You can learn more about how to support Jay's work and the show at https://buymeacoffee.com/jaymoonfields

Chapters

00:00 Introduction and Fun Vibes 08:03 Fawning vs. Emotional Outsourcing 12:39 Survival Skills vs. Flaws 15:10 Compassion for Our Inner Parts 17:16 Teaching New Skills to Our Inner Child 18:15 Dating Under-Functioners and Emotional Immaturity 20:52 Navigating Emotional Isolation 22:27 Creating Safety and Belonging 24:15 The Importance of Community in Healing 25:54 Understanding Societal Influences on Emotional Health 27:25 Generational Differences in Emotional Awareness 30:03 The Role of Science in Emotional Understanding 32:46 The Gut-Brain Connection 35:35 Practicing Presence for Emotional Well-being 39:15 Self-Referential Awareness vs. Outsourcing 41:09 The Journey to Your Favorite Life 43:07 Shifting Perspectives on Thought Work 46:20 The Importance of Somatic Experience 50:29 Catalysts for Change and Liberation 55:30 Grounding Practices for Connection

Stay connected with Jay

► Website: https://jaymoonfields.com ► Yours Truly Program: https://jaymoonfields.com/yours-truly (Code heywait-100 for $100 off!) ► Books: https://www.amazon.com/less-lost-finding-yourself-ordinary/dp/B0FSDSG63B ► Coaching: https://jaymoonfields.com/coaching ► Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/heywaitwithjay/ ► LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/jaymoonfields/

Have a question for the podcast? Send it in — it may be featured in a future episode.

Credits This podcast was produced by Viv – First Click VA. For podcast support, contact: [email protected]

For collaborations or general inquiries, contact: [email protected]

Original Music produced by Dalton Grant

I used to think I was just "bad with money." After my divorce at 23, I walked away from everything and gave my ex-husband all my savings out of guilt, stepping into a money story defined by debt, scarcity, and shame. But now I understand that my problem wasn't a lack of financial literacy—it was financial trauma, and if you've ever felt a tightness in your chest when checking your bank account, or felt anxiety even though you have "enough" on paper, this episode explores how your relationship with money is often actually about safety, identity, and your nervous system trying to protect you.

Rahkim Sabree is a financial therapist, Accredited Financial Counselor (AFC®), Trauma of Money Certified Practitioner, TEDx Speaker, and the author of Overcoming Financial Trauma. He has worked with individuals, corporate teams, HR professionals, and financial advisors, and brings deep insight into bridging the gap between financial literacy and trauma-informed care.

In this episode, Jay and Rahkim discuss:

► Why financial advice often feels incomplete, and the difference between financial therapy and financial planning.

► Why you're not "bad with money"—and why your perceived "bad decisions" are actually normal nervous system responses to abnormal circumstances.

► How fight, flight, freeze, and fawn show up in your daily money behaviors, from overworking to actively avoiding your bank account.

► The ways jobs, hustle culture, and entrepreneurial ventures can reinforce financial trauma.

► What it sounds like to actually set financial boundaries, talk about money more honestly, and find healing in community rather than isolation.

Chapters

00:00 Introduction to Financial Therapy

05:05 Understanding Financial Trauma

06:57 The Human Aspect of Money

09:28 Defining Financial Trauma

11:43 The Impact of Wealth on Trauma

13:30 Navigating Financial Systems

14:47 Personal Stories and Financial Decisions

17:14 The Concept of Financial Literacy

20:02 Responses to Financial Threats

22:52 Flight, Fight, Freeze, and Fawn in Financial Contexts

27:30 The Impact of Fawning in Relationships

29:46 Economic Warfare and Workplace Trauma

31:31 The Misconceptions of Entrepreneurship

33:31 Financial Boundaries and Relationships

36:53 Community and Financial Healing

46:34 Shifting Perspectives on Financial Trauma

Learn more about Rahkim Sabree

►Instagram: @rahkimsabree ►Website: Overcomingfinancialtrauma.com ►Substack: Rahkimsabree.substack.com

If you loved this episode, please help get it to others by subscribing, rating the show, or sharing it with a friend! You can learn more about how to support Jay's work and the show at https://buymeacoffee.com/jaymoonfields

Stay connected with Jay

► Website: https://jaymoonfields.com► Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/heywaitwithjay/ ► Books: https://www.amazon.com/less-lost-finding-yourself-ordinary/dp/B0FSDSG63B ► Coaching Program: https://jaymoonfields.com/coaching ► LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/jaymoonfields/

Have a question for the podcast? Send it in — it may be featured in a future episode.

Credits

This podcast was produced by Viv – First Click VA. For podcast support, contact: [email protected]

For collaborations or general inquiries, contact: [email protected]

Original Music produced by Dalton Grant

When life gets overwhelmingly "lifey," your nervous system might be sending you signals of perceived danger and threat. This episode explores the power of pausing to track the physical sensations happening in your body and offers a simple path to reconnect with the quiet, peaceful trust inside you.

Jay Moon Fields is a coach and educator specializing in nervous system regulation and somatic awareness. She has worked extensively with successful professionals (who are also just ordinary people) to help them realign with their essential selves by first meeting themself at the physiological level.

In this episode, Jay discusses:

► How to reconnect to trust when everything feels uncertain and you are consumed by fear

► The specific imagery that brings her back to a sense of calm every damn time

► How to track your nervous system in real time by paying attention to bodily sensations

► The distinct patterns of thoughts, physical sensations, and behaviors associated with the fight, flight, freeze, and fawn stress responses

►A moment to reconnect with a sense of okness in your body

► Why the world desperately needs more regulated nervous systems right now and how you can be a part of it

Learn more about Jay's Programs

► Website: https://jaymoonfields.com

► Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/heywaitwithjay/

► Books: https://www.amazon.com/less-lost-finding-yourself-ordinary/dp/B0FSDSG63B

► Coaching: https://jaymoonfields.com/coaching

► LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/jaymoonfields/

Have a question for the podcast?

Credits

This podcast was produced by Viv – First Click VA. For podcast support, contact: [email protected]

For collaborations or general inquiries, contact: [email protected]

Original Music produced by Dalton Grant

You have pyrobably heard it your whole life: "You're too sensitive." If you feel things deeply, get overwhelmed easily, and notice every detail of everything, you might be wondering why you process the world with such extraordinary depth. Today we explore what it actually means to be a Highl Sensitive Person (HSP) and why it is a neurophysiological trait rather than a stress response.

Muriel Kosovsky is a business owner and coach who has worked internationally for over two decades as a teacher, senior leader, and mentor to support highly sensitive leaders and contributors navigating the workplace. She's the author of the forthcoming book, HSPedia, a comprehensive blueprint for highly sensitive people.

In this episode, Jay and Muriel Kosovsky discuss:

► The four levels of sensitivity that can be activated in highly sensitive people

► Why many HSPs struggle at work—and the kinds of support that actually help

► The non-negotiable qualities HSPs need for relationships to be sustainable and healthy

► The surprising variant of HSP that craves intensity, adventure, and even danger

► The one quality successful HSPs tend to organize their lives around

Chapters 00:00 Introduction to Highly Sensitive People (HSP) and Personal Journeys03:02 Understanding the HSP Trait and Its Impact05:51 Strategies for Managing Sensitivity in Daily Life09:10 Identifying HSP Traits and Characteristics11:47 The Connection Between HSP and High Sensation Seeking14:58 Navigating Life as a Highly Sensitive Person17:56 Ambition and Drive in Highly Sensitive Individuals24:07 The Ambition and Drive of Highly Sensitive People27:00 Challenges in Professional Relationships for HSPs30:37 Navigating Power Dynamics in Relationships33:16 The Importance of Non-Judgmental Relationships36:40 Lessons Learned as a Highly Sensitive Person39:39 Introducing HSPedia: A Resource for HSPs45:47 Practices for Staying Grounded as an HSP

Learn more about Muriel Kosovsky ► LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/murielkosovsky/ ► Book waitlist and newsletter: https://docs.google.com/forms/d/e/1FAIpQLSe9ByfcCz2jio8OxKhzWI68LxxfGKr6w3QUEXLUbQ2Fey1jFw/viewform

If you loved this episode, please help get it to others by subscribing, rating the show, or sharing it with a friend! You can learn more about how to support Jay's work and the show at https://buymeacoffee.com/jaymoonfields

Stay connected with Jay

► Website: https://jaymoonfields.com► Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/heywaitwithjay/ ► Books: https://www.amazon.com/less-lost-finding-yourself-ordinary/dp/B0FSDSG63B ► Coaching Program: https://jaymoonfields.com/coaching ► LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/jaymoonfields/

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Credits

This podcast was produced by Viv – First Click VA. For podcast support, contact: [email protected]For collaborations or general inquiries, contact: [email protected]

Original Music produced by Dalton Grant

Lily Shepard walks (and dances) her talk. She's a trauma-informed movement educator and somatic stress relief practitioner who teaches women how to live and lead from their bodies, not just their heads or conditioning. We discuss what happens when you realise you have been taught to perform as a person, and how to transition from performing your life to actually living it. Discover practical tools for learning how to use your body as an ally, overcoming being fragmented by the different roles you play, and claiming your birthright to pleasure.

In this episode, Jay and Lily discuss: ► Why real power isn't a perfect performance and how movement aids self-expression and healing ► How exhausting it is to negotiate your presence in multiple roles and how to move fluidly between them ► Practical exercises for arriving, grounding yourself when entering a room, and staying present ► Why optimising life can kill pleasure, and why it's about small daily moments rather than Instagram-worthy experiences ► How to avoid becoming the sum total of the expectations of everyone around you

Chapters

00:00 - Embodiment and Movement: A Personal Journey

10:05 - The Shift from Performance to Healing

20:11 - Navigating Fragmentation in Roles

30:03 - Creating Rituals for Transition and Presence

36:41 - Embodiment and Accessibility

47:44 - The Pleasure Principles and Ongoing Journey

Learn more about Lily Shepard

► Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/bodyintelligence_academy ► Linkedin: https://www.linkedin.com/in/lily-shepard/ ► Lily is giving away 3 free copies of her audio book Pleasure Principles for Driven Women to the first 3 people who reach out to her on IG or through email.

If you loved this episode, please help get it to others by subscribing, rating the show, or sharing it with a friend! You can learn more about how to support Jay's work and the show at https://buymeacoffee.com/jaymoonfields

Stay connected with Jay

► Website: https://jaymoonfields.com► Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/heywaitwithjay/ ► Books: https://www.amazon.com/less-lost-finding-yourself-ordinary/dp/B0FSDSG63B ► Coaching Program: https://jaymoonfields.com/coaching ► LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/jaymoonfields/

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Credits

This podcast was produced by Viv – First Click VA. For podcast support, contact: [email protected]For collaborations or general inquiries, contact: [email protected]

Original Music produced by Dalton Grant

What happens when the path you've been told to follow starts to feel intolerable?

In this episode, we explore the uncomfortable space of not knowing what's next and the courage it takes to choose what actually delights you instead. Jay and Sasha dive into the friction between cultural expectations of consistency and the messy, multifaceted reality of a life lived in alignment with one's curiosity.

Sasha has done a lot of different things. She's published 3 books—two on cheese and one on menopause. She's been a project manager, cheesemonger, podcaster, shopkeeper, restaurant manager, human resources assistant, copywriter and book coach. Her latest venture is Paper Jam Reuse, which is a reuse project focused on using paper to inspire people to create low-stakes, high-satisfaction creative projects.

Her numerous professional reinventions have given Sasha deep insight into the internal "ick" that signals a need for change.

In this episode, Jay and Sasha discuss:

► Distinguishing between what you think you should want and what actually brings you delight.

► Recognizing the physical and emotional cues that a role or project is no longer aligned.

► Why it's so tempting to reach for crummy opportunities just to avoid the embarrassment of being unmoored.

► How unpredictable bodily changes can destabilize your sense of identity and reality.

► A simple and surprising tool to stay present during moments of overwhelm.

Learn more about Sasha Davies

► Websites: https://paperjamreuse.com https://www.sashadavies.com/

► Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/paperjamreuse/

► Other links: The Menopause Companion (Book)

If you loved this episode, please help get it to others by subscribing, rating the show, or sharing it with a friend! You can learn more about how to support Jay's work and the show at https://buymeacoffee.com/jaymoonfields

Stay connected with Jay

► Website: https://jaymoonfields.com

► Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/heywaitwithjay/

► Books: https://www.amazon.com/less-lost-finding-yourself-ordinary/dp/B0FSDSG63B

► Coaching Program: https://jaymoonfields.com/coaching

► LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/jaymoonfields/

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Credits

This podcast was produced by Viv – First Click VA.

For collaboration or podcast support, contact: [email protected]

Original Music produced by Dalton Grant

Today's episode is about grief. Or at least it starts out that way, but the conversation evolves into being about authenticity, purpose and desire. And weirdly, as you listen, you'll find that these topics make sense together. Because for as heavy and all-encompassing as grief feels while you're in it, it's inseparable from some of the most essential questions in life. Who am I? What am I here to do? And what do I really want?

Uma Girish is a Grief Companion, Human Design guide, and the author of four books, including Sacred Fire: Memoir of a Marriage. She works with women who are grieving a loss and feeling lost, helping them navigate not just the death of a loved one, but the "lower-case losses"—breakups, changing roles, diagnoses, empty nesting, and the years spent not choosing themselves. Uma serves as a compassionate witness, helping women listen to what grief is asking of them and who they are becoming in the process.

In this episode, Jay and Uma discuss:

► Grief as an Identity Reset ► Spiritual Bypassing vs. True Feeling ► The nervous system's and mind's common responses to loss ► Human Design as a Soul Map ► Reclaiming Desire

Learn more about Uma Girish

► Website: https://umagirish.com/► Substack: Light After Loss (via website) ► Book: Sacred Fire: Memoir of a Marriage ► Special Offer: Uma is offering a free 20-minute Human Design Highlights reading to the first two listeners who email her with their birth details.

If you loved this episode, please help get it to others by subscribing, rating the show, or sharing it with a friend! You can learn more about how to support Jay's work and the show at https://buymeacoffee.com/jaymoonfields

Stay connected with Jay

► Website: https://jaymoonfields.com► Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/heywaitwithjay/ ► Books: https://www.amazon.com/less-lost-finding-yourself-ordinary/dp/B0FSDSG63B ► Coaching Program: https://jaymoonfields.com/coaching ► LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/jaymoonfields/

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Credits

This podcast was produced by Viv – First Click VA. For collaboration or podcast support, contact: [email protected]

Original Music produced by Dalton Grant