hey, wait

Aging is part of the human experience, but as our bodies change, so must our approach and mindset toward caring for them.

Imagine going from being an elite athlete and coach to Olympic track and field athletes, to barely being able to move only a few years later. When you have spent your 20s identifying as strong, physical, and healthy, losing the ability to move freely can feel like a devastating loss.

That is exactly what today's guest, Coach Ashley Selman, experienced. After having a hip replacement and going into perimenopause in her early 40's, her body began to take a turn. She needed to find a solution and eventually discovered BFR, or Blood Flow Restriction training.

BFR is something both Jay and Coach Selman have in common, and discovering it was a huge "Hey, Wait" moment for them both. It's a powerful tool not only for women navigating menopause, but for anyone with an aging body.

In this episode, Ashley talks about:

• Her path toward becoming a coach

• Blood Flow Restriction: what it is and how it works

• Women losing muscle mass sooner than men due to Human Growth Hormone

To learn more about Coach Seli and BFR, visit her company's website at selishttps://www.selistrength.com/#via=heywait

To sign up for the Hey, Wait cohort for BFR training, visit https://www.selistrength.com/#via=heywait

And to stay connected with Jay, head over to jaymoonfields.com and follow along on Instagram. If you have a question for the podcast, send it in. You might just hear it on a future episode.

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Connect with Coach Ashley Selman:

• Official Training Website:https://www.selistrength.com/#via=heywait

• Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/selistrength

• LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/ashley-selman

Connect with Jay:

• Official Website: https://jaymoonfields.com/

• Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/heywaitwithjay/

• "Yours Truly" Coaching Program: https://jaymoonfields.com/coaching

• Jay Moon Fields' Book "Teaching People Not Poses": https://www.amazon.com/Teaching-People-Not-Poses-Principles/dp/1478326913/

• LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/jaymoonfields

Why is it so hard for so many of us… to simply be ourselves?

No one becomes a Somatic Healing Coach by accident. Learning to connect with what you feel on the inside doesn't always come easily. For Jay, that realization began after one of the most painful experiences of her young life, separating from her first husband.

In this very special and illuminating episode of the Hey, Wait Podcast, Jay sits down with former guest Sara Rusbatch, who turns the tables by interviewing Jay about her own life experiences. Together they trace the moments of trauma and transformation that shaped Jay into the person, author, coach, and educator she is today.

In this episode, Jay talks about:

• Her childhood and feeling disconnected with her inside
• Getting married young and experiencing separation and divorce
• The value in working one-on-one with clients vs. corporate
• Her mission & her legacy

To stay connected with Jay, head over to jaymoonfields.com and follow along on Instagram. If you have a question for the podcast, send it in. You might just hear it on a future episode.

Grab your free copy of The Hey, Wait Phrasebook: 12 Things to Say When You'd Normally Fawn, Freeze, or Fight - https://yourstruly.kit.com/0be0a7d69c

Connect with Jay:

• Official Website: https://jaymoonfields.com/
• Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/heywaitwithjay/
• "Yours Truly" Coaching Program: https://jaymoonfields.com/coaching
• Jay Moon Fields' Book "Teaching People Not Poses": https://www.amazon.com/Teaching-People-Not-Poses-Principles/dp/1478326913/
• LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/jaymoonfields

Connect with Sarah Rusbatch:

• Official Website: https://sarahrusbatch.com/
• Sarah's Book, "Beyond Booze": https://sarahrusbatch.com/beyond-booze
• Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/sarahrusbatch/
• "The Women's Wellbeing Collective" on Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/groups/342319476897067/
• Sarah's FREE Guide, "100 Things to Do Instead of Drinking": https://sarahrusbatch.com/free-guide-100-things-to-do-instead-of-drinking

The world may try to tell you otherwise, but you have the sovereignty to choose the kind of life you want to live.

When we think of improv, we often picture shows like Whose Line Is It Anyway? or Saturday Night Live. While improvisation on TV can be incredibly entertaining, choosing to improvise in life by saying "yes, and…" can move you away from the scripted path others expect and toward a life that truly feels right for you.

In today's episode, author, artist, entrepreneur, and improviser Amanda Hirsch joins Jay for an inspiring off-the-cuff conversation. Amanda shares her story of reclaiming her own life and offers practical tips and exercises you can start using today. Together, they explore how asking "why?" (or "Hey, wait") and making a "new choice" can better align your desires, passions, and energy.

In this episode, Amanda talks about:

• Choosing a different life path than the scripted one in front of you
• Daring to ask "Why?"... Sometimes more than once
• Noticing what is a "yes" and what is a "no"
• Making a "new choice" beyond the practical and obvious

To learn more about Amanda's book, "Improvising Adulthood" visit her website at amandahirsch.com/improvising-adulthood

And to stay connected with Jay, head over to jaymoonfields.com and follow along on Instagram. If you have a question for the podcast, send it in. You might just hear it on a future episode.

Grab your free copy of The Hey, Wait Phrasebook: 12 Things to Say When You'd Normally Fawn, Freeze, or Fight - https://yourstruly.kit.com/0be0a7d69c

Connect with Amanda Hirsch:

• Personal Website: https://www.amandahirsch.com/
• "Improvising Adulthood" Book: https://www.amandahirsch.com/improvising-adulthood
• "Mighty Forces" Company Website: https://www.mightyforces.co/
• Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/mightyforcesamanda
• LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/amandahirsch

Connect with Jay:

• Official Website: https://jaymoonfields.com/
• Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/heywaitwithjay/
• "Yours Truly" Coaching Program: https://jaymoonfields.com/coaching
• Jay Moon Fields' Book "Teaching People Not Poses": https://www.amazon.com/Teaching-People-Not-Poses-Principles/dp/1478326913/
• LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/jaymoonfields

In times of stress, we seek to self-sooth our nervous systems… But it isn't always beneficial in the long run. When we think about eating, it's easy to forget how deeply connected food is to our nervous system, early attachment experiences, and even the ways we relate to ourselves. Eating is not just about nutrients. It's about safety, grounding, and the body's attempt to protect itself.

In this episode, Jay sits down for an insightful conversation with Stephanie Mara Fox, founder of Somatic Eating and somatic psychotherapist, to explore how we can begin to understand our relationship with food from a place of curiosity and compassion. Stephanie shares how hyper-palatable foods can become stand-ins for secure attachment, the impact of diet culture on our nervous system, and practical ways to start building trust with our bodies and our meals.

In this episode, Stephanie talks about:

• How food behaviors can reflect survival strategies and unmet attachment needs
• The role of somatic awareness in understanding impulses around food
• Practical ways to reconnect with your body through somatic pauses and neutral body check-ins
• Food fawning and the ways people-pleasing can show up in eating behaviors

To learn more about Stephanie's work and programs, visit StephanieMara.com for one-on-one support and her podcast Satiated, or SomaticEating.com for her live three-month Somatic Eating program, community meals, and upcoming Somatic Eating Coach Certification Training.

And to stay connected with Jay, head over to jaymoonfields.com and follow along on Instagram. If you have a question for the podcast, send it in. You might just hear it on a future episode.

Grab your free copy of The Hey, Wait Phrasebook: 12 Things to Say When You'd Normally Fawn, Freeze, or Fight - https://yourstruly.kit.com/0be0a7d69c

Connect with Stephanie Mara Fox:

• Personal Website: https://www.stephaniemara.com/
• Somatic Eating Website: https://www.somaticeating.com/
• Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/_stephaniemara/
• LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/stephmara/

Connect with Jay:

• Official Website: https://jaymoonfields.com/
• Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/heywaitwithjay/
• "Yours Truly" Coaching Program: https://jaymoonfields.com/coaching
• Jay Moon Fields' Book "Teaching People Not Poses": https://www.amazon.com/Teaching-People-Not-Poses-Principles/dp/1478326913/
• LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/jaymoonfields

When we hold a baby, we naturally cradle the neck and the tailbone. In that moment we are tuned in to something gentle and instinctive, an awareness of subtle energy. It comes so easily to us as parents, and yet it's so often abandoned in our own wellbeing as adults.

Many sensitive people, including so many listeners of this podcast, describe feeling as if they "lose themselves" around others. Subtle energy is about deep inner regulation and the quiet exchange that happens between human beings. It is always moving within us and flowing all around us.

In this episode, Jay shares a heartfelt and practical conversation with Craig Walker, a chiropractor, yoga instructor, and educator, who helps people strengthen their connection to themselves and to the world through an understanding of subtle energy.

In this episode, Craig talks about:

• Subtle energy: what it is and how it works
• The value of coordinated breath
• Empathic people are genuinely capable of absorbing the energy of others
• Gaining attunement to your body and your surroundings
• The layers that exist within you

To learn more about Craig's work and subtle energy, visit his Youtube at: youtube.com/@Craig_Walker_

And to stay connected with Jay, head over to jaymoonfields.com and follow along on Instagram. If you have a question for the podcast, send it in. You might just hear it on a future episode.

Grab your free copy of The Hey, Wait Phrasebook: 12 Things to Say When You'd Normally Fawn, Freeze, or Fight - https://yourstruly.kit.com/0be0a7d69c

Connect with Craig Walker:

• Website: https://subtleenergymechanics.com/
• Youtube: https://www.youtube.com/@Craig_Walker_
• Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/subtle_energy_mechanics/
• LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/coachwithcraig

Connect with Jay:

• Official Website: https://jaymoonfields.com/
• Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/heywaitwithjay/
• "Yours Truly" Coaching Program: https://jaymoonfields.com/coaching
• Jay Moon Fields' Book "Teaching People Not Poses": https://www.amazon.com/Teaching-People-Not-Poses-Principles/dp/1478326913/
• LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/jaymoonfields

"Whose story am I serving right now?"

Have you struggled with feeling invisible? Shrunk yourself to fit a mold? Before you learn to stand up for yourself, you have to learn how to see yourself. Marta Czajkowska knows this truth better than most—not just from therapy or theory, but from the side of a cliff, 20,000 feet in the air.

Growing up in communist Poland, Marta learned to survive by staying small. But even while disappearing into the roles others expected of her, something wild was already stirring. At 15, she set her sights on Yosemite's El Capitan, and spent the next few decades climbing literal and metaphorical mountains to find freedom.

In this episode, Marta about how chasing freedom led her to an even deeper question: what does it mean to be fully alive?

Marta is a climber, author, soul-guide, and the founder of Masters of Badassery. Through a near-death accident, a bathroom-floor breakdown, and a hard-won reawakening, she emerged with a mission: helping others break free from societal scripts and step into their boldest, truest selves.

In this episode, Marta shares:

• Why freedom isn't about escape—it's about embodiment
• Her Hey, Wait moment in Yosemite that shattered her invisibility
• How mountaineering forged her ability to sit with clients in their deepest unraveling
• Why breaking down isn't the end—it's often the beginning of becoming

Marta doesn't offer easy answers. She offers a mirror, a path, and the invitation to remember who you were before the world asked you to shrink.

Ready to stop performing and start becoming? Hit play.

Grab your free copy of The Hey, Wait Phrasebook: 12 Things to Say When You'd Normally Fawn, Freeze, or Fight - https://yourstruly.kit.com/0be0a7d69c

Connect with Marta:

• Book: Masters of Badassery How I Reclaimed My Wild, Worthy, and Whole Self: and How You Can Too.
• Free group for women: https://mastersofbadassery.com/bold-free

Connect with Jay:

• Official Website: https://jaymoonfields.com/
• Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/heywaitwithjay/
• "Yours Truly" Coaching Program: https://jaymoonfields.com/coaching
• Jay Moon Fields' Book "Teaching People Not Poses": https://www.amazon.com/Teaching-People-Not-Poses-Principles/dp/1478326913/
• LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/jaymoonfields

Do you find yourself trying to one-up others? Or maybe you tend to one-down instead?

Whichever direction you lean, both have something in common. Contempt. Whether it's contempt for yourself or for the other person, it disconnects you from having a true, grounded experience of yourself. Even if it feels satisfying in the moment.

Today, Jay speaks directly with you about what happens in your body when you fall into one-upping or one-downing. Saying "Hey, Wait" means noticing when it happens, tuning in to how it feels in your body, and learning how to move away from that sensation toward something more authentic and connected.

In this episode, Jay talks about:

• Going one-up or one-down in relation to other people
• One-up is contempt for the other person. One-down is contempt for yourself.
• The feeling in your body associated with each choice, & how to use your body to bring a sense of equality back to the conversation.
• Her upcoming book!

More news coming about Jay's book soon, but for now, to stay connected, head over to jaymoonfields.com and follow along on Instagram. If you have a question for the podcast, send it in. You might just hear it on a future episode.

Grab your free copy of The Hey, Wait Phrasebook: 12 Things to Say When You'd Normally Fawn, Freeze, or Fight - https://yourstruly.kit.com/0be0a7d69c

Connect with Jay:

• Official Website: https://jaymoonfields.com/
• Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/heywaitwithjay/
• "Yours Truly" Coaching Program: https://jaymoonfields.com/coaching
• Jay Moon Fields' Book "Teaching People Not Poses": https://www.amazon.com/Teaching-People-Not-Poses-Principles/dp/1478326913/
• LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/jaymoonfields

Whether in a boardroom with global business leaders or simply with your family in the comfort of your own living room, we negotiate with other people every single day.

Saying "Hey, Wait" is about giving yourself permission to express yourself and own your reality while also acknowledging the reality of the person you're in conflict with. Skillful negotiating works in exactly the same way.

Today's guest, Kwame Christian, is a leading expert in the field of negotiation. He's the host of the Negotiate Anything podcast, the number one negotiation podcast in the world. In this insightful conversation with Jay, Kwame explains why fear is often the main reason we avoid the conversations we need to have. He also offers practical steps that you can use right away to improve how you communicate and connect with others.

In this episode, Kwame talks about:

• How overthinking is a sneaky manifestation of fear
• Focusing stoically on things within your control
• Whoever needs to make the deal more will lose the negotiation, so make your "Plan B'' as enticing as your "Plan A"
• Leading with compassionate curiosity

To learn more about Kwame's speaking, his podcast, and more, visit his company's website at negotiateanything.com

And To stay connected with Jay, head over to jaymoonfields.com and follow along on Instagram. If you have a question for the podcast, send it in. You might just hear it on a future episode.

Grab your free copy of The Hey, Wait Phrasebook: 12 Things to Say When You'd Normally Fawn, Freeze, or Fight - https://yourstruly.kit.com/0be0a7d69c

Connect with Kwame Christian:

• Negotiate Anything Official Website: https://negotiateanything.com/
• Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/kwamenegotiates/
• LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/kwamechristian
• Negotiate Anything Podcast: https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/negotiate-anything/id1101679010

Connect with Jay:

• Official Website: https://jaymoonfields.com/
• Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/heywaitwithjay/
• "Yours Truly" Coaching Program: https://jaymoonfields.com/coaching
• Jay Moon Fields' Book "Teaching People Not Poses": https://www.amazon.com/Teaching-People-Not-Poses-Principles/dp/1478326913/
• LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/jaymoonfields

If you're someone who feels deeply—and often feels alone, even when around other people—you likely carry a quiet longing for more in your relationships. Other people—even you—might mistake this wanting as wanting more attention, or wanting more time with the other person. But the true, deeper longing is for more connection. For the sense that someone is truly with you.

"Resonance" is a term frequently used by today's guest, Sarah Peyton, to describe a way that you can find deep and healing connection with yourself and others.

Sarah is an author and educator of relational neuroscientist, and her conversation with Jay will challenge the way you think about loneliness, shame, human interaction, and self-empathy. When you allow yourself to open up to another person, when you truly connect and feel their presence and your own, you begin to shift your entire perspective on both yourself and the world around you.

In this episode, Sarah talks about:

• Why cortisol is the hormone of loneliness—and what emotion spikes it most
• The difference between resonance, empathy, and compassion
• What it takes to find your internal resonant voice—and what's possible when you speak to yourself in a warm, inviting way
• How you're trained in childhood to either over-attune or emotionally insulate yourself
• How emotional insulation can travel from generation to generation as a learned habit
• Being "known" by others can actually rewire your brain

To learn more about Sarah's work, her writing, and more, visit her website at https://sarahpeyton.com/

And to stay connected with Jay, head over to jaymoonfields.com and follow along on Instagram. If you have a question for the podcast, send it in. You might just hear it on a future episode.

Grab your free copy of The Hey, Wait Phrasebook: 12 Things to Say When You'd Normally Fawn, Freeze, or Fight - https://yourstruly.kit.com/0be0a7d69c

Connect with Sarah Peyton:

• Official Website: https://sarahpeyton.com/
• Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/sarahpeytonauthor/
• 20% Off Sarah's Book "Your Resonant Self": https://wwnorton.com/books/9780393712247?promo=SUMMIT20
• Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/empathybrain/
• Twitter: https://twitter.com/resonantself
• Youtube: https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCPJ_wotaL-ZoZefuLdgEGkQ

Connect with Jay:

• Official Website: https://jaymoonfields.com/
• Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/heywaitwithjay/
• "Yours Truly" Coaching Program: https://jaymoonfields.com/coaching
• Jay Moon Fields' Book "Teaching People Not Poses": https://www.amazon.com/Teaching-People-Not-Poses-Principles/dp/1478326913/
• LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/jaymoonfields

Accepting your humanity means embracing every part of yourself, including your emotions.

The image we often associate with a Navy SEAL is toughness, resilience, and strength. That's what makes today's guest, Jon Macaskill, so compelling. A retired Navy SEAL with 24 years of service, Jon has been through some extraordinary experiences. But instead of using his past as an excuse to close off from his emotions, he has chosen to express them openly and confidently through his widely successful podcast Men Talking Mindfulness.

Jon is a layered and complex person. In this conversation with Jay, you'll have the chance to experience so many different sides of him. He is a warrior, a kind and thoughtful man, a father, a speaker, and someone who knows the value of pausing to reflect. As someone who has worked directly with Jay, Jon is a great example of what it looks like to stop, say "Hey, Wait," and hold space for both your own experience and the experience of others.

In this episode, Jon talks about:

• Lessons learned through the Navy SEALS
• The continued value of practicing mindfulness
• Being "Nice" is not the same as being "Kind"
• Having resilience in yourself starts by having faith in yourself
• You're more confident than you're giving yourself credit for

To learn more about Jon, explore his podcast, work, and offerings at jonmacaskill.com/links.

Grab your free copy of The Hey, Wait Phrasebook: 12 Things to Say When You'd Normally Fawn, Freeze, or Fight - https://yourstruly.kit.com/0be0a7d69c

And To stay connected with Jay, head over to jaymoonfields.com and follow along on Instagram. If you have a question for the podcast, send it in. You might just hear it on a future episode.

Connect with Jon Macaskill:

• Official Website: jonmacaskill.com/links
• Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/mentalkingmindfulness
• "Men Talking Mindfulness" Podcast: https://mentalkingmindfulness.com/
• LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/jonmacaskill

Connect with Jay:

• Official Website: https://jaymoonfields.com/
• Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/heywaitwithjay/
• "Yours Truly" Coaching Program: https://jaymoonfields.com/coaching
• Jay Moon Fields' Book "Teaching People Not Poses": https://www.amazon.com/Teaching-People-Not-Poses-Principles/dp/1478326913/
• LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/jaymoonfields