Quoting from my book: Freeing Yourself from the Narcissist in Your Life: "Narcissists use personal relationships as stepping stones and way stations to success...The high level narcissist surrounds himself(herself) with individuals who act as extensions of himself. He fuses with those who will protect and expand his grandiose sense of self...If luck holds some chosen followers weather the unrelenting rages and demands that spill out of the narcissistic psyche...There is always a time certain when a relationship with a narcissist will come to a close. Followers are discharged when their gilt has faded."

Partners and spouses of the high level narcissist make them look very good. They are often very bright, socially skilled, warm, charming, empathic and individuals of good character. High level narcissists exploit their partners making constant demands that you must be perfect.  Behind closed doors the high level narcissist projects their psychological bile on to you, causing extreme distress, continually criticizing and humiliating you.

There is a time when you awaken the true nature of the exploitive high level narcissist and that you are entitled to separate from these self absorbed, exploitive individuals. 

Now you move forward with daily self care: rest, sleep, eating nourishing food, good hydration, movement and exercise that works for you, a form of spiritual practice that works for you.