Quoting from my book: Freeing Yourself From the Narcissist in Your Life: "Ruthlessness begins with a pervasive insensitivity to the feelings of others. It grows slowly and surely in small, steady almost imperceptible increments. It originates with the quality of the parents' emotional and psychological responses to their child---their unconditional demands for perfection, their chronic detachment and falseness. The mother of the future narcissist is often adoring and possessive but emotionally aloof and highly self centered. "

Deep inside the unconscious of the high level narcissist is the damaged, psychologically empty and hollow real self. 

You are completely different from the high level narcissist. You are genuine and authentic without false selves. You are a person of integrity and a fine character with many creative gifts. You are capable of deep empathy, caring about and being capable of meaningful relationships with other individuals. 

Being partnered with the high level narcissist causes you tremendous stress and keeps you in the fight or flight mode. 

Some individuals decide that they must separate themselves from the high level narcissist and move forward along their own pathways of transformation and evolution. Practice daily self care:

Sleep, rest; nourishing food, good hydration, movement and exercise, your version of meditation that works for you.

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