Tera, Dr. Glenn, and Phyllis explore one of the most foundational elements of human connection: identity. What does it mean to give identity—or to take it away? Through tender personal stories and real-life encounters, they unpack how kindness, often seen as a simple virtue, carries the power to either affirm or strip away someone’s sense of significance. Phyllis introduces the concept of the "identity meter"—a powerful internal gauge that shifts based on whether we're seen, valued, and understood. From social media judgments to a heartfelt moment with a grieving artist, the episode beautifully illustrates how much we long to matter—and how our everyday interactions either feed or deplete that longing. If you’ve ever asked yourself, “Do I matter to them?”, this conversation will resonate deeply.

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Chapters:

• 00:00:00 - What If Identity Could Heal the World?
• 00:01:22 - Is Kindness Actually the Key?
• 00:02:21 - Social Media: Boosting or Breaking Your Identity Meter?
• 00:03:24 - She Left Him… and He Finally Knows Why
• 00:04:37 - The Hidden Definition of Identity in Love
• 00:07:10 - Tiny Acts, Massive Emotional Impact
• 00:08:48 - The Domino Effect of a Single Kind Word
• 00:16:36 - When Faith and Identity Collide
• 00:27:25 - One Greeting. One Shift. One Human Seen.
• 00:28:15 - The Power of Being Noticed—Really Noticed
• 00:29:34 - “Do You Even Know Me Anymore?”
• 00:30:31 - Rebuilding Intimacy, One Small Gesture at a Time
• 00:31:41 - What Happens When We Truly See Someone
• 00:33:05 - Unspoken Needs That Quietly Destroy Connection
• 00:34:58 - From Global Conflict to Family Feuds: It’s All Identity
• 00:36:30 - When Human Connection Becomes a Superpower
• 00:43:48 - The Cost of Feeling Invisible
• 00:43:57 - One Tool to Help You Understand What’s Firing Inside
• 00:50:00 - You’re Not Broken—You Just Need to Be Seen
• 00:53:25 - Your Challenge: Give Identity Today