March 10, 2022

How to be Unbroken; Michael Unbroken

47 minutes

Michael Unbroken is an entrepreneur, coach, podcast host, award-winning speaker, best-selling author, and advocate for adult survivors of childhood trauma. Not so long ago, Michael Unbroken was down and out. One day made the decision to live a new life where he would treat himself with self-love and choose to be the hero of his own story. At his lowest, he was depressed, obese, a drunk, a drug-infused time bomb, a terrible partner, a poor communicator, selfish, and worst of all scared. He was terrified of what it would feel like to be happy and was trapped in a mindset of fear that he had created. His thoughts were irrational and irresponsible but something he was born into and too frightened to turn away from. Now Michael devotes his life to help trauma survivors get unstuck, learn to love themselves, and heal!

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Website: www.ThinkUnbroken.com

Podcast: Think Unbroken Podcast

Book: Think Unbroken: Understanding and Overcoming Childhood Trauma by Michael Anthony

Most Influential Person

Mr.Bush , Senior year Business Teacher

Effect on Emotions

Above all, if I feel anxious, angry, lustful, too happy to adulated, right, knowing that there's this push and pull when you come from this traumatic experience. I need to regulate for a moment, I'm not running from joy or happiness. I'm not running from anger or sadness.

But it can spiral out of control on either side of the spectrum. And so sitting down, breathing, closing my eyes for three minutes, getting present again, if I have to do grabbing a journal or typing myself a note in my texts, like that helps so much. Because when you come from a place of dysregulation, being regulated is one of the most important things that you can do when it comes to your emotional capacity.

Thoughts on Breathing

First, I didn't know that there was a way to breathe wrong. Right? I didn't know that diaphragmatic breathing, as opposed to chest breathing or stomach breathing or filling your lungs fully. I was having 5 time a day anxiety attacks all the time.

At one point, my diaphragm was literally stuck from stress. I was going to massage therapists I was going to body workers, all this stuff. And no joke. It was not until I started forcing my body to take normal breaths. Did that go away? That is to say, breathing is everything like I sit down every day when I put my earbuds in I play like nature sounds or music or storm or whatever. I just breathe for like 10 minutes. That's how to be unbroken.

Suggested Resources

Book: Radical Acceptance: Embracing Your Life With the Heart of a Buddha By Tara Brach

App: Calm

Bullying Story

First, I am bullied as a kid. Second, my stepfather bullied me. Lastly, from my mother. In addition, the kids at school bullied me because I am the poorest kid in the school, my brothers and I had that experience too.

Sometimes I would steal food to survive, I wet the bed, my hygiene was so bad as at times as a child because our water got turned off, our heat would get turned off, our electricity would get turned off.

After that, we got evicted more times than I can even count. I stayed with over 30 different families as a kid. I understand bullying better than most people. Like one time this kid dragged me across this carpet until I had second degree burns on my back.

That changed when I became six foot four, I promise you that. But I am super violent as a kid. As a result, I think that, because I always experienced bullying, I in turn bullied. And that was a love language of communication. Right? You see that happen all the time.

To sum it up, navigating the subconscious and changing your thought patterns and your behavioral patterns around the past, it just carries so much weight. I just don't know how you do that without mindfulness. I don't know how to be unbroken and do that without getting your brain and your body reconnected and re associated.

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