In episode 41, Kayla Lords answers a listener’s question – how do you handle the different roles in your life as a submissive, especially when those roles conflict or cause stress?

In this episode:

* Today’s topic came from a listener who specifically asked about handling the problems and differences that come with being both a submissive and a babygirl.

* As a submissive, we have a lot of roles that conflict: parent, child, employee, co-worker, etc. We can’t always be our submissive self.

* When the stress and pressure of not feeling submissive stress us out, fall back on your D/s relationship. Let your Dominant guide you through it and reset you.

* Single submissives have options for a much needed reset even if they don’t have a Dominant or top to help them out.

* To the specific question asked, yes, there is a difference between being a submissive and a babygirl (or other kinky personas like pets, littles, etc.).

* When being babygirl wins over being a submissive – and it results in a failure to complete a task or do something you’ve been expected to do, Dominants need to dole out consequences.

* You have to give your other persona space to come out and play on a regular basis or, as this babygirl admits, bad things can happen. This is true of anyone, single or in a D/s relationship.

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You’re listening to Loving BDSM podcast: episode 41. Hey, everybody. Kayla Lords here! This week let’s talk about how submissives can, should, and do handle the different parts of our lives. Welcome to the Loving BDSM podcast. If this is your first time listening, glad to have you! If you’re back for another week, welcome back! Loving BDSM is produced every Friday for your kinky pleasure and education and show notes are found at kaylalords.com. Come back often and feel free to add the podcast to your favorite RSS feed or iTunes. If you love what you hear, we’d love a good review on iTunes to help other kinksters find us! You can follow me on Twitter @KaylaLords or stalk John Brownstone at southernsirsplace.com. All links are in the show notes.

No, no John Brownstone this week and possibly not next week, either. But don’t worry, I’ll get him back on as soon as I can. Today, I’m taking a question I received from a listener (shout out to tora princess!) and expanding on it a bit because I think all submissives can relate in some form or fashion.

Her original question was about how to handle the two sides of your kinky life if you’re both submissive and a babygirl, as I am and as tora is. It’s a valid question,