Sexologist Alexa Andre (@sexwithalexa) sits down with Alex Fine, educator, activist, parent and founder of the pleasure-forward brand Dame, to talk about how to find the sex toy that actually works for you—and how to confidently use it, whether you're flying solo or playing with a partner.

Alex shares how Dame is redefining pleasure with intentional, inclusive design, and we get into how to move past shame, communicate your needs, and create sexy experiences that center your pleasure.

Whether you’re new to toys or looking to level up, we’ve got guidance on how to explore in ways that feel exciting, not overwhelming.

✨ In this episode, we cover:

How to choose a toy based on your anatomy and what you like

Tips for using toys with a partner without making it weird or performative

How to bring up toys with a partner if they’re nervous or skeptical

The difference between clitoral, vaginal, anal, and blended stimulation—and toys for each

How to care for your toys so they last (and stay safe to use)

Debunking myths like “you’ll get addicted to your vibrator”

How Dame is shaking up the industry with body-safe, beautifully designed products

The role of design in enhancing your pleasure and creating ease

Masturbation as a form of self-connection and stress relief

Why you don’t have to “fix” anything—pleasure isn’t a performance

Suing the MTA so they could advertise on the subway

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