Connection Codes

How to Stop Resentment from Ruining the Holidays(145)

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Tera and Wes talk about the challenges of staying emotionally connected during the busy and often chaotic holiday season. They openly share moments of guilt, shame, and loneliness, showing how quickly small interactions can turn into emotional disconnect if left unaddressed. They discuss using the Core Emotion Wheel to break cycles of resentment and miscommunication. It’s not about avoiding conflict but recognizing the moments when connection is slipping and choosing to lean in—whether it’s over wrapping gifts, missed cues, or moments of unspoken bitterness. This conversation isn’t about holiday perfection; it’s about showing up for each other, even in the mess.


Links and Resources:

To download the Core Emotion Wheel: https://www.connectioncodes.co/wheel

To enroll in Foundations use the code PODCAST for 20% off: https://www.connectioncodes.co/marriage-course-online

Book a coaching session with Dr. Glenn: ⁠⁠⁠https://www.connectioncodes.co/marriage-help


Chapters:

  • 00:00:00 – When Christmas Hustle Meets Emotional Chaos
  • 00:00:51 – Why Wes is Here (And Why Tera Thinks People Don’t Like Her)
  • 00:02:35 – The Tool That Saves Conversations Before They Explode
  • 00:09:32 – Holiday Stress: Silent Resentment’s Best Friend
  • 00:15:25 – The Moment Connection Feels Like an Uphill Climb
  • 00:16:45 – Guilt and Anger Aren’t Just Gift-Wrapped Feelings
  • 00:17:42 – The Core Emotion Wheel in Real Time
  • 00:18:09 – When Silence Speaks Louder Than Words
  • 00:19:35 – The Fastest Way to Stop Emotional Drift
  • 00:20:40 – Sexual Loneliness: The Emotion No One Talks About
  • 00:25:33 – Small Moments, Big Repairs: Finding Compassion Again
  • 00:26:37 – Staying Connected When the Calendar Feels Impossible
  • 00:30:02 – Joy, Gratitude, and a Holiday Sign-Off
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