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How to Talk About with Your Spouse with Shaunti Feldhahn


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Hey hey! If you’ve ever wondered if you’re normal  regarding what you and your spouse do behind closed doors, this conversation is for you!

Today, my friend Shaunti and I are talking about those things married people do in the bedroom. Before you get bashful and bow out, I promise we will use comfortable language for this often-uncomfortable topic.

This conversation isn’t for little ones but is vital for married couples, and you don’t want to miss out on it! These insights are game-changers

Shaunti has spent years on this intimate kind of research. We are going there today, discussing the questions that are sometimes difficult to ask

Tune in to our conversation as we chat about:

  • Why money and intimacy are so tough to talk about
  • How can we open the conversation, so both spouses feel more comfortable talking about their needs
  • The real reason we all want to know if we’re normal behind closed doors
  • What most couples don’t know about desire
  • I love how Shaunti helps us normalize talking about what matters to us this week. Did you catch her when she joined us to talk about how to find joy and happiness regardless of what’s going on around us?  Listen to that episode here.

    Shaunti Feldhahn is a Harvard-educated social researcher, speaker, and best-selling author of researched-based books, including her most recent, Secrets of and Marriage: 8 Surprises That Make All the Difference. Shaunti and her husband, Jeff, have co-authored several books together, including For Couples Only. They have two children and call Atlanta home. 

    Favorite quotes:

    ~“Those people who could talk about their intimate lives were far more likely to be satisfied with their intimate lives and to be connecting much more often.”

    ~“The key is that you have to talk about what matters to you.”

    ~“One way to get started is to dig into some of those heart issues with your spouse.”

    ~“Whoever has the initiating desire has to recognize your spouse is going to be making a decision based on how they feel about you that day and how close you are.”

    Coaching this week: 

    1. How do I convince my loved ones that coaching is a real and viable business?   (37:41)

    Links to great things we discussed: 

    • Shaunti Feldhahn Website 
  • Shaunti Feldhahn Instagram 
  • Secrets of and Marriage
  • Shaunti’s First Episode
  • Hymn of Heaven
  • The Crown
  • Ghost Fleet 
  • Triple Threat Color Stick
  • I Wanna Dance with Somebody
  • Last of Us
  • The Unbearable Weight of Massive Talent
  • The Coach School
  • Join the Confident Motherhood Community here.

    Hope you loved this episode! Be sure to subscribe in iTunes and slap some stars on a review! :)

    xo,

    Alli

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